Finger going in during prostate/rectal exam

Had one a few years ago and first was surprised the doc asked me if it was ok for him to check my prostate, then was even more surprised how rough and fast his technique was. I was sore afterwards. Had another one since and that time he told me, rather than asked, then was much gentler and slower. Same doc but very different experience.

Most of my rectal exams have been similar in that the doctor's finger goes in gently and is usually in and out in quickly. But my first rectal exam was not only a surprise because I wasn't expecting it but was also kind of rough. I wasn't old enough that the doctor was checking my prostate so this was a true rectal exam only. The doctor even said before he did it that "I need to examine your rectum" even though I had no idea what he meant.

Anyway, he really forced his finger in hard, enough to make me gasp and him to tell me that I should breathe through my mouth which was his way of trying to distract me I guess. Once in, he twisted his finger all the way around and then slowly pulled it out. It was shocking at the time because it was so unexpected and maybe because it was unexpected it was felt really rough. I saw that same doctor several years later for another physical and it was about the same when it came to the rectal. His technique was just rough both times. I remember being sore for a few hours later. Not in pain but definitely sore.

For both of those exams, I was in my 20s so my anal sphincter maybe was extra tight although it could just have been his aggressive rectal exam technique too. I had a doctor a few years ago make that comment when he was doing a prostate exam. He actually said, "your sphincter is really tight" almost like it was a complaint or that I could do something about that. Telling a patient to relax when you are sticking your finger up their rear seems really pointless to me.

Since this is unfortunately the second post noting pain, shock connected to a first prostate exam, admittedly gay here, men might try it at home, under 'get to know your sphincter muscle.' Use prep-h as the lube, a small amount on the finger. You can sit on the toilet and reach from below, or any position giving you easy access. First: just touch around. No insertion. Make the brain to sphincter connection. Second: with a finger on which the nail is short, gently press inward. Repeat. You are not trying to shove anything all the way in. Third: brain to sphincter: relax; press slowly, gently, but inward. Move the finger in and out. Fourth: send the signal to open up, 'Spread em.' You want an opening larger than the one allowing a finger.

Again, this will make a prostate exam a slam dunk unless slammed by a doctor with no warning or lube.

I've had rectal exams both as part of medical examinations and also as a result of presenting with complaints. I have found that doctor's do differ in their approach and "style" of rectal exam execution. One thing I have noticed is the speed at which they strive to perform the procedure from the moment they announce to you they will need to a rectal exam to its conclusion is very quick. I guess though this is all part of their training to not leave their patients exposed for any great length of time, I think doctors also assume most of their patients are dying of embarrassment and find the experience uncomfortable.

For me in my experiences I've had a rectal exam where the doctor told me to to remove all my clothes below the waist and hop up on my left hand side. The curtain was pulled around me then. While I was preparing myself I could hear the snap of gloves. I was asked was I ready, I replied yes. She maneuvered around the edge of the curtain, which I thought was funny as there was nobody else present. She asked me to bring my knees as high to my chest as possible. She looked without touching me and then said, ok i'm quickly going to insert a finger. She inserted and removed it so fast, but it was the smoothest and most comfortable insertion of my life. Once removed she shimmied around the curtain again and said you can dress now.

Another experiences i have had differ again. Another time I was asked to repeat the same procedure, except I could keep my pants on, just pulled down. The doctor was not concerned by the height my knees where raised. They were happy to lift a cheek with one hand. The doctor then applied jelly to my anus in 2-3 strokes and paused on the opening for a second she then every slowly inserted a finger. The removal was very fast however.

I had my "annual" physical a couple of weeks ago and it was yet another first time with a female doctor. I use a medical group that has different offices and my last two doctors moved to a different office after I'd seen them for a few years. At my age I've lost count of how many rectal exams I've had, but this one was memorable. It was done with me bent over the end of the examination table after a standing testicular exam and hernia check. Before she positioned me, I watched as she squeezed quite a bit of lubricant onto a paper towel on the little movable table that is always near the end of the exam table.

That's when I realized that she had fairly large fingers for a woman. When she started, I felt what seemed like a massive amount of lube being applied, and then the entry was a shock. I've been examined by a number of male doctors, and this was the most uncomfortable digital penetration I can remember, except for the exam that was done by a surgeon who did one of my hernia repairs.

I don't really specifically remember having to wipe off the excess lubricant before but this time it was a bit of a task. Fortunately the doctor left the room right away after she'd had her way with me lol.

Other than a nurse inserting a suppository, that I discussed earlier in this thread, I've only had two prostate exams, both by the same male family doctor. Both were gentle and neither one was even close to being rough or painful, but both did feel very different from one another.

