Butt plug chastity belt

I need help. I can't take anal too much so my boyfriend went on eBay and got me a chastity belt with vagina and butt plug that can be worn with or with out because he wants me to start likening more anal sex.

So the other night we tried the belt on and the butt plug it hurt so bad I was crying so about 10 minutes he took it off and the butt plug out. He wants me to do it every night so that I can get used to anal. His goal is to have me plugged and locked in the belt for anywhere 6-8 hours a day to get my hole bigger.

I don't think I can do it let along walk or sit with them in. The belt is not bad. So can anyone tell me what its like to have a butt plug in for long time? Does it feel like hurt to sit on it? How often should I put lube on it.

He want me to do it again tonight.

Should I end the relationship? How can I say no? What should I do? Just have him do it to me?

Tell your boyfriend to fuck off. You don't need him.

If you don't like anal, tell him so.

You will find someone else who is more understanding and caring of your needs and desires.

You should never do anything that you aren't comfortable with. Let alone causes you all pain and no pleasure. If he wants you to like anal, he's going about it the wrong way. It sounds like you want to please him but he didnt seem to care about your physical or emotional feelings. I could never make someone cry just to please myself.

The guy's a jerk and only cares about his needs and not yours!!! I would never have somebody do something they weren't comfortable with or cause them pain. Drop him like a dead fish and find someone who cares about your needs and happiness.

I agree with all responses. Any thing in a relationship, especially a sexual item should be mutual and with each individual consent. There is a line between satisfying your friends likes, and your own will.

He is definitely going to far in pushing you to do things that you don't want. Tell him to stick that plug in his butt, see how much he likes it.

You can try a smaller plug and work up to bigger from there. But always remember that its your body. If it hurts that bad don't do anything that will cause damage to yourself. If your BF can't understand that it may be time to look for someone else.

Inconsiderate/Selfish/Thoughtless & totally unfeeling...It's those such as these individuals that can do irreparable harm to another through their utterly unconscionable heartless actions....M'lady never be "forced" to do something against your will ...let alone the emotional pain or possible physical damage you may suffer as a result ..... Time to put the brakes on & re-consider the options...NOW !!...Two Choices...1) Confront issue forthwith, emphatically stating your case ...2 ) Seriously consider someone who TRULY cares, recognizes your individual tastes & takes the time to listen to you & shows respect for your feelings - Period ! ...... There are many Arseholes in this world we share --- This one qualifies!!..

It's your happiness & wellbeing at stake here.....Wish you the very best....G.

Ashley33

You need to understand the concept of power exchange....freely giving oneself to someone you TRUST...

that trust is earned and must be anchored through a caring nuturing relationship....he has to be capable of reading your body ....being sensitive to your pleasure and pain....making adjustments to accomodate your needs.....

It is obvious to me that your boyfriend, emphaasis on BOY, is not capableof this and not worthy of your trust. There are men out there that are worthy of that trust. I have been fortunate enough to find such a man. You will know when you have as well. Your self preservaion instincts are screaming at you! Listen. And listen to the men and women that have responded here....ultimately you own the power.....embrace that and you too can soar to new heights. If a man does not respect and encourage that he is no man.

My advice is to find on that does....on that makes you feel like a Queen or at least a Princess. ..it is possible dreams and fantasies can come true. ..a real Prince wants your pleasure not misery...

Good Luck.....

Warmly,

L, Queen Nymph

Ashley33

You need to understand the concept of power exchange....freely giving oneself to someone you TRUST.... . . .

Ashley did not mention power exchange. She just said anal sex.

First, get a male chastity device and a large butt plug for him to wear. Insist that he wear it for 6 to 8 hours first before you try it again.

Second, leave this jerk -- now!

Don't do anything that doesn't feel good for you!!! It's just that simple!!!

Ashley this is a pre-cursor to the future of this relationship. In my eyes he could not be making his character any more obvious. He is a selfish, inconsiderate jerk! ( Iam refraining from using the words I really want to) . Quickly show him the door and tell him to watch out it doesn't hit him in the ass on the way out!

