How could you tell your boyfriend you want anal sex?

Kinky? Yes he is, but mostly are bondage and some torture. He never crack any hint about anal sex at all! But i really found myself as an anal erotism 😢 How could i tell him about my need on anal sex and would not freak him out?

If you're not comfortable bringing it up during your lovemaking you could ask him to massage your bum while you're on top of him making love. This is a pretty innocent request and he might take and hint and play with that magic spot between your cheeks. Have fun!

Don't know if you're into medical stuff, but you might start slowly with "playing" doctor. You could play sick and ask him to take your temperature....in your bottom of course 😃. It can be kind of sexy and fun too. Thermometers are not too intimidating... Let him know that it feels good, and then see how he responds. You might be pleasantly surprised. Many guys are just too nervous about the subject and avoid it, even though there's interest. Good luck!

You could have him give you an enema. Make up any reason you like. I didn't tell my boyfriend anything about my liking enemas. The first enema I ever gave was to my boyfriend, now my husband for over 20 years, as a genuine punishment in college. We were supposed to go out for a fancy dinner at the end of exam week our first semester there. We were both 18 and had known each other since we were about 12 years old. I was dressed and ready to go out, but he never showed up at my dorm suite. He went out with his friends to celebrate, and came to my room later that evening thinking he would stay over and we would have sex. I told him I wouldn't let him sleep with me that night unless I gave him an enema (my roommate had just gone home). He was surprised and had never had one before, but since he wanted to sleep with me (college boys can be so shallow and needy!!) he complied with my demand. I wanted him hot and excited, not grossed out or in pain, so I gave him a quart of plain warm water and made him hold it for a while. He took it like a champ and we had an amazing night of wild sex.

Just whisper in his ear seductively, that you want him to 'rip one up your shitter'. job done.

A lot of guys don't want to bring up anything anal - because there are a number of women who just won't. He could be "ass-uming" that you're in that category. You would always suggest that you watch an anal video that you find erotic and see what his response is - that would be a pretty good indicator if he is or is not interested. Or, you could verbalize your desires.... "it really feels so good when (fill in the blank)." Another approach would be for you to get a plug or toy - and have him "catch" you using it... that would likely excite - even if he found anal to be taboo.

You should have no problem enticing him into your ass. As Charlotte said just a little hint should be all you need to get him going.

But if he kind of pushes back and says he doesn't want to then you might probe a little further to find out why. If it is fear of "dirty anal" and not wanting to risk it for that reason, then a round of enemas would be a good way to ensure clean play and you could incorporate enema play as a warm-up to doing anal sex.

Or it could be some other reason and you'll just have to smoke it out as to what's causing him to hesitate.

If he is kinky and open minded like you said he is, you should be able to easily cross the bridge to some hot anal sex that you both will enjoy.

Since your original post in July of last year, it would be nice to get an update and tell us how things went.

My wife and I were together for 25 years. We found it to be true then and I still do today, believe that communication with each other is probably the most important thing that can happen between two people. If you never say, he'll never know. Just be gently direct and say something like,- You know, there is a subject we have never talked about, that I am curious about, and would like to get your opinion on- If he doesn't say, you'll never know..

Most men dream about having a woman tell them that they want to have anal sex. I wouldn't think he would turn you down.

Tie him to the bed. Once he's secure you should be able to ride his pole with any orifice you choose 😃

Make sure you tell him he's next as you're doing it!

When I was with my ex who was a nurse, the first time we ever had sex we were messing around and I lubed myself up and lubed his penis up, took it out of my vagina and stuck it in my butt, he said "ohh, ok....I didn't know you liked anal"

I would just come out and tell your boyfriend what you want

Most men foam at the mouth at the mention of anal. Go ahead tell him, I'll bet he's 100% ready to go.

Later, you will have to find a way to tell him when you don't want anal.

I did not tell him anything and instead took the initiative. After first plugging my vagina with a tampon to avoid his penis getting in the wrong hole I got on top of him and positioned my anus over his erect penis, and then slowly sat down on it. He has a tiny penis so it went easily and we both enjoyed it very much.