The first one was a complete surprise, so maybe I was just in shock and didn't register any feelings I was having at the moment. After spreading my cheeks and looking awhile, he told me, "This might feel a bit cold". So the cold of the lube on my butthole is all I remember feeling. There was no pressure or tingles, nothing good or bad. I barely felt his finger going in or out. I'm pretty sure that he did not rotate his finger around 360 like some have mentioned, but I felt no movement while he was in there at all.

The second, most recent experience, was more... memorable, I guess is the word. Just as he is placing his finger and starting to insert it he says, "Ok. This is just gonna be a little on the uh, uncomfortable side...". So as he is telling me it's going to be uncomfortable, I could actually feel his finger slowly going inside if me. I remember being completely surprised by the feeling since I did not experience that at all the first time. As soon as his finger stopped moving forward is when the intense pressure started building up deep inside me. When the pressure seemed to reach its maximum is when the tingling in the head of my penis started. My head was spinning, I had read about these feelings, but had my doubts whether they were accurate or not. I was aware of his finger slightly moving side to side, but am sure he did not rotate it 360. He was strictly "checking my prostate", as he put it to initiate this exam. Just as slowly as he inserted his finger, he pulled out of me and the pressure and tingling was replaced with a mild burning feeling that gradually faded away. He was only inside of me for 10-15 seconds, but it's a memory I'll have for a lifetime.

I've had lots of prostate exams - none were painful, none were embarrassing, none were erotic. I've had lots of bigger things than a Dr's finger up by butt. Don't need more than a sentence or two to describe the clinical aspects of it - erotic aspects were shared with my wife.

As a nurse I have seen quite few rectal digital exams being performed on both sexes. I do get now and again exited while male doctor performs these exam on male. I also witnesses different techniques how differnt doctors perform it. Some are very gentle, other do it in rush. I do feel sorry for patient when doctor is not being gentle.

Besides several fingers in me for play....all of which were fun as intended, ive had several fingers in me medically, first was in my teens when i was taken to hospital with severe stomach pains, and a dr checked me there without issue, then nothing more until a few years ago when papers, tv and ads in drs etc, saying about prostate cancer and the need to get it checked out, so i made a drs appointment, and to my delight saw a woman dr, wasnt a good experience, she rammed a finger in and prodded away very painfully !

Then ended in hospital for further tests....this time a woman again, have mentioned this part here somewhere else....she was very attractive and gentle, and she also checked my balls, general thoughts were that nothing much was wrong, apart from some enlargement.

There was a retest a few weeks later also by a woman, though a different one, now she was also gentle, but she touched something, with maybe a finger nail, and i reckon a couple of more times of that and id have cum.............but hey.

I now think as much fun and excitement is to be had while the person is preparing, putting on gloves, opening vaseline etc and telling me what they are about to do, and then more fun doing it, and i now think its also more fun to have a finger wriggling around just inside my anus , as full on prostate massage, but ive not given up on that just yet !

The first time was complete shock and unfamiliarity with the procedure and how it would feel. I don't recall saying anything but surely did gasp and clench as the finger pressed in and twirled. In some sense, this marked an important time suggesting I was now a man getting my prostate exam. For the time that the exam occurred, I had lost track of being naked and spread over the table. Afterwards the lingering feeling of the KY was a reminder and still is though there is no shock at having it done anymore.

There is self consciousness as I take whatever position the doctor has me assume and that moment when I feel him trace my anus. There is a slight delay once I spread wide. It's enough time for me to focus on my anus and anticipate. Sometimes I will close my eyes as he examines or look at something on his wall. It's followed by the wiggle of his finger as he presses in and pushes up before I feel the base of his knuckles against my cheeks. Twists left then right and pushes up before finger slips out. There is that gentle sound as the finger escapes my anus followed by the Ky residue. Sometimes he will then do a hernia exam if he hasn't performed one before the prostate exam. Then I am very self conscious!

I once told a doctor "If a top stuck his finger in the way you did I would have slapped him and gone home. There is no reason to make it painful. That felt like a violation." He tried to explain that it's uncomfortable for everyone and I'm sure it is the way he did it. I had to tell his older gentleman that I've had more fingers up there recreationally than medically, and in fact his finger wouldn't be the only one that day because I had a hookup later. I offered to give him some advice and by this point he just let me. I never saw him again, so I don't know if he took it.

(FWIW: Pad of the finger on the anus, push a little bit, you'll feel it relax and then you go in. This isn't rocket science.)

It's varied from doctor to doctor. The first time I had it done it was a female nurse practitioner. She new that I was very nervous and had never had it done before. She explained everything before she did anything. Then when she was done with the visual exam she stepped up beside me and said she was going to do the rectal exam She held out her hand with her forefinger sticking out and said she was going to touch me and count to three and just go fast then she jabbed her finger in the air as if to show me. I watched her lube her finger and when she got back behind me that is exactly what she did. Touched me and counted to three.

