Ladies' opinions please!

I find a slightly younger single lady very attractive but I have a partner I adore and would never leave. I sometimes fantasize about her when I masturbate... should I tell her? How would the ladies on here feel about somene they know fantasizing about them?

Thanks

Robert

I don't know your partner, so ...

If my boyfriend told me that he's fantasizing about someone else, I would accept this. A few years ago I was fantasizing about other men. I told my boyfriend, and he accepted it.

Not every woman would take it well, though. So I can't tell you which would be best in your case. I think that honesty is important in a relationship, but of course you don't want to risk a relationship for something that only happens inside your mind ...

Maybe try a different approach: talk to her about sexual fantasies in general so that you can see how she reacts.

I wasn't sure at first weather you ment tell your wife or the girl you are thinking about,

Please dont tell you wife,as it could hurt her feelings,as for the girl you like if you are not involved with her in anyway it might upset her,

I know I would so not like the idea of someone doing that,if there wasn't something going on between us.

Would it not be best to find a safe play friend that you fancy and you both can have that mutual satisfaction.

I think you should keep this to yourself..If you confess it, she might admit that she is doing EXACTLY the same thing, fantasizing about someone else while she is with you..How would that make you feel? I'm a very honest, open person and believe the truth is always best but some things are better left unsaid.

Thanks for the input ladies.

It stays a fantasy!

Don't tell your wife...I'm open-minded and not particularly jealous, but I would not be happy if my partner felt the need to tell me something like that. I understand that realistically he does fantasize about other people, but making the choice to say it out loud to me would indicate that it was a much bigger deal than just a normal fantasy. IIt would make me sad, and I'm not sure if I would ever be able to trust him again.

I don't think I would like hearing this from a casual acquaintance. She will be offended or it could start something between the two of you. You have stated you don't want to hurt your partner, so keep this to yourself.

@evoman ... good choice on keeping it a fantasy. As liberal minded and 'advanced' or 'worldly' as i like to think i am .. there was a time when news like that would have turned me into total bitch. Now .. i'm just a partial bitch. 😉 but keep your fantasy to yourself.

I say don't tell her. A fantasy is a fantasy, enjoy it 😃 I would be flattered that someone fantazied about me 😃

Unless you KNOW your girlfriend wants to know your fantasies, keep it to yourself.

Even if you are fantasizing about her, she may feel that you should be doing all your sexual activities-even masturbation with her, OR she may feel you shouldn't be masturbating and should only be having sex with her. You never know.

Keep it to yourself.

I think it would be a bad idea to tell her. Keep it to yourself.

The fantasy is unique, perfected by you and untouchable by others.

How can your partner possibly compete?

It would be cruel to tell her.

Please, under no circumstances tell her. Even if she begs to know, I can not see it being a good idea.

Who do you want to tell? Your partner or the younger lady? Not clear to me by the responses to your post.

However, some fantasies, like this one should remain a fantasy. Do NOT tell your partner. Not sexy.

Do NOT tell the other younger lady....would be majorly CREEPY.