Anal after ejaculation

So i want purely to get some alternative views and experiences with this.

I am a male and I enjoy anal play and anal sex.

What I find however is that almost the second after I cum, I lose any interest and essentially have a feeling of being uncomfortable. So whatever it is thats in there 'must' come out.

This means if I am having anal sex, I pretty much have to refrain from touching myself (and the partner as well). Most of the time, particularly in the early minutes I am very hard and it doesn't take much to be game over.

I have been tempted in the past, particularly with self play to try and push past the phase of being uncomfortable in the hope i relax and go back to enjoying it for extended play. But not really had the will or discipline to do so.

Does anyone else push past this bit? is it just a matter of don't cum and enjoy? Thanks in advance

Hi! I was like that in my early butt plugging times - after cumming I had to take the plug out. In time I began to prolonge the time before I unplugged - not intentionally, it just bothered me less and less. Now I don't take it out any more, it became part of my post orgasmic afterglow. You'll get used to it and learn to love it - it just takes time, as with most things analy related. Have fun!

I've always been the same way and lose interest in the anal play after I cum. It just seems to become very uncomfortable. I can continue to stimulate my wife even orally to make sure she is satisfied but other than that I pretty much lose interest. I haven't had sex with a guy since I was a teen a long time ago but that's always been one of the things that's kept me from exploring more. I know that once I cum I would want to escape the situation. It's the same with swallowing cum. I love to taste it when it leaks out before I orgasm and the thought of eating my own cum really turns me on but once I cum I'm no longer interested. I think what you experience is pretty common but afternine's approach seems to be a good approach to getting past that.

Same here. After cumming I dont want to see the inserted object for days, weeks or even for a month or more...must be a psychological thing with me.

I too, experience this to more or less extent. I think that the relaxation/comfort level with the situation is key. If i feel no hurry to clean up or whatever, i can lie there with toy staying put. If it's a really large toy, i'll likely expell it as i relax. Want to be able to hold off until he cums if not a toy, for sure!

Its the same old story-- the couple having just climaxed together are laying there with her thinking all touchy feeling thoughts of the wonderment of coitus -- and him wondering "how soon can i turn on the Lakers game"

I'm the same way - once I cum I'm not interested in any more anal penetration. I must admit though that I have a fantasy where a dominant woman gives me a prostate massage to orgasm and collects my cum. Then she lubes up a large strapon with my cum and fucks my ass with it.

Many of the replies to this post indicate "no further interest after ejaculation". The same goes for me EXCEPT.........after ejaculation, I remain erotically interested in performing sexual acts on/with my partner. Just can't get my Johnson to participate, however I am still very interested in providing any and all pleasures to her. Giving sexual pleasure is equal to receiving sexual pleasure for me. Yes it is!

I´d have to say, that after ejaculation, just about any erotically or sexually infused act or procedure or play looses my interest. The urge and the heady longing and desire that can fill one´s body is simply gone, as if it never were or even worse, as if it were just a silly pastime.

That´s not to say there is no interest - in a disinterested manner I still have all the same intellectual interest in sexual matters, but just no more physical, driving urge anymore. That´s probably why the best thing to do after ejaculation is to recover vigor by sleeping. That´s not always a very wise or social thing to do with a partner of course ... ha ha.

But on my own, solo sex, that´s a good option, though even better is to postpone ejaculation for as long as possible to prolong the pleasure.

I’m a little bit puzzled at this thread. Don’t most men discover the ‘male refractory period’ immediately after experiencing their very first orgasm? It’s got nothing to do with anal sex in particular. After you’ve come, in whatever circumstances, you have no wish to go on, in fact continued stimulation can feel physically unpleasant. Apparently some Parkinsons drugs, such as cabergoline, can shorten or even eliminate the refractory period for some men. Otherwise it’s a fact of our sexuality that we just have to live with.

I agree, I had the same thoughts, loss of arousal after ejaculation regardless of where the stimulation is being applied.

In time I also learned that even when I wasn't "really" into butt play (like immediately after orgasm) if subjected to butt play it was heavenly nonetheless, usually even more intense, sometimes to the point of being breathless and on the verge of passing out. Now it is literally "you can fuck my ass anytime", post orgasm or not, I know it will feel marvelous and I love it every time. I guess it shows my ass has done some mileage.

Thanks for some interesting feedback/input.

I'm well and truly aware of the normal refractory period but as with most things in life, there are ways to and reasons why one might want to overcome or lessen that period.

I like stimulation from anal play, with or without orgasms. I also like orgasms and whether or not i can have more orgasms by extending play, i'd like to at least extend the stimulation part. Sometimes, physically or otherwise, an orgasm cannot be averted.

Afternine sounds like he's got it down pat. Damn, will just have to practice, shame!

For me, it just varies. After sex and just spooning and enjoying "the glow" and depending on how romantic my partner is, I am able to go another time and it is sometimes better than the first time. The chemistry and karma just have to be right.

Maybe because I am getting older 😃 but I don't really have the need or urge to ejaculate or have an penal orgasm when playing with myself, or a guy/woman. If I do anything will come to an end, and that I don't want. Actually a lot of times I can't come to a ejaculation when just doing "regular" sex.

However I have much more pleasure in self simulation or making the other partner enjoy him/her self.