One other doctor went into great detail telling me exactly how he wanted me positioned and then went on to explain that he had very large fingers and he would lubricate me first with his finger. Then he would go slow. He then explained that it would make it better for me and be easier on me. He then held me down on the table with his free hand and did the exam telling me what he was doing as he went.

The doctor I see doesn't say anything when he is done with the genital exam he tells me to lay down on my side and doesn't say anymore until he is done. I just know when he touches me with his lubed finger what is going to happen immediately next.

Any doctor who isnt gentle with me simply doesnt get his finger back

As a nurse I have seen quite few rectal digital exams being performed on both sexes. I do get now and again exited while male doctor performs these exam on male. I also witnesses different techniques how differnt doctors perform it. Some are very gentle, other do it in rush. I do feel sorry for patient when doctor is not being gentle.

I’ve had several over the years from both male and female doctors. None were painful, none were embarrassing, none were pleasant.

My current urologist is very gentle and eases his finger in. I will be going to a female urologist in July and I'm wondering if it will be a different experience

My PCP isn't rough at all, just very quick. I've thought of saying, "Doc, if you'd slow down a little I might have time to enjoy it", but since my anal eroticism hasn't been mentioned in the 25 years he's been my doctor, it's probably too late now. Never had any discomfort from his DREs, just no pleasure.

I have a urologist appointment sometime in the near future and the PA is a delightfully cute little rascal. I'm really hoping she does a DRE.

I've had a few different doctors perform rectal exams on me. Each one was similar, I was warned I'll feel a cool gel then the fingers get inserted.

In and out quick

I've had, I would estimate, around five rectal exams in all in the course of my lifetime, my first at 12 and my last at 48. The first three were in Sims position; the last two were bent over the examining table. The first three were GI-related (diagnosing appendicitis, IBS, etc); the last two were prostate exams by a urologist. I honestly can't think of any major differences between the five beyond position and context. I do recall the first, at age 12, lasting the longest. The doctor kept inserting his finger deeper and deeper into my rectum and asking each time, "does it hurt?" (In other words, are you feeling acute pain in the area of your appendix?) But, honestly, I was in a deep state of shock, having received next to no explanation of what, exactly, the doctor was doing, in a way that would likely be considered malpractice today. The second DRE happened at 16, when I was having all sorts of digestive issues and they wanted to determine if I had some kind of inflammatory bowel disease. What I remember most about that one is that I felt I was about to poop right on the examining table. I've never experienced that kind of (illusory) fecal urgency in the way same before or since. But most of the time they've just felt very in-and-out. Quick.

In and out quick

Not to be disparaging or anything, but if a rectal exam is in and out quickly, what can a doctor assess in so short a time?

I saw a doctor for hemorrhoid issues. He was very gentle inserting finger to lube and then anoscope. The second visit hurt more because things were still healing from the first visit.

All the play doctors I have had have been slow and gentle which is what I try to do when I’m examining a play patient.

The last DRE I had was several years ago, performed by my PCP who was an internist. He first pressed the pad of his lubricated finger against my anal opening and paused momentarily, then slowly pushed his finger fully into my rectum. I cannot fault his technique, but I embarrassed myself. As he pushed his finger up into me, I emitted an involuntary noise that was, or could easily have been interpreted as, a sound of pleasure.

My doctor is very gentle when he examines my prostate. He uses lots of lube and inserts his finger slowly and gently. Not painful at all really.

A urologist told me I was going to feel some pressure as he slowly inserted his middle finger into my rectum. I felt self conscious being prone on my back and the doctor helping me place my feet flat on the table. I flinched a little, but the exam was a pretty brief, though at the moment felt a few seconds longer.

Had a DRE by a male urologist then the young female student doctor he had assisting him got to administer one also as he made sure she was performing the procedure properly.

@OverRainbow I would like that to happen to me at my next urologist visit!

I have a female Doctor. With her DRE exams, she is always gentle and I never feel any discomfort at all. Prior to the exam, she always asks if I would like a nurse present. Of course I say "no" as she IS a doctor. She is a fantastic Doctor and completely follows through on any problems until they are solved.

Many years ago during a regular visit to my youngish lady GP she thought I should be checked for an enlarged prostate. After removong the lower half of my clothing she had me lay on my left side on her couch she instereted her gloved finger. To save any embarassment as the insertion progressedI remember her saying "us women have to put up with far worse than this". She did indeed find an enlarged prostate and referred me to a cosultant whose subsiquent examination was much more formal and not so pleasant.

It was nearly 40 years ago, and I may be wrong, but I think that during the digital rectal exam I received as a kid for confirmation of appendicitis, the lubricated finger was pushed in a swift motion after asking me to push like pooping. I don't recall any discomfort during penetration, I even recall my surprise that such a thing could be possible so easily. (Of course when the appendix was pressed on it was painful but that's a different issue.)