New to this

I am fairly to to this lifestyle. My fiancé has been into it for awhile but has never had any luck with finding a good master. She can be very submissive. I have read a ton of things on the internet. One big question I have is that since we are newer Tobit how easy should I be on her? Any other advice would be great as well. Thanks

The two of you should stay in your comfort zones and slowly progress to more severe activities.

It is far better to start slowly and have the submissive wish for more than for the submissive to have gotten too much.

There is always next time.

One suggestion I always make for masters is that they submit themselves to the same punishment they intend to dish out. That way they know what the submissive is experiencing.

I think it's going to be a while before you are a master. Take it easy.

I'm currently dealing with a new play partner who's a serious pain slut. I'm a sadist. So far (just a couple of scenes), I haven't pushed her too far. We talk after each session. I've told her that I'm willing to go much further but with time. In the past, I've pushed too far too fast. It wasn't pretty.

Don't go past your comfort level and skill level. Communicate to learn her desire and tolerances. Remember that life happens and what was good today may not be right tomorrow. Adapt.

I'll second Susie's suggestion that you bottom to whatever you do before you consider yourself competent. I may not be able to take the amount of pain I can deliver, but I've been on the receiving end of every kind of toy I use. I'll also add that the term MASTER should be earned. IMO, there are no new masters. There are new tops and new doms.