Introducing spanking

When you and your partner decide on giving "spanking" a try, do you first discuss limits?

It was a long time ago when we first started spanking but not really knowing what to expect we decided on the three light (green, yellow and red) system to let the giver know what the spankee was feeling. It worked for other things so why not spanking. Works there too.

My second wife (we are still married) and I had been married about 5 years. One day we we visiting my parents along with our two young sons. After dinner the boys wanted to stay overnight at their grandparents house so we were driving home alone and decided to stop and have a couple drinks. After two or three cocktails my wife, out of the clear blue sky, tells me she wants me to tie her up and spank her when we get home. We had a good sex life but the subject of spanking never had come up before. When we started seriously dating we agreed we would never ask each other about our prior sex lives, so I just surmised she had experienced some bondage and spankings in the past. I was extremely turned on by the subject and couldn't wait to get home. We had to improvise with whatever we could find for restraints and before long I had her naked and tied to the four bed posts. I asked her what I should use for her spanking and she told me to be creative and use whatever I wanted. I looked in our closet and decided on one of her wide leather belts. I started very slow and gentle and took time every few strokes to rub her ass. I think I had the hardest erection I had ever had. She asked me to spank a little harder and said she would tell me when it was too hard. I did as she asked and her bottom was turning bright red. Finally she said that was enough and I rubbed her ass before diving into it face first. After she had a good climax I fucked her while she was still tied up and came like never before. 35 years later we still enjoy similar sessions, just not as often as before-and sometimes, much to my pleasure, I am on the receiving end

That's really hot glenintem!!!

I was first introduced to spanking by my first wife. She would often say a little pain before sex is like a fine sauce to a great meal. One day she wanted me to get a dozen saplings from the bare trees. Silly me thought she was doing a floral arrangement. She instructed me that she wanted me to whip her bare ass with them. I took several and proceeded to whip her. She stopped me and said I see you don't know how to do this. "Pull down your pants and I will show you" She proceeded to whip me for what seemed like forever. It hurt, it stung, I asked her to stop, her reply I am just getting started. The whipping went on and I could feel a change come over me. The lashes actually felt good, the pain stopped. I was excited that I was getting the thrashing of my life. She continued till I cried. When she stopped she said I hope you learned something from that. This is the last time I will ever do it to you.

A safe word or limit was never discussed. It became routine that I would whip, paddle or spank her before sex, then quickly have sex with her. She told me that I have become a lot better lover and thanked me. This was also my introduction to D/s. I found I could do anything I wanted with her and if she objected I spanked her. Too bad she revived an old Heroin habit, she is to his day one of my hottest lovers.

For me this was a really hard subject to bring up caus both my wife an I are military so it's not like we grew up close or even had the same up bringing where I grew up getting my ass handed to me she has never been spanked when I brought it up she was like I don't get it why but she tried but she still doesn't get it every time I bring it up now it's like playing 101 questions what do u want me to do why does this turn u on who did this to you to make u like this it's like wtf women just never mind so yea it's a hard subject to bring up

When I met my Daddy, I didn’t know he would become my Daddy. We became friends first, and with time, he would speak up if I did something he felt was unsafe. I remember he found out that I ran out of fuel on my way home from work, and I was working swing-shift. He told me he needed to pull down my pants and panties, to spank my bare bottom for doing something so careless and dangerous. I didn’t want him to spank me but he explained why it was necessary, and a natural kind of consequence and before I knew it, he had me convinced It was something I needed. I am a ‘little’ and I knew it but at the same time, I couldn‘t explain it … nor understand it. Daddy somehow knew it, too; and he helped me to understand me.

Long story short … my Daddy was a Daddy to my ‘little’. He was strict and firm while he was fair. He was able to raise the ‘little’ me with love by being nurturing, and teaching me with discipline, consequences and sometimes punishment (which always was a bare bottom, over the knee spanking). I learned to be respectful at all times, obedient, and equally as loving as he was with me. Before long, Daddy and I became the perfect Daddy-‘little’ pair. We fit together like two pieces of the same puzzle. It just happened, effortlessly and naturally. There really was no need to discuss it because by this time, I trusted my Daddy or I would have vanished. He spanked me to help me learn and grow. It was his decision when I needed or deserved a spanking, and he spanked me until he felt I had ‘learned my lesson’. It was the best fifteen years of my life … and then he passed away.

No I just handed my wife to be a paddle & she got wet and I got hard, for foreplay spankings.

For punishment spankings still no limits, she decides when i have been spanked enough 😃

Some people love a red hot ass and others none at all.In my first enema session the lady mentioned her mom paddled her when she wouldn't take her enema. I brought one the next time and gave her a few swats. She went ballistic. It was a new experience for both. The key is to go slow and find out what the limits are. Once you know then there are no surprises. Have a safe word if necessary.