What's a 'Sissy?'

What's a sissy? Is anyone who cross dresses a sissy? What activities does one do or mental states should one have to qualify?

You are asking a specific but yet broad question so I will try to the best of my understanding to help you to understand. If you want the dictionary reference it's an effeminate boy or man, a timid or cowardly person. If you want the more personal reference it's kinda the same thing. Cross dress does not mean you are a sissy though. Cross dressing means you want to dress like the opposite sex; remember females do this to. It also depends how you use the word, it could mean another way to say sister as well. Back to your question, a sissy is a wimpy man or boy. In some cases this can be taken to the extreme where the female or male takes a more dominate role over a weaker male. In most scenarios it's a female that dominates the weaker male by making him feel weaker then he is. It's kinda of sadistic in my option but the female takes pleasure out of humiliating the weak male by putting him into a mind set of obeying her no matter what. Be it dressing up like a female to show in a physical way how weak he is or making him do other things he more then often doesn't like. As time goes on the male usually grows to enjoy it. The reason behind this is that a person's brain will try to make a bad thing into a good