Canes and caning

I would love to hear about everyone's varying caning habits and experiences. For hubby and I the cane is the Queen of implements. A firm caning will frequently trigger my first orgasm so when I'm on the receiving end we usually save the caning until last-- a fitting finale to a series of increasingly intense flogging and strapping. When I'm delivering, I often like to begin by catching my victim as he leaves the shower, giving six strokes with a very light an whippy cane (lots of sting but no real deep impact), saving the very firm canings until later. The formal ritualistic element of caning makes it ideal for presentation before witnesses (we both find such "public" canings incredibly arousing). Though we did build a special padded adjustable caning "stool" we mostly use the traditional approach of having the recipient bend over the back of a chair, though sometimes I will receive a caning while on my hands and knees on the bed-- a challenging position to maintain. We use only rattan canes (hubby makes them so we have a huge number) with the joints filed smooth and finished with many treatments of linseed oil and turpentine followed by an application of wax. Before a formal caning the recipient may be required to wax the canes in preparation. We only cane on the buttocks and we treasure the resultant stripes-- dead level and always absolutely parallel is the objective. And of course the there's the afterglow-- that lovely reminder every time you sit down!

As long as you don't break the skin. I have been caned by my wife and on two occasions she actually broke the cane. I would lay over a bar stool, bare butt to take the lashing. The marks would last about a week. We have not done this for some time.

One of our basic rules for any disciplinary play is "never break the skin" Actually with a rattan cane, I think the only way you would break the skin would be if you were caning hard enough to raise serious welts, and you allowed the strokes to cross. And if a rattan cane does break (and that is very rare) it doesn't do so in a way that will cause injury. I know there are many fierce synthetic canes out there and it might be easier to break the skin with them.

Caning is only given as a last resort for very bad behaviour in my family. I was canes by my parents as well as my husband now.

My husband cane me for serious offenses like one time I was caught smoking.

I was sent to my room to put on my spanking gown which is short and barely cover my bottom when I stand.

I have to wait for him to come to my room for my punishment. I have to arrange a straight back chair for my punishment.

When comes in the room and sit on the chair and ask me to come Ive and lecture me on how smoking will destroy my health. After the lecture he will ask me to go across my knees.

The short punishment gown rides up and expose my bottom. He then pull down my panties down to my ankles. The first slap on my bare bottom was hard and by the fifth my bottom was pink in colour. After I receive my hand spanking warm up I was send to the corner. A hard wooden stool was placed at the corner and I have to sit down like a little child corner time. After 15 minutes I was ask to bring the hairbrush to him with both hand I have to give it to him and ask him to give me the spanking I deserve. The hairbrush came down hard and fast by the end of my hairbrush spanking my bottom was very sore (0|0).

I am send back to the corner to sit on my spanking stool.

While sitting down I was thinking of my caning to come and I winced in pain sitting down. It was going to hurt like hell from my past experiences with the cane.

When corner time was over I was to retrieve the cane and ask him cane me. He told me that I will received 12 of the best and to count every stroke of it. He stand up and I have to go to the back of chair and bend over holding the seat of the chair and get ready for my caning. The first stroke came down and it feel like a hundred bees have stings my bottom I grab the seat of the chair till my knuckles goes white. He pauses for a few seconds so that I feel the sting of cane sink in before giving me the next.

After the 12 strokes were administered I was sent back to my spanking stool. Sitting down on the stool was very difficult. I have to slowly lower my bottom and with first touch on the stool I jumped up again as it was too painful to sit down. Rubbing my bottom I use my pleading eyes to see if he will let me of sitting on the stool. He shook his head telling me that this is part of the punishment we agreed on. I slowly lowered my bottom again on the stool gingerly and finally sat down. If hurt but it also serves as reminder not to smoke again and the consequences is clear if I do and it will be harder and longer.

When corner time is over my husband let me sit across knees and my arms across his neck and cuddle me with one hand holding ny back and another rubbing my bottom. He tell me that he had to punish me because he wants me to stay healthy as smoking will destroy me.

I feel so love that he takes time to punish me and care enough to spank me so that I stay healthy.

I am very new to discipline in the bedroom, so to speak. I was never physically punished growing up and never spanked except pretend swats from my bff as teenagers.

I’m planning to try it soon for the first time with a trusted partner (hand on bare bottom).

But as I’ve been watching certain videos sent by a couple lovely Zity friends, I’ve realized how drawn I am to seeing a woman caned… it just looks so intense, the build up, the sounds, the reddening of that tender skin (no blood or damage thank you), the woman’s reactions, and the aftercare which is unfortunately rarely shown.

All this is to say, I continue to wonder if a cane will make its way into my life sooner or later.

If the cane is ever lucky enough to make it into your life @GraceT . I hope you will share the experience with us here.

I absolutely adore caning, and we use several different canes in our dynamic Unfortunately I lost a couple of my favorite ones when I accidentally threw out a play bag years ago. As far as I can tell, those particular ones aren’t available anymore which makes me pretty sad.

They get mixed in with all of the other potential implements my bottom might feel if I have misbehaved, so in my life caning is really just another form of spanking rather than a unique experience as some people sometimes seem to categorize it as. Of course, in terms of BDSM play I’ve done the whole naughty schoolgirl scene which can be great fun. But I would absolutely love to experience being tied down to a spanking bench while taking potentially hundreds of strokes in a legit BDSM dungeon. Unfortunately for me it seems like most of the videos of this type of scene tend to involve male spankees. Of course, Miss Sultrybelle and her girls do some fantastic work but I wish her set was more immersive.

Canes have a wonderful unique feeling, where you feel the initial strike but the real sting and burn takes a moment to develop and you can feel it gradually develop over those next couple of seconds. And who could forget the absolutely delicious marks they leave! Being able to produce great looking, symmetrical marks and welts really is an art unto itself, and seeing them on someone else produces a different flavor of excitement that seeing other types of spanking marks can’t quite match in my opinion. It’s also an implement that has a larger scale of intensity than most. You can be relatively gentle with them if you want, but they can also be much more vicious than most other implements. Canes also have something for everyone, even though over all I would consider them to be stingy rather than thuddy, the thicker ones can be pretty thuddy. But if you are looking for something that can be almost whippy like a switch then there are plenty of options there as well.

@PutMeInTheCorner Hi. Given your "absolutely adore caning" proclivity declaration (quite cute)..., have you also experimented with any caning augmentations? For instance, "figging?" It is an old English caning tradition ..., and it is a quite worthwhile addition to a sensual or other caning. It's a natural product, and it is excellent for keeping your bottom in a relaxed state for your partner. Sends a nice tingly message and promotes a "no clenching" vibe/rule for a caning. I am a big fan of caning (including type, style, stroke (tipping), ritual, outcome, method, fashion, manner, position, patterns, etc.) too, so I am just curious for now.

@w_smith I’ve never tried figging. The idea used to put me off a bit as I was always worried I wouldn’t like the feeling or that I might find it too strong with no way to relieve the sensation. We had another thread where many posters have convinced me to reconsider it, so I’d like to try it but haven’t gotten around to it yet.

@PutMeInTheCorner Copy that. Looks like I am late to the party, so apologies. Good luck. I'm confident you'll make a "go" of it. The practice dates way back to the Victorian era, and it became a real thing w/ females back then. You might as well bring it back into style down in TX. There was even a very robust "trifecta" built around it in those times for wayward wives, etc. Enjoy.

@w_smith No apology needed!