How to know im spanking too hard

Theres a girl ive started meeting regularly to enourage her with her college work she'll say anything to try and get away i have to hold her arms to keep her from reaching back even with just a few smacks she always cries a lot every time but im worried im too hard on her sometimes how can i tell when i ask her she always says it hurts too much but thats impossible shes just whining with some of the light spankings ive given her

For many people, part of the fun of spanking is resisting and complaining. I do not know anything about this woman, so I believe you might be doing everything right. If you did something wrong, she probably would not let you do this at all anymore. But there is some technical information to consider. Have you seen any of the information on this diagram?

http://i.imgur.com/rfuxHn0.jpg

In case the link does not work, it says NEVER spank above the peak of the buttocks or you could damage the kidneys and coccyx tailbone. The skin just under the buttocks and upper thighs is the most sensitive area. So you want to focus mostly on the buttocks themselves and only strike below them about 1/4 of the time.

Another idea is warm up. I have read that you need to massage the buttocks for a while, then start out with very light taps. This helps circulation and makes the spanking more pleasurable.

If you check out amazon, or even a bookstore's sexual wellness type section, you will find many guide books on BDSM and spanking. That way you can make sure you are doing everything in the most correct and pleasurably intense way possible. That is what people need more of, how-to guides that give you the facts, not misleading erotic fiction!

Just how does spanking her "encourage her with her college work"? That is a disconnect for me.

If she wants you to spank her, that has nothing to do with her school work.

If she doesn't come back, perhaps you spanked her too hard. If she files an assault complaint against you then you probably spanked her too hard. If this is indeed all fun and games, get a signed consent form from her to protect yourself.

The NCSF organization has a lot of information regarding the legalities involving BDSM. Just a FYI, a signed consent from a person consenting to spankings will NOT provide legal protection in a court of law for the spanker. Always use a safeword when spanking and follow up frequently with the spankee. Attitudes are changing, in some ways, but if you have questions about bdsm and certain legalities, do not hesitate to notify the NCSF(National Coalition for Sexual Freedom). Their motto is CONSENT COUNTS. They are working to change the laws regarding consent in bdsm, but so far it is a slow process. There have been no courts in any state that have upheld consent as a defense in regard to assault charges. BDSM is prosecuted as assault in the U.S. even when it is consensual between adults. If police file assault charges in cases of bdsm, no amount of arguing with the legal egales will change their minds. There are still a lot of closed minded and ignorant people in positions of power and it is going to be a tough road to change some of these attitudes and ignorance. Many BDSM groups in US cities are reaching out to try and educate and enlighten the police, lawyers and judges regarding this subject and often there are legal and law enforcement personnel that are actively involved and participate with these groups in these activities. The gay communities fought for years to gain their rights, and the fetish community has now begun their own journey to fight for their rights , also.

HTTPS://ncsfreedom.org

Ellie, don't you know about capitals and punctuation? That is just one run on sentence. Sorry but my mom was an English teacher.

Ellie, don't you know about capitals and punctuation? That is just one run on sentence. Sorry but my mom was an English teacher.

Some people actually went to class to learn how to put their thoughts down on paper in an organized manner while others are simply too lazy to do it properly and still others think bad grammar or their own personalized style is cool. It isn't.

Lol liquidsky and Susie. I was just thinking how she needs to quit worrying about her spanking partner getting through college and worry about getting herself educated.

Some people actually went to class to learn how to put their thoughts down on paper in an organized manner while others are simply too lazy to do it properly and still others think bad grammar or their own personalized style is cool. It isn't.

And all this time I thought that I was the only one that can't stand bad grammar or the lack of punctuation. Worse than run-on sentences is sentences without paragraphs. That drives me crazy.

Grammer and puncteation police here 🙄

GRAMMAR and PUNCTUATION 😁

~Cookie 😎

🙄 i 'am sorry plz dont put me in english class jail.

*I'm sorry , please don't put me in jail.

😁

Brrrrrr, *arrested* lol

Aside from the massive run-on sentence and lack of punctuation, the advice was sound. Implement the use of a safe word so that when this young lady has had too much, there is a previously agreed way to let you know. Seems rather elementary to me.

If she keeps coming back, it's not too hard.

Next time threaten her with harder strokes and you will a marked improvement.