How to talk to a baby girl

I've been in the community for a while and I've noticed the common problems that arise in conversation. In the the kink community everywhere I get the Question dump.... the Yes or no questions make me feel like my brain is melting....

1. DON’T do the “Question Dump”: this should be self explanatory. If you have never talked to this person before, don’t go to her page and ask her 20 thousand questions all at once. Actually get to know her long enough to get in conversations where you can ASK these questions on there own, not just dumping them on her page hoping she’ll respond with something you can use for your spank bank tonight. Which brings me to…

2. DON’T ask her personal questions: These include what her bodily functions are, what does she do in her diaper (for example, if she wets, messes, or both), her sexual preferences, if she’s dating anyone, where she lives, etc. Do you have any idea how creepy and weird and socially inept you look asking these things? Guess not, cause I keep seeing it happen. There is a time and place for these questions, and if it comes, ask. For example, if she ever DOES address using the bathroom in diapers, theres a forum for questioning of it. If she mentions it publicly, she will most likely be OK with answering a few questions (A FEW.)

3. DON’T ask her for pictures of herself/more pictures of herself: If she doesn’t post pictures of herself, don’t ask her to. At all. People enjoy there privacy, especially over the internet where they have no idea who they could be talking to. If she does post pictures, don’t ask her to put up more if she hasn’t done so in a long time. You have no right to tell her when she should post thing that, if found by her friends or family, could make her a social outcast. She is putting herself on the line to putting these pictures in the public view, the last thing she needs is some creeper asking her for more.

4. DON’T feel entitled about anything: this ties into the previous rule, but no matter what it is, drawings, chatting, or anything, DON’T act like she owes you anything. Socializing on the internet should be, like all socializing, a pass time. Something to do when there is nothing to be done. If she isn’t talking to you or she hasn’t posted a drawing in a while, that probably means she doesn’t have time to do so.

5. DON’T objectify her: Really people, she is a human being, not a sex doll. she doesn’t need to put up with you living perverted messages on her wall about all the things you would do to her if you were her “daddy”. What else can I say, it’s just rude, and if you have done this, you should know better if you have the base level of intelligence to know how to work a keyboard and make a profile on a website, because that indicates that you have some common sense.

Well Said.

Usually- I've been in "non-session" chat enough *days* to know someone as a person. Long before anything more private than idle diversions from chat in the main room gets even thought of. Exceptions being comment on stories or blogs etc that are respectful/show that yeah, I took the time for trying to get an idea of what someone is- or is not, all about. If I've appeared going too fast- it's likely That you wrote or said some thing to have caught my fancy as a person.

And sometimes, that 's a good intro. Asking if they have written more along a shared concept:> Or messaging a linky to one of my stories I think they'd like. That way we're being- GASP, Conversational and chatty to see if there's even a reason to go on.

Role Play to me- involves an almost telepathy of knowing what the players want -or not and fleshing it out by voice tone or slow relaxed"is this hot or not" and REMEMBERING that my asking X got an AHH or an EWW.

The rest is shared time. Not shallow using each each other as toys. Some folks do like Zipless Fuck scenes, that leaves me cold. = I expect that'd end up being the same point as your post.

I'm happy someone made a post about this for all those 'creeps and weirdos' to see as well as others who don't know how to handle the situation. I always feel awkward trying to find something to talk about when I talk to a baby girl some times I find my words easy but other times I say things that offend them and I never meant to. I love getting to know new people and finding out if me and this person have something other then our kink in common. I always feel like I'm the one that has to find something to talk about. To be honest I'm barely ever asked any questions; it feels I'm always the one asking a question never the other way around so it gets awkward for me when I can't think of anything other then the obvious.

Some of these things I don't mind. Love answering questions, and even being interrogated can be hot. So can being treated like a baby girl by all/anyone.

But what I hate hate absolutely despise, is when people thrust their fantasies and fetishes onto me! I don't know how many examples I have of people (usually men) getting angry at me for answering honestly what I am into and not into. Here's a few examples: today I join the site and immediately get messaged with "what medfet do you like?" I answer "none" and they say "then why are you even on this site!!" Um...maybe because it's a kink site. I shouldn't ever have to defend what I am into or not into!

Another example is on a dating site I agreed to meet for coffee and then was bombarded by his personal fantasies of using me like a whore in the coffee shop and car. I was like, "what?"

Oh and one thing dominas seem to do that bugs me, is reprimand anyone and everyone (subs, doms, whoever) for not following their high protocols when said protocols are listed no where to be found. So, they just have invisible rules in their heads that no one knows about that they expect everyone to follow!

Grrr

Ok im done venting. Lol good topic!

Oof... I want to add a few more "How to talk to a BabyGirl No No's"

1.

If you don't understand their kinks/fetishes/fantasies please approach it with tact.

Example: "I don't get it. I just don't get it." or "You like THAT!?!?! Whhhyy???" = bad

"So, tell me more about what you like about this fantasy?", "What do you think brought on you liking these things?" = good.

2.

I'm sure you have a fabulous penis, but please wait as long as you can or until she asks, before your penis is in close up mode on cam. If she is in an age-play little baby mindset, this can be especially traumatic. If you don't want to show your face, show your T-shirt or chest or something.

3.

Don't be a man pretending to be a woman. TG's Crossdressers TV's are wonderful, but fake profiles, lies, manipulations are not.

Don't be a man pretending to be a woman. TG's Crossdressers TV's are wonderful, but fake profiles, lies, manipulations are not.

That is a rule on this site. If someone is pretending to be female and is in fact male you should report them to the moderators.

I certainly agree with ex-member about not thrusting your fantasies onto us.

We want to be your playmate, not your plaything.

In online roleplay I always do a polite get to know you and then some what are your kinks, limits, and fantasies questions? I usually top and it really helps to know what the person wants, needs, and expects. Its somewhat personal but its important that we both enjoy it. I often play a mommy or other real female in RP but I'm always honest that I am really a sissy guy.

Thanks,

Thank you for writting this. Well spoken and written from experience I can see.

This post was really needed and everybody should read it. Some people just don't understand these things.

I hate 20 questions. It seems like every guy who becomes friends with me here feels like they can start asking intimate questions. Cut it out!!!

You have to have a nice soft tone sweet and loving, baby girls love it. When you talk soft and say nice things to them.

Okay, the 'don't s' are understandable....but.... forgive me for mistakes, since I'm very new in the daddy-girls department.

When you first meet eachother, online or in real, it sounds very logical to me that you also talk about the do's to get to know eachother better.

as if it was only to learn to know eachother's boundaries and likes, what age you wanna play, etc....

Assume that a dad is too sweet, too soft, or too rude and dirty or a girl that expect the craziest things that the dad don't like,...

Or how many percentage of the time you talk is roleplay, is that 100%, somewhere in between, or only during play sessions?

All questions and many more that arise in situations like this, which reminds me of a saying of Einstein, that all is relative.

You cannot think black or white, you need to get acquainted to eachother to fill your role at its best.

Otherwise you will be left with only disappointments.

That in contrast with real-life situations, where it's way more clear about how we should behave as an adult.

As of me, a middle aged (experienced in real life) adult I like to help and advice 'younger' people as well to take correct decisions in their life to have a good future.

It's all about expectations and needs, so, imho a good communication, mutual understanding, mutual respect and agreement is most important and what we ALL should realise.