During the first year that my fiancee and I were dating, we had many long conversations about why I liked wearing diapers and rubber pants and going potty in them. She had never heard of men doing that and it all seemed a bit strange to her and wasn't sure if she could love a man who did. Similarly, she couldn't understand how I could be so successful and dominate in my career but privately seemed to need to be childish and submissive in wanting to wear diapers and wanting a girl to wipe, powder and pin baby diapers on him. But she wanted to try to understand me and accept that side of me openly. I told her all about my childhood and how my two sisters and I wet our beds and were diapered by mom for so long, without mom ever criticizing or pressuring us to stop wetting our beds. My sisters did stop when they entered puberty and began to have their period, but I continued to wet my bed and wear diapers until 17. My dad was a very successful businessman, worked very hard, traveled a lot, seldom was home early enough to have dinner with the family, but usually managed to see us as we were going to bed. Typically I was already wearing my diapers and rubber pants when he came home. My fiancee thought that my mom was probably lonely and received a lot of attention and rewards by remaining close to her children, keeping us happy and loved, and diapering us every night was part of how she stayed close to us and felt loved by us. As the oldest and the only boy, the bonds between us were even stronger and perhaps I became a substitute for her husband, my dad, who was absent so much. My fiancee thought that was why my mom continued to diaper me herself even though I was well past puberty and my sexual arousal around being diapered by my mom had become so obvious. And why she often wore her nighty when she diapered me and wasn't too careful about exposing her breasts to me while she diapered me.
Once my fiancee felt she had a better understanding of why I loved to be diapered and go potty in them, she began to like the sense that she had control and could be the dominate partner in our relationship, could enjoy the submissive side of me, and our relationship became stronger. Instead of being reluctant to see me in my diapers and rubber pants and changing my diapers when I was wet, she began to encourage me to just wear diapers and rubber pants when we were along and not cover them up. Then she began to check my diapers often to see how wet they were, started to notice my facial expressions when i was going potty, tease me a little when she guessed correctly, and pat my bottom, pretending she was spanking me. She could see how turned on I became when she was playful with my diapers and going potty and that seemed to get her more and more turned on as well. Near the end of the first year of dating, one night she offered to nurse me and when she could see how excited I became, she had me rest my head on her lap, removed her blouse and bra and had me suckle her nipple. She began to stroke my diaper covered crotch, told me i must be going potty because it was suddenly becoming warm and told me “From now on I want to be the only girl who ever changes my little boys diapers.” We both believe that understanding the roots of my love of diapers helped her get over the reluctance and fear we both had of growing closer and more deeply in love. A year later we decided that she would move in with me and we would live together and eventually get married. Now I really love that she is so dominate in our relationship and that has allowed both of us to explore my love of wearing diapers and being open about it and submissive to her and trust her completely, letting her make all the decisions about where we go in my diapers, when and where I'm changed, who can be told that I wear diapers or need a diaper change, or even when I can mess in my diapers.