Mommy disappearing

I have many stories of sad lost doms.

Some found out I am a switch and have tried to pressure me into topping them and not let it go, or I have tried to top them and the dynamic was all wrong because I like to be as sub as possible with a dom. Some have just disappeared and left me saying "where are you?" And some have tried to push me past my safeword/red zone. And of course there is the good old, they were telling me they are female and really are not.

Please share your positive or negative experiences in finding and keeping or losing your mommy/daddy/dom.

This is some what happened to me. I've lost mommies over the years and had to build up new relationships. I try to have more then one mommy at any given time. Not that I don't want my other mommies but that people can get busy or I can loose a mommy without any word. this way the loose to me is not so great. Yes I will miss them but over time (for me at least) I'll forget them. Not that it is by choose it's just how my memory works some times. Anyways I've been fooled a few times over the female act mostly cause I was so desperate for a motherly hand that it blinded me to the truth. I usually block that person right after because I hate more then anything to be lied to and used. I don't care that they want to be female it's just the fact they had to lie about it to feel accepted. I can understand why they need to do that and I don't blame them but I thought we had some kind of connection after all that talk. It really surprises me how quickly people can change. I've also had doms that want to push me past my limits and as I am trying to be and open minded person it's hard for even myself to break my limits there is only so much I can willingly accept before I just can handle it. It's find that they other people like and do these things but if say right off that I don't like it please have the respect to accept that.

I will conclude saying that I have made some deep connection to some ladies and I plan to visit them no matter where they are. It's amazing to connect to a person on such a personal level there they can be as open as they want to and share with you what ever. They don't even have to be family or GF/BF, they are just someone that you feel soo connected to it's as if you were their accusal baby.

Long dormant post, but...

Once I talked with a woman who seemed to be my dream. We did all kinds of roleplay with her dominating me and I was looking forward to meeting her and living some of my fantasies.

Then she comes out and says she's not sure she could do those things in real life, and it seemed she was actually a sub... or had submissive tendencies anyway. I said I felt lied to... which I think I was entitled to say under the circs. Why on earth do people roleplay things online that they would not do... with that person in a safe play scenario at any rate, in real life? Especially without making it clear to the other that it was just a game with little chance of actual fulfilment? By all means do that if you're both clear that's how it stands, but to come out after weeks and pull the rug out from under someone... that to me is horrible.

As for men masquerading as women, or women as men for that matter, this is practically criminal.

I am also a switch n/a so I can understand where you are coming from. Here is my two cents worth....It is important from the very beginning to establish if what is about to take place is a fantasy roll play or will the scene build into something more real. If that is not done, then either of you will most-likely get their feelings hurt.

People life is to short so make sure you lay the ground rules first so no one will get their feelings hurt in any way.

It seems to be a thing that in the off chance someone does find what they're looking for compatibility always plays a factor.

@edgy fox Very true. Saddest thing with me is, whenever I find someone who I click with sexually, they generally turn out to be incompatable personally, and vice versa. Life... don't talk to me about life. haha

I think @DST is very right about being very clear on your ground. Of course sadly it is easy to get carried away.

Saddest thing with me is, whenever I find someone who I click with sexually, they generally turn out to be incompatable personally, and vice versa

Or they are in another country…..

@bbw4doc

Yes... though that needn't be an insurmountable obstacle depending on the country. I've met up with three ladies who lived abroad, one of whom was my girlfriend for more than five years. But of course it can be a big issue if you neither have the means to travel or resettle.