Mostly in the weekends, when I am playing with my butt, my sessions take on 2 to 3 hours, each, I might do 3 of those in a weekend. Daily training sessions are about 1 hour, but has only the training of the sphincter in mind, and none of them end in ejaculations, as a matter of fact, I leave my dick alone, only so often touching him. My pleasure is pure in my butt and mind.

Those times that I do want to ejaculate I will do so after I am mentally satisfied. After I cleaned up the toys I will continue the movie or what ever and just think of that moment with my dick. This is only a few times in the week, it does not excite me as much.

Perhaps that just me, but I am fine with that. And like someone mentioned its a natural thing for man to stop thinking about SEX after they ejaculate.

Just my 2 cents...

When I play solo, I'm done after I cum, so I put it off as long as I can. (sometimes hours) When I'm with a man and I cum while he's fucking me, it gets a little uncomfortable, but, I think that I'm there to be a pleasure for him and just that thought is erotic enough to still eagerly take it.😃 If he fucks me for a long time after I cum, after about 10 minutes I start to feel pleasure again even though I can't cum again and that's OK, I just love it!

I guess I have experienced this. I masturbate frequently with a anal (Rude Boy) vibrator. And after I cum, my ass seems to clamp down on the vibrator and I have to pull it out slowly. My anus like every guy's anus goes into contractions on each squirt of cum so it tightens up after an orgasm. There may need to be a cooling down period when the sphincter muscles need to relax to be ready for another round of anal play. At least this seems to be true for me.

Guys, don't need to worry. Better is to postpone ejaculation for as long as possible to prolong the pleasure.

I had a ex-girlfriend who would tie me up and then blow me until I came. She would then use her strap-on on me knowing that it didn't feel good since I had just had an orgasm, and I was helpless to do anything about it since she had me tied up and unable to move.

Yeah, you guys need to be defiled every once in a while!

It's good for you! I used to do that to guys when I was in high school.

The guys had to oral me and make me cum before I would let them have sex with me. Yes, I objectified the boys. I let them have sex with me for a price and I liked it. My dildo fucking their asses was my ace in the hole, blackmailing them to ensure they would not be gossiping about having sex with me. The macho guys didn't want others to know I had butt-fucked them. I kept my "good girl" reputation in high school despite all my my sexual escapades.

I kept my "good girl" reputation in high school despite all my my sexual escapades.

You mean, no one talked/gossiped/whispered about your little adventures? I'd think that it must have been quite fun for many of the guys or else they would have had their own revenge in some way or another - like gossiping and perhaps making things up or exaggerating about whatever. And if it had been fun for many, then none of them boasted about it afterwards?

Good manipulating on your part then ... ha ha

The first time I actually had full on sex with another guy, I was about 18 yrs old and we were sleeping in the living room on the floor He started rubbing up against my backside. He then pulled my underwear off and started sucking me. We did 69 for a bit until he pulled out of my mouth and continued to suck me until I came. That was the first time I had anyone swallow my cum. I rolled over with my back to him and was gonna go to sleep as I had lost all interest in sex. He kept pushing his rod against my butt and kinda rolled me over onto my stomach and got on top of me and shoved his dick in me all the way. The feeling was intense pain and pleasure at the same time. He continued for 4-5 minutes until it hurt and I rolled him off me. He wanted me to suck him off but I had no interest in that either. I went upstairs to the bathroom and while sitting there thinking about what just happened, I got so turned on, I masturbated and came but my erection didnt go away so I kept stroking it until I came again. I felt really bad that he didnt finish. From then on, most of the time when I was playing by myself, I would continue fucking myself with my toys or vegetables or whatever I was using for as long as I could stand it after I would cum. On occasion it would lead to getting turned on again and cumming a second or sometimes a third time. I guess forcing myself to continue sorta conditioned my body and mind to not want to reject anal sex after I cum. I really like to stuff my ass with items because I enjoy the really full feeling I get. Sometimes after a long session that leaves my ass kinda sore, I will leave a fairly large cucumber in the kitchen sink just to remind me what I planned and when I get up in the morning, first thing before coffee or anything, I will grab the cucumber and just shove it hard into my ass. It takes me back 35 years ago when the neighbor boy jammed his dick into me that night. The extreme pain will sometimes bring me to my knees. I also like to set "goals" for myself to have stuffing sessions for, say, 6 nights in a row, whether I actually want to or not. It usually turns out that I thoroughly enjoy it but sometimes I don't even or can't cum, just stuff myself for 45 minutes to an hour and then go to bed.

After I cum, what ever is in my ass can stay for a while. The "need" to have my hole stretched after isn't as great as it is before I cum.

All kidding aside, after extended anal play, fisting and whatever, my husband, like many men who replied, want whatever has been inserted to be removed and want some time to rest.

As normal susie hits the nail on the head lol

A good submissive does what their Dominant desires, male or female, orgasm or not. So, it depends upon individual pre agreed dynamics. And sadism?!

A good submissive does what their Dominant desires, male or female, orgasm or not. So, it depends upon individual pre agreed dynamics. And sadism?!

The intent of this thread from the original poster is NOT about BDSM. It is about anal play.

Most of the time when fisting and heavy anal play is done, it is because the person receiving it WANTS it. You could say the guy on the receiving end is the TOP.

If this were S&M anal it would be different.

After i cum its all over for me. no more toys water vibrators. need several hours to revive any interenste

If I ejaculate first, I of course still want my partner to finish. His pleasure is important to me. The feeling of his erect penis in my anus is just as pleasurable.

Same here after orgasm I stop all penetration must be a physiological thing