There’s something appealing to me about my role as a little not coming with any grown-up privileges or responsibilities when it comes to sex. This very well could be a reaction to performance anxiety, and wanting to experience sexuality in a no-pressure scenario, but I think it goes deeper than that. It’s a turn-off when ageplay porn turns to ‘normal’ sexual acts since it breaks the fantasy for me, for example. I enjoy ’normal’ porn and sex very much too, but it doesn’t mix well with ageplay.
By this I mean mainly that intercourse with mommy is off the table. This could be accomplished in a gently humiliating way — “Baby, it’s very sweet that you want to do that with mommy, but that’s something only grown-ups [or daddy, to add a little cuckolding to the fantasy] can do. You’re much too little!” Or it could be that my little self doesn’t even know about sex. But I don’t even want full on oral sex, or to be jerked off; nor do I want to perform equivalent acts on my partner in this space.
That’s not to say I don’t want either of us to have intimacy and orgasms, though! For me as a little, I like the idea of my arousal as something mommy takes care of in a somewhat clinical, but nurturing way, almost as if it were equivalent to being constipated. The key is that it’s something that’s done to me for my well-being. This could take the form of a gloved prostate milking (with the anal aspect further tying it to an excretory function), or perhaps a vibrating toy (bonus if it has a cute/silly form) applied to my frenulum while I lay still, either directly or through a diaper or underwear. Linguistically, the phrase “making love” could be twisted to refer to this act, following the usage of “making” to refer to excretion, as in “your penis is very swollen, baby, do you need to try to make love for mommy?”
Mommy needn’t be subject to the same restrictions. She, as a big, can take her pleasure as she desires; it’s just that I’m not able to fully participate. Her masturbating could be part of an anatomy or sex-ed lesson, where I only am allowed to watch. Her use of a dildo could further the denial aspect underlying this fantasy. Or it could be that it’s not appropriate for me to see her genitals, and she could use a vibrator while I nurse, my view restricted by not being allowed to un-latch.
This is a somewhat elaborate fantasy, and I certainly don’t need all of it to have a good time!