Unable to orgasm ?

When I was at the university working on a master's degree, I met a young woman and wound up at her apt. for a quickie. This was in the 70's, so it wasn't really that strange.

After a bit of foreplay, she said that she was unable to have an orgasm. My thought was......"well, you haven't been with me yet". I began. Over the next hour or more, I kissed and licked and poked and sucked and nuzzled her furry vagina and clit. I tried soft, I tried hard, I tried fast...and slow. I used her vibrator which she said didn't work, I used my tongue and fingers with no success. This young gal was pretty, and her body was nice, but no matter what I tried, she did not orgasm. Thinking back, I don't remember if she enjoyed the feelings or not. The end of this recounting is that she did not have an orgasm. I have hoped over the years that she discovered a way to achieve a climax and have a healthy and successful sex life with someone. At that time, it did not occur to me to explore anal experiences with her. Perhaps a warm enema, given in a calm and restful way could have relaxed her orgasm anxiety and provided a positive experience for her. I have also wondered whether a lesbian experience could have provided her with some comfort.

She was a nice person................any thoughts from you?

It would be worth a try. I know it really helps me

Sadly. some women cannot have an orgasm either due to illnesses such as diabetes, drug use, neurological disease, or pelvic injury.

Almost 10% of women have never had an orgasm.

A lesbian experience would only help if she was into it.

Sometimes hormon imbalances also play a part in weak orgasm, difficulty reaching orgasm, or inability to orgasm. Women's bodies are complicated.

Perhaps her brain wasn't properly turned on. The brain is after all the biggest sex organ. I can reach orgasms just fine, if it's just a physical thing. But sometimes, while in the act, I switch my mind on a favorite fantasy n boy oh boy....... I will just arrive faster and the orgasm feels like an explosion.

Some women, I read, never have had orgasm all her life. Me thinks, if a woman never experienced orgasm, then she doesn't know what she is missing. Therefore she won't get frustrated because she is not looking for it. It doesn't mean they don't enjoy sex and the intimacy with a loving one. It still feels good to be kissed, licked, suckled, rubbed..., you know what I mean. In fact, she can just concentrating on enjoying the moment without having to worry about reaching finale.

In the later 70's I met a beautiful young woman (22 yo) on a train who had run away from her husband on their first wedding anniversary. She said she never had an orgasm of any kind. Her father was a famous person, and she had lived in a very repressed household (where masturbating was not allowed). It took 2 bottles of wine, 3 joints, and 6 (six !!) hours of mostly continuous fucking for her to relax enough and have her first orgasm. After that, she was always eager to try again -- and always succeeded. I later had to teach her how to masturbate, since she had never done it in her life.

More recently, I was discreetly approached by an (exceptionally beautiful -- actually, "stunning" would be the right description) married woman with a high-pressure executive job who couldn't have sex with her husband because of his medical conditions, who said she had been masturbating instead for several years, but had become unable to have an orgasm any more. We only tried 4 times, and did not succeed in her having an orgasm, although some of the 2-hour sessions -- mostly spent fucking -- were enjoyable even for her.

This is the first failure I can remember, of the many women who have come to me with some kind of similar situation (no sex for 20 years, no orgasms, etc). My opinion was that she had too many psychological barriers due to her situation, and her fear of being caught (she never even gave me her FIRST name, much less her family name, or where she lived !! ). I also think if we continued longer, and she would have allowed for a wider variety of "kinky" things, we might have found something that really excited her more.

It is also a sad reminder that unlike in movies and TV shows, in the Real World beautiful and smart women do not always have such a wonderful life. I know an even more poignant example, but I'm not prepared to discuss her tragic story now.