Male and Female enemas

It seems difficult enough for most men who are married (partnered) to get their partner to share the healthy and sensual aspects of enemas, but as a single man, I have never been able to find a female who was interested in learning or sharing enemas. Wondering why that is ? Men seem more interested than women. Is it that I just do not know the right site or method. Anyone have any ideas. Von

I kinda think this view is skewed. I'm certain there are ladies out there who are just as interested as men. I use the example of ladies making belly distention videos for us to watch. Most pr0n is one sided as well. Ladies just take a lil extra investment. If youre devoted to a woman, in all ways you can be, she'll be more apt to indulge your fantasies. This isn't always true as I've learned, however, you have to try. You'll never know if your lady has an extra kink if you dont work towards it. Sometimes people need a lil extra coaxing. But always make sure its consensual.

That might be easy for you to say ... but have been looking for years, maybe not the right places, but have never found a woman who was serious enough about the health benefits and pleasures of sharing coffee enemas. I even share with others on Skype, but never a female. If you can put me in touch with someone, that would be much appreciated.

Von

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May I suggest some of the self help groups. As a semi sincere participant, you will be able to help many. Invest yourself in others and they will invest with you. Soon your reputation will get around and if the aid is there, according to your belief, Participants will follow.

I think finding a woman who will engage in enemas is partly the luck of the draw and partly how you bring up kinky activities in general.

I was the one who demanded my husband receive an enema in college because he arrived very late for our dinner date. He came to my dorm thinking we were going to have sex all night long but I let him know in no uncertain terms he was going to get an enema first--and he never had one before. I'm sure it is easier for a woman to talk a man into getting an enema than the other way around because boys and men are a bunch of disgusting perverts who will try just about anything and because they are so needy when it comes to sex.

There are no genuine health benefits of enemas. I doubt that will work as a motivational factor for a woman who isn't already interested in enemas to engage in them.

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@lzrd, what kind of self help groups are you talking about?

Susie knows the score. She is right that finding an enema mate is sometimes difficult because we are a minority in society today. Also, she is right that the woman has a better chance of convincing the man than the other way around. I don't know who said it first, but a quote I will never forget is: "I have the pussy, I make the rules."

Oooooooooooohhhhhhhhh

You kids are almost dangerous, fully loaded, for sure.

Our Dear Susie,

The self help groups are the ones that people join, form and maintain with community mindedness. One I have personally been involved with is due to my nerves being jangled after completing my military obligation, but has no connection with Veterans formally. People get to be like family. The enema experiences were sincere and not entangling.

While you, dear friend, have them exclusively for entertainment, I could go on and on with how they have helped me and many others, needing help. Which is the key. If you don't need help, they must fit neatly into your fetish, high pockets, or the low pocket, which tends to begin to speak for itself, after a while.

If I have not answered your question, Q me personally, please. we'll talk. But, I request it remain private, between me & any who do. OK? Especially if it seems we might have experimented at one time or another, i may or may not be as available as in the past. Clue, "No longer 70."

Many believe Zity is a self help forum, per a lot I have read. Though it is not called that, this is a fetish forum, and yet it happens.

Like, I forget what switchable means, but I don't need that to enjoy susie's good company.

It seems difficult enough for most men who are married (partnered) to get their partner to share the healthy and sensual aspects of enemas, but as a single man, I have never been able to find a female who was interested in learning or sharing enemas. Wondering why that is ? Men seem more interested than women. Is it that I just do not know the right site or method. Anyone have any ideas. Von

I am thinking that finding a woman who is into enemas has a lot to do with the crowd that they run with in the first place. If a woman, let's say her name is Sally, associates with or is friends with another woman (or women) who are open to "kink" then maybe her friends will be more open with you after they hear enough gossip about you from Sally. If Sally talks to her kinky friends about everything, including you, you might be more likely to make more contacts.

I think it is along the lines of "birds of a feather flock together". Finding that one woman with those kinds of friends is hard. I only got lucky because of @Lora_C and her knowing everyone and their pet duck. I don't think without her I would have been as extremely lucky as I have been. Before @Lora_C I would probably have never had what I have now.

All I know is from my point of view. I was only given one when I was 9 years old and hated it. My ex was always trying to put his finger in my butt and I would always say no. Then after we split up and I met a girl who loved enemas actually she loved anything anal. I didn't mind fingering her butt which I had done to other girls who liked anal. I have told this seems like a million times. But after sex one night she asked me why I didn't like to be touched back there and I told her it was gross and dirty. I didn't want anyone to feel anything in me etc. She asked me if I had ever felt anything in her and I said no. That is when she told me that she did enemas. I cringed at the thought but it made sense. I agreed to give her enemas. After a few weeks, I built up the nerve to try. I mean she had been having major orgasms. Anyway, that led me into doing enemas and she was patient with me.

We split up after a few years because of her ex-husband and kids etc.

I started dating other girls and some would want to play back there. That was fine as long as I was clean. Some who wanted me to play with them back there as soon as I felt anything I would eventually bring up enemas to them. Only one or two turned it down saying ew gross even after I explained that it was to get clean. The others accepted it and started liking enemas. I don't know about men trying to get their partners into enemas. It may just be that woman to woman is easier to convince the other. Also, I was patient with the other women.