Im afraid to say im with Bridgette on this one

@ ashley33: First all your boy friend is a real jack ass ! I wear a plug 16 to 18 hours per day. That was not easy to do. I started three years ago with a small butt plug and worked my way up to thee large njoy butt plug. when ever my wife put her plug in it rubs her G- spot and the feeling is awesome but just be ready to have a full on orgasm when out and about, as my wife have done meany times before and is why she will no longer wear it out side of the house. If he is not willing to do the same for you and start small then kick him out the door. It's to meany man in this world.

This guy is a jerk!!!!

a good guy would use a small plug that cause you NO PAIN!

and let you get used to wearing that, then progress to bigger one if you want!

if not stop all together

i every now and then use my plug and harness and wear it around the house or on my treadmill

but not outside because it makes me want to expel it

i wear the plug to bed and it stays there all night with no harness

MOST OF ALL, WHAT IS GOOD FOR YOU, AND NO ONE ELSE!!!!

Hi Ashley,

Make him wear it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get yourself some long black velvet gloves, black stiletto hi-heels, black mesh stockings with matching Garter belt, a sexy G-string thong, a really cute push-up bra....and..."a whip!!!!" Also get a dog collar and leash. When he comes in the door, "Crack the whip!" and say,"with determination!," "Drop those pants sucker, and drop to all fours and turn around!!" Hand him the dog collar and leash and say,"Put It ON!!!!!" Then dangle the but plug in front of his nose and say,"KISS IT!!!!" ..........

As the saying goes,"'Turnabout' is fair play!!" It's time he gets "HIS!!!" ......OOOOH!!...it's getting warm in here!.....How's this for starters, Susie?????? I'll turn this scenario over to you as I believe you are more knowledgeable on the subject!!!"

with a "Click!!,"

highwater

Start with a small plug, finger size to get used to it. If he goes slow and easy it should not hurt like you are saying. Use lots of lube! Always! Start with 10 minutes, 15, 30 and so on. It may be uncomfortable. But you need to build up to bigger sizes. If he is not willing to go slow, dump the bitch.

Couldn't have said it myself better Bridgette. Karma to you.

If he wants you to start liking anal and this is how he does it...he's pretty f'ing stupid. Or mean. Or both.

If YOU want to start liking anal, great! Lots of good suggestions here - start with something small. Use LOTS of lube (more than you think you need). Try it for 15 minutes. Then a little longer. Then, maybe something a little bigger....you get the idea.

It isn't reasonable to expect someone with little to no anal experience (I am assuming this is true) to be plugged for several hours, with a sizable plug, on the 1st try (or 10th, or 30th...). YOU get to set the pace because it's your body.

I would like to give your bf the benefit of the doubt - maybe he really doesn't know what he is doing. My thought is that if you're not comfortable talking to him and explaining why this isn't working for you, you probably shouldn't be with him. Good luck.

Anal play, and sexual play should be something nice for both parts. I would never allow anyone to push me into doing anything without my concent. I would never ever push my gf/wife into something she would disagree to. We must respect eachother, and the play is for all of us to have a good time - isn't it?

Wow, this guy sucks. I can do anal with my wife because she wants me to. That's a huge difference. Don't put up with that unless you want to.

If he wants you to start enjoying anal he will star you off with little things that you will most likely find pleasurable. I have had many anal virgins in my day, and I would generally start by teasing their little orifices while I was going down on them. Almost all of them responded very favorably to that kind of stimulation, and some wanted more right away and some wanted more after a while and a few did not respond well to that so after a couple attempts appropriately spaced out, we stopped revisiting it.

In your case it sounds like your BF does not so much want you to enjoy anal sex, but he wants you to be able to tolerate having his cock in your ass, and he does not even want to do any work to make bridging the gap pleasurable for you. I suspect that if and when he does get his cock in your ass it will be all about his pleasure and not yours. I am not sure how old you are or how many men you have been with, but if y have any experience to draw from, my guess is that this guy is a totally selfish lover. Does he always want oral form you for example but not not giving oral to you? If he comes before you do, does he make sure that he gets you off? My guesses are that he does not.

Unless you are getting some kind of pleasure out of this relationship that you did not disclose in your original post, I would side with Bridigett on this one. Leave the relationship and find a more mature person to play with. I suspect his immaturity will also come out in other ways as well, and none of them are good. And believe it or not, you will be part of an important lesson that he needs to learn in regard to interpersonal relationships. He will not be happy, his source of pussy will be gone, but after a few cycles he will stat to learn that there needs to be respect and equality in a relationship. So unless you are getting a lot of pleasure from some other undisclosed aspects in the relationship, I would leave. Life is way too short and it sounds like you are young and in your prime.