I was rimmed by the last guy I was with. That led to anal play. I told a past guy I was anal erotic. It was too weird for him. I would flat out tell the guy, if I was you, you like anal.

Go to bed wearing a butt plug. He'll know what to do from there.

Well, back in the '80s I had a relationship with a woman (had many in the '80s). One evening I went to her little apartment, she was laying on her stomach on her sofa bed wearing panties. I walked in and out of nowhere she says, 'Wanna fuck my ass'?

My cock got max hard in about 2 seconds. Took her panties off. She didn't want to use any lube. No problem! She was ready. Was awesome!

Try that!

Hi n/a. Is your usual vaginal sex with him an intimate experience? If so, try this. During one of those type sessions when you're on top and your backside wants penis, simply slide it from your vagina to your anus. You should probably be wet enough there to at least begin penetration.

Then ask him, 'How do you like that?' or something of that nature. Go on from there, hopefully pleasurable for both of you.

I've had this type of nice surprise happen numerous times. Been with plenty women and there was always an intimacy factor with each and every one. That's how these nice surprises can happen!

Hi n/a. Is your usual vaginal sex with him an intimate experience? If so, try this. During one of those type sessions when you're on top and your backside wants penis, simply slide it from your vagina to your anus. You should probably be wet enough there to at least begin penetration.

Then ask him, 'How do you like that?' or something of that nature. Go on from there, hopefully pleasurable for both of you.

I've had this type of nice surprise happen numerous times. Been with plenty women and there was always an intimacy factor with each and every one. That's how these nice surprises can happen!

N/a is no longer active on zity. But your advice is relevant to all of us! Thanks for your input,

How could you tell your boyfriend you want anal sex?

Lie down in bed next to him, give him a hug and whisper into his ear, "I want you to fuck me in the ass."

Lie down in bed next to him, give him a hug and whisper into his ear, "I want you to fuck me in the ass."

Pretty sure this would work on 99% of men

When you are on your period and your partner is rampant for sex. Just tell him you are on your period but you are willing to let him fuck you in the arse.

Speaking from a guys perspective if my woman just told me she wanted anal I would be all for it and not freaked out at all. Now this could be because I am a butt guy though lol. I would recommend you just be honest with him and tell him your desires if he has a problem with it then perhaps he is not quite a complete match for you. He should be open to what you like.

As mentioned in previous posts, most guys would welcome it. That said, there are men that want nothing to do with a female's backdoor. I have a few male friends that are adamant about it. I'm a big believer in open communications but with a sensitive subject like this a women may be reluctant to bring it up for fear of rejection and creating an awkward situation. Perhaps the next time during sex, she can approach his back area. If he is receptive and reciprocates then she is in (no pun intended). If he backs down then she has her answer.

Good Luck

Someone here suggested testing the water by putting on a porn movie that has lots of anal, then you can see how he reacts or, whilst he's really horny you could just tell him you want to do it. I'd also make sure you prep in advance so you're nice and clean.

Just spread your cheeks and point to the hole.

I just suck cock, turn around, and put my arse hole up so my vag can't be reached and say "Stick it up my arse". Nothing like the direct approach. Works for strap-on cocks as well. Just sayin. No one has passed up the offer yet.

Anyone who does can have the other hole, and I am done with them.

Lie down in bed next to him, give him a hug and whisper into his ear, "I want you to fuck me in the ass."

That would work. Just be sure to be lubed first. He may not wait long enough to prep you.

Hard for me to think (NO pun intended) that any guy would refuse either of you lovely ladies an opportunity to GENTLY plow his pecker into your lovely rosebuds. I'm sure you wouldn't have to offer twice!!

If you have the right chemistry there is no need. You just go with the flow and when ready you put it in her ass knowing she will love it. We dont use lube either. If it works it works.

My ex used to ask "do you want to do me in the butt". She knew I would never, ever refuse that offer.