Black and white

I cant say Im fully into medfet but I enjoy certain aspects of it. That being said, Im curious. Is it mostly shades of gray for you or black and white like for me? Change one little variable and its eww, nasty! Or is it more like great, Im open to some experimentation? So how open minded are you really? How much can the fantasy vary from your ideal before it is no longer enjoyable?

Interesting question Cherie !

I'll have to say for me personally it's variable .

There are set things that are black and white . I enjoy the way they feel and the response my body has to them . I have always found them pleasurable and I don't think it will ever change because I can't really change the way they are done eg rectal temps or speculum insertions.

Then there are other things that I'll happily experiment with .

I've recently started using E stim. So I'll happily experiment with it whilst I find what feelings I like/ dislike . Once I find what I enjoy and the response my body has to it I then usually want to experiment further . Especially if someone posts or I chat with someone on here and they share their ideas and what works for them . It might not work for me but I'm open to trying.

Anything I haven't tried before I will generally try once . If I hate it I won't even think about trying it again . If I like it then I'll give it another go and usually it then forms part of my play times .

Out of all the medfet things I've experimented with and tried there are things I like to use more than others .I like to vary what I use and how I play .Therefore as of yet I haven't reached a point where something is no longer enjoyable .

Whilst there are some things that would be a "no way" I am also open to the thought that a fetish can develop and there are things I like now which maybe a few years ago I would never have considered. I'm open to trying new things and will say so if it makes me uncomfortable or I just don't enjoy it. I will entertain things that a partner finds pleasureable, even if I don't, as I know they get that pleasure from it. Flexibility is key.

I particularly like the part "Im open to some experimentation". Never know what you might be missing out on. Even so, it's good to know what the topics/ideas actually area about and do a little research beforehand and talk about it being a part of play the next time you are experimenting.

Cherie I would have to say that with most things in life , as Nikki said there are certain things that are definitely black and white . We all have our likes , dislikes and they are usually set with regards to aspects of Medfet. That said there are areas of greys that come into play when experimenting with new aspects of Medfet . As Nikki said what you discover is that sensations, feeling , attitudes change over time and we adapt to keep thing we find pleasurable and discard we don't.

I also believe that also who is involved , their commitment , attitude and support as well as acceptance helps to further merge and grey the boundaries. So as you can see its quiet a fluid experience and ever changing . I know certain aspects have changed over time in my personal life

I would have to agree with you when you said change one variable and it may go from being pleasurable or accepted to not, as with all things in life be it a fetish/kink or not. Experimenting can be a method to try out new experiences or keep adding to the experience of your particular fetish/kink. As with everything in life , things become boring and dull if we repeat the same sequence , a bit of variety keeps the spice and intrigue alive , be it with new positions, implements, duration , sensitivity , pressure etc.

One important factor to consider , take note of , is fantasy and reality rarely live up to the expectation, the hype. With the term fantasy we often imagine a wondrous, extravagant, unrestrained with imaginative conceptualizing. So by it's nature it tends to idealize a concept which is unattainable by its very nature. That said once you accept this limitation, there is no reason why you can't have a wonderful, enjoyable and satisfying reality .

Hope this helps answer some of you concerns Cherie, but whereas fetish/kinks are concerned don't over complicate or overthink things , just enjoy and accept the experience and you will find your own "grayness" in amongst the "black and white".

RN

Wow,super cool question.

I have found through experience that while there is a black and white when comes to limits on how far one wants to go with kinks.

When it comes to what is said it used to kill the mood completely if the wrong thing was said during a game,or in a moment of normal passion so to speak,but its not always his fault if he says the wrong thing,and as we get to know each other better as every day goes on it happens less and less.

I will always enjoy my in my head fantasy games as they are always perfect.and I can also bring in what we have played and mix it with fantasy,

Its just so cool.

Peace. Caz

I don't like needles. I don't like having my breathing messed with.

I do like being naked on the exam table. I do like being probed and poked while on the table.

I have pretty much black and white areas. But since I don't know much there could be gray places hiding I didn't know about.