I have my first metal plug on order so I have no real experience on wearing one yet, however I can, and love, having plugs in side me to feel full. (I have worn a silicone outside while driving my truck to go shopping, for 15minutes, very uncomfortable but that was in another post, thanks for your advise in that one)
After playing all the toys I wear the last one snug fit inside me while cleaning up the toys and towels etc., for about 15 minutes. (American bombshell little boy)
I think I am with you, I am not into the fast in and out movement of dildos, I have done this a few times but the penetration movement as if I am fucking myself does not do it for me. Why..., I don't know. I do know I love the feeling of slowly inserting and stretching, so perhaps that's why?
At one time my female room mate walked in on me while I was getting ready to play, she later joined me and wanted to "help" me. 😃
As a female I guess she thought to insert all my toys and move them in and out in the same movement and speed as the way she got fucked in a natural way. This I did not really like, I did not tell her because I did like the fact she played with me. 😃
I use plenty of lube, water based liquid and gel. on the outside, on the toy and inside with the advised applicator. (again thx 4 the advise)
Also when I am plugging away I am not going for a "normal climax, ejaculation trough the penis" but for a "mental" climax.
When I fuck with a guy, which does not happened to much, I do like the fuck movements. Perhaps because its a total different situation.