How to bring up spanking

Its been a huge turn on for me since i was a teenager ive always spanked myself for pleasure and for punishment just harder but ive never been able to tell a boyfriend i get too nervous what if he doesnt get it and thinks im a freak so ive just kept it to myself but now im engaged i feel he should know but i cant tell him i lose the words and what if he gets upset that i never told him or just thinks its really weird

You won't lose anything by letting him know. It depends on the guy, but most guys are open to exploring their girlfriend's kinks. You never know, he just might be into it too. If he isn't, then maybe he can be taught to like it. In relationships, i think simple kinks like this, are good to be honest about upfront.

To make it easier for you, try and find out what he's into. That way when you tell him about your kink, it should go much smoothly.

Tell him and if he doesn't understand explain it and if not still perhaps he is not the right one for you

I once was dating an older woman who was pretty much open anything I dreamed up -- erotic enemas, anal play, anal sex etc.

When I announced one evening that I was going to spank her bare bottom after her enemas, she got panicky.

I laid her naked on my long bathroom vanity with her lovely ass hanging over the edge of the basin and proceeded to shave her vulva bare before starting her three colon tube high enemas.

After the last enema, I put her back on the vanity and gently washed and dried her bottom.

I let her down and lead her into my living room and put her across my knee and a started a mild, slow hand spanking.

I alternated cheek to cheek with the intention of simply warming her shapely firm cheeks before fucking her silly.

I was lightly spanking, rubbing and massaging her ass and enjoying the view and sensations when she said, "Harder."

I upped the severity and speed of the strokes. She arched her back, let out a squeal and squirted all over my legs, rigid dick and sofa.

As her breaths came in gasps, I reached for her juices, lubed two fingers and easily slid them into her rectum where she immediately squirted again.

The rest of the time we dated, she never hesitated when I told her I was going to spank her.

This is a tough decision. He could become interested or try and burn you at the stake for being "weird". See if you can do something to get it started like smack him on his bottom. See how he responds

Take charge.

You don’t bring it up; you just do it.

Not liking it and being shocked at first is an almost sure sign it will be more deeply appreciated at some point in the near future.

If it’s liked immediately, it’s smooth spanking from there on out.

Again- don’t ask; just do.

Whenever I'm about to give a patient an enema, I warn he or she that I will not tolerate bad language as the enema is being administered. If I hear the a word, b word, c word, d word, or f word, I will immediately stop the enema and administer a hard slap onto the patient's bare bottom. This is my way of determining if the patient really wants to be spanked or not when getting an enema.

I would start a conversation by asking if he was ever spanked growing up. You should be able to Gage his response.

Do something a little naughty and when he says something say ‘maybe you should spank me’ playfully

So you are afraid boyfriends will not want anything to do with you if you let them know you are kinky? My advise is to begin finding boyfriends in other places. Get on some spanking related sites and see who you can find in your area. Yes, you have to be careful, but you can find the someone you are seeking.

Just in case anyone hasn't noticed, the OP has not been here for 9 years...