Regardless of gender, a prerequisite for enjoying enemas is that the potential receiver is anal-erotic to begin with. Anal eroticism can be an acquired taste, but for most of us here it's something that existed early on. Some who come to it later may have been repressed throughout their life, and it took an understanding and patient partner to introduce them to backdoor sexual stimulation. But those folks are the outliers.

Even if someone is anal erotic from the get-go, sexual enemas are a step beyond. Again, an understanding and skilled administrator can make all the difference, someone who knows how to go slow and not flood the recipient resulting in painful and unnecessary cramps (okay, there are those punishment folks).

Receiving a sensual erotic enema for the first time can result in a surprisingly powerful orgasm for a woman. If that happens, it's probable that this often misunderstood kink will become a lifelong part of that woman's sexuality. The same is no doubt true for a man. For some, enemas can be ritual-like with the many stages of anticipation, preparation, the actual administration, the holding period, and finally the evacuation. The unusual equipment is a draw in itself to the true klismo. Bottoms up!

Regardless of gender, a prerequisite for enjoying enemas is that the potential receiver is anal-erotic to begin with.

I’ve always felt anal eroticism is wired in. Lots of kids who got enemas as kids have no interest later in life - they weren’t wired that way. Being wired as anal erotic that way isn’t weird. For me, enemas are like dildos, butt plugs, etc., just another form of anal pleasure

There is another group who love enemas not for the anal extasy but for perceived health benefits. Granted some of them mask the anal eroticism as a health excuse but others really only believe in the health BS. those are the weird ones in my opinion

I have been anal erotic as a kid. But, I felt weird about it until my husband was able to bring it out of me. My mom taught me as a kid that you don't play with that area down there because it is not lady like. When I came to this forum, I saw that there were others like me. Maybe, some women feel uncomfortable exposing the anal eroticism. I dated one guy who thought my anal eroticism was weird so I buried it until my husband brought it up but it took a while until I felt comfortable enough to want to explore my anal eroticism with him.

I have been into enemas since I was a child. There is something so erotic about being filled by a loving, caring person that brings me to a new and powerful headspace.

Trying to convince that of my wife has been daunting. Until just lately, she has only given enemas to me and refuses to take them. Just recently she had some stomach discomfort due to medications and approached me requesting an enema. Of course I jumped at the chance.

I did not give her one sexually. I was very pragmatic and careful not to make this into a sexual event as she really needed one to relieve her constipation. However, I did let her know how much this turned me on and how I was going to give myself one and "take care of business" while she was expelling. She seemed OK with that and asked the eventual question "did my enema really turn you on that much?" That opened the door for me explaining again how much I loved them and how my orgasm during a filling was epic. She kind of thought on that one for a second before changing the subject.

Now I am able to get her to enjoy a nozzle in her ass as a visual stimulant for me. I ask her to take it in the position that I am about to be in and I don't start any water. After a few minutes, I remove the nozzle and let her slip it into me. At first she could not understand why this turned me on so much, but I explained that the visual was incredible and sharing a nozzle was as intimate as ever. She now understands this and is willing to play further with me this way.

One day I will ask her to take an enema and try having an orgasm during the filling. We may never know...

Jeff

I think finding a woman who will engage in enemas is partly the luck of the draw and partly how you bring up kinky activities in general.

I was the one who demanded my husband receive an enema in college because he arrived very late for our dinner date. He came to my dorm thinking we were going to have sex all night long but I let him know in no uncertain terms he was going to get an enema first--and he never had one before. I'm sure it is easier for a woman to talk a man into getting an enema than the other way around because boys and men are a bunch of disgusting perverts who will try just about anything and because they are so needy when it comes to sex.

There are no genuine health benefits of enemas. I doubt that will work as a motivational factor for a woman who isn't already interested in enemas to engage in them.

Susie,

Other than perhaps being peeved that he was late and that you personally liked enemas, why did you insist that he get his first enema? Other than the short term fun/punishment for that evening, was it that you knew you had the desire or fetish and needed to be sure any man you fucked or dated or both would be happy to trade them with you long term?

My first wife other than one specific evening when I must give her great credit for indulging me very nicely, wasn't interested in enemas or any other kinks of mine.

However, interesting and relevant to this discussion thread was my second ex-wife. She knew all my fetishes before marriage and happily did them with me including enemas, mostly with her as my Switch Domme. Eventually I thought she would probably be at least amenable to trying an enema from me. However, a few months into marriage, she suddenly one day revealed that she wanted to not only be sexually submissive to me sometimes (we both switched), but that her deepest sexual secret was that she always wanted to have her husband give her enemas with sex. She had never been able to admit or reveal this to her first husband, in some part because he was an ordained minister. Perhaps obviously, I was delighted and we enjoyed trading enemas for a good while before eventually divorcing for nonsexual reasons. I suppose that her deep-seated embarrassment about enemas or fear of revelation (and I say that without criticism, as I really would understand it) kept her from revealing it to me earlier, even knowing that I loved enemas myself.

Eric