My best wishes are with you...

Throw him away as far as you can, forget him, ignore him, like he never exist on earth !

Anal sex or any kind of butt play can be wonderful, but only if you are comfortable with it. Never let this guy or anyone else force you into something you're not OK with. There are lots of considerate guys out there - I hope you find one.

It just sounds like the plug he ordered is far too big for a beginner!

The size of the plug makes all the difference, in terms of whether you enjoy the experience. I know a lot of people have said you need to start with something small. But these facts are always worth repeating. Perhaps if these things were repeated more, you and your boyfriend would already have known this. It's all about doing your research. You can't just grab something off ebay and be good to go, as you have both learned by now.

And of course spend plenty of time lubing up and warming up your anal area with your fingers, and make sure you get aroused in any way possible before attempting an insertion. I hear it helps a lot to stimulate your clit as you insert fingers or a plug, to learn to enjoy anal stimulation. I believe a chastity belt is a bad idea because it would prevent the direct clitoral stimulation that should accompany anal stimulation in order to lead to anal pleasure. A butt plug that fits you properly does not require a harness of any sort to hold it in, but a thong or g string may help if you ever go out walking around with a plug in.

Anal stimulation of any kind should NEVER be painful, and if it is painful then you are doing it wrong. You can find lots of helpful information in the book Anal Health and Pleasure, available here: http://www.amazon.com/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Guide-Couples/dp/0940208377/ref=pd_rhf_dp_p_img_4 . The first 100 pages or so are especially useful. At one point, for example, the author explains how to use kegel exercises to learn to control the muscles involved in properly relaxing your anal area and maintaining muscle tone/ flexibility.

One thing you need to know about starting out with smaller plugs, I have heard that certain ones are so small that they can slip all the way inside you, which should be avoided. Don't get one with the jewel on the base, since this seems to happen more often with the smaller sizes of those. Here is a link to the first plug I ever used, which I highly recommend because I have always loved it: http://www.amazon.com/Luxotiq-Anal-Plug-Stainless-Steel/dp/B007F17OG0/ref=pd_sim_hpc_21?ie=UTF8&refRID=08F945GTVJJNC6SV5T8J . I left it in all night the first time I tried it, and I often sleep with it in. It is worth it to wake up horny and have an incredible orgasm with the plug still in! Some beginners suspect that metal or glass toys are too hard to start out with compared to relatively softer materials, but as long as you choose a comfortable size for yourself, the metal plugs and glass plugs are smoother and more slippery, and easier to slide in if you ask me.

You should also check out this anal sex blog: http://analonlylifestyle.tumblr.com/archive . Many of the posts contain helpful tips, and you can learn a lot from the posts in which women share their own experiences.

If you decide to give anal play another chance now that you know how to make it a pleasant experience rather than an unpleasant one, you may want to experiment privately when you have plenty of alone time and can relax, without your boyfriend or anyone else there, at least until you get comfortable enough to share the experience.

(I am not affiliated with any of the above sites or products.)

Hi Ash,

re read my post #16!!! ....Nuff' said!!!

with a "Click!!,"

highwater

PS "Really "Crack" that whip!!!!!" I'm sure he'll get the message!

Very good comments HC. Thanks.

I found this link interesting. http://analonlylifestyle.tumblr.com/archive

Hi Ash,

Go over to the old "You Tube" They have this vid,"Funniest banned commercials of all time" you can dial it in at https://www.youtube.com/watch? # THIS VIDEO IS UNAVAILABLE # The good stuff starts at the 0:57 mark!! Note her demeanor, heels,stockings, garter belt, bra and "Whip!!" Did I mention her "demeanor!!!!!" All it will take is one "Crack of the whip!!!" He will be in your command!! Note my post #16!! Only thing missing is the long Black Velvet gloves and ....."YOU!!"

with a "Click!!,"

highwater

Looking for a butt plug chastity belt or harness, have you some advices, links, shops, experience with good or bad equipment ?

Thank you to send a copy of your answer in PM too, so I will read it quickly.