Why do some people crave punishments?

I wouldn’t say I crave punishments, but I was caned at school, and slippered in P.E. and I do occasionally wonder what it would be like to relive that

I'm a longtime enthusiastic switch. For other life reasons very confused about many things right now but also including "punishments." Other than very light spanks really don't crave punishments but do thoroughly enjoy being very submissive and controlled and "humiliated" by the right switch Domme, some of whom I've been lucky enough to have as exes. This includes very light spanking but mostly anal manipulation, large long enemas and confinement or bondage in rubber clothes and (largely rubber) sneakers. More if I think of it but I think at it's core it turns me on to know I have someone who is willing to put me through something I enjoy like enemas and rubber and bondage and submission long and hard enough to make me sexually and emotionally satisfied and orgasm at their insistence. In other words it makes me feel satisfied somehow and really loved at a certain level. IOW, "I'm dominating you and enema'ing you and rubbering you and sneakering you and binding you no matter how much and how long it takes to show you I love you and want you sexually satisfied and that I'm not turned off by your (my) kinks." That satisfaction is what I want and need. The physical sensations of sneakers, enemas, rubber, bondage and sexual tension and orgasm are almost just a pleasant side effect. Now the accompanying "pain" or stressful sensations of enema filling and pressure and need to evacuate, light/medium spanks, rubber tightness and sweating, bondage restriction and humiliation at being controlled might constitute the elements of "punishment" of sorts, they are enjoyable and the sensations I crave on the way to control and sexual release. Make sense to anyone else?

Eric

So if a Domme wants to zip me into complete encasement in tight rubber and heavy sneakers and then fill my rear with a fat rubber enema balloon followed by enema and make me endure the rubber and sweating and filling and pressure for a couple of hours until I orgasm, I'll gladly endure the "punishment" in order to experience the pleasure of the same sensations followed by orgasm. Some moderate spanking in that scenario would go along nicely. The feelings of complete submission and humiliation are exquisite too and really enhance the tension and orgasm and satisfaction.

Eric

Eric,

VERY well said.

My cravings are similar although not the same. Being under control of someone who both understands my kinks, and has similar or compatible kinks.. if there is "punishment" on the way there, I'll endure it both because it heightens the senses and to show the woman I'm submitting to that I will endure the pain and punishment to show my devotion. I crave being able to show Her that devotion, and in that context spanking or other physical punishment adds to the intensity of my feelings as I experience the scene.

Outside of that context punishment does nothing for me. I'm dominant in my daytime job / "real life". I'm also very particular to whom I submit to, and in the context of that submission I expect it to be very real. Whether I'm being punished (and it better be for some legitimate transgression... dog knows I make enough of them, and SOMEBODY I know actually keeps score!) or I'm the one doing the punishing, it's got to be REAL.

I'll take the pain. Your inflicting pain for punishment shows me you love me. I'll endure it for you. It makes the reward for enduring your punishment all that much sweeter..

Doc

Doc,

I'm just curious as I never asked before. Apart from spanking, which you mention here, what are your particular cravings, other than submission to the right woman as you mention? Other than being sub a lot as a switch, mine are primarily rubber, sneakers, anal play, enemas, light bondage and D/s. Other than light/moderate spanking sometimes and the sensations from large long enemas, I really have no interest in "punishment" that actually involves pain. I do however really enjoy the intensity of various submissive activities like sweating under rubber, bondage, and the water pressure/humiliation from forced large volume enemas held for a long time while doing other things while holding. As I mentioned, a lot of the satisfaction comes from having a Domme partner who will enjoy subjecting me to these things intensely and long enough on a given evening to overcome my ED and dysorgasmia. Fortunately, with the right stimulus I can still usually climax after years of AD meds and advancing age.

Eric

This is a note I wrote to a friend of mine yesterday when this subject(Why do some people crave punishment?) I crave true punishment but hate it when it is happening. I am made ejaculate just prior to being punished, which takes all the pleasure out of a spanking, making it the real thing.

I have no idea why I subject my ass to these painful and non pleasurable spankings, canings, whippings and strappings. When the time comes for my ass to truly suffer I will try to distract the spanker but if that fails the I willingly submit either by just presenting my ass or submit to the bondage that makes it impossible to do anything about what is to befall my hindquarters or other parts. God, I hate this happing to me but I submit to it willingly and most of the time not even restrained.

As I start thinking about this happening a week or so ahead of time I am sexual stimulated by the dread and though of what is to happen. This continues until that last spurt of the ejaculation prior the spanking, then I want nothing to do with it, but I accept it. After it is over I feel a sense of relief and relaxation as if a burden has been lifted. This lasts a week or two then I am faced with the prospect of this happing all over again. By now all the people who spank me know of the strange fetish I have for undergoing this real suffering.

It has only been four days but I am contacting another of my spankers for a session later next week. I have a pardon thinking about what is to happen and what just happened 4 days ago.

Rob

It has only been four days but I am contacting another of my spankers for a session later next week. I have a pardon thinking about what is to happen and what just happened 4 days ago.

A very interesting and apparently honest perspective from your end. I bet many professional researchers haven't always interviewed such open and honest subjects as you.

Here's a thought about the dread and desire being all mixed up: perhaps what you really have is an imagination fetish. It isn't the actual doing that you crave as it seems to be set up to drain desire prior to the spanking being applied. But what you like most of all is the memory and/or the anticipation.

I totally crave punishment. Have tried punishment on myself. That got me nowhere! My husband is vanilla, so I don't know where or how I want this progress.

I totally crave punishment. Have tried punishment on myself. That got me nowhere! My husband is vanilla, so I don't know where or how I want this progress.

What kind do you want and why? Is it arousing to you?

For me it started just before puberty. Winter & snow on the ground I was about 13-14 walking home from school when I saw a neighbor girl with another girl about 16-17 on the front steps of her house. Instinctively I made a snow ball & threw it at her, hitting her. She ran to me and slapped my face with her friend watching. Very soon after this I knew I would want spankings from a girl friend >wife, as thinking about it got me hot and hard! I bought a souvenir paddle & handed it to my girl friend after we were living together for perhaps a year, & asked her to spank me as foreplay... etc, She took to spanking me like a duck to water! ( Soon found the spanking me got her WET as well!) VERY soon after my 1st spanking from her we were married! On our honeymoon she spanked me while I was on a bed on my stomach, till I ejaculated, I almost wish that she did not stop at this point, but continued as a much harder punishment REAL spanking! Just about 45 years of foreplay AND punishment spankings always looking forward to either one. Most of my punishment spankings are not long or severe (unfortunately!) I have only have about 12 severe REAL spankings from MY Bath brush that left me feeling like each one was my first REAL spanking, So YES I do crave spankings even the ones that last till well after i can no longer beg or plead understandably!

And I must add that i love it when my wife tells me " Yes you have been a good boy, but I am still going to spank you, because I can and want to'!!! All my resisting & trying to be macho melts away in an instant!

I love being held in position also, the diaper position is a favorite memory, legs held above my head & having no choice to do anything but watch my spanking.

Another is when restrains me by sitting on my back for my bath brush punishment spankings, very much spankings i will not forget.

Will always wish she would put me over one knee, with her other leg over my legs, locking her ankles together, firmly holding my right arm behind my back & brushing my poor bottom till well after i can no longer beg or plead understandably!

Having someone in control around you is a very natural feeling for many people. Even those “alpha” types need to relinquish control once in a while. What better a way to do this than have someone have you stand beside them while they undo your pants, pull them and your undies down below your knees, and then haul you over their knee and administer a good spanking to you bared bottom?

In going through this you give complete control to your spanker, and for a few minutes, even the most in control person feels a type of relief to have someone else in charge to that degree. I’m sure there are other reasons, but I do believe this is a central one for most who want to be punished.

Having read the original post. If only I knew !!!

I don't! 🙄

I witnessed a female playmate get spanked bare bottom when I was around 12.She was 10. We were at her house for dinner. She became bratty and her mom pulled a spatula from a drawer. She began to whimper as her mom took her pants down and applied the spanking in full view of me.

I didn’t know why, but I thought what if it were me. It was both scary and exciting. I began to fantasize about being spanked. I continued the fantasy for 50 years before being able to experience a spanking. Exciting, but also such a feeling of relief and contentment afterwards. So I continue to get myself spanked( and given enemas)by a mistress. The line between pain and pleasure is very thin.

Ever since I saw a Saint Andrew's Cross or similar ways to be tied-up, I crave it. Even hogtied.

I am married but not to a sadist and won't spank me etc.

I knew of a men only sadistic club but i was too afraid to do it alone.

I may not have mentioned that I took my Mrs. to a dungeon party....she didnt freak out but nor did she consider it. It was there where I saw such implements of fun.

Enemas on the side would make a good crossover.

I am a newbie too but please don't let my age get in the way. If you're in Colorado, message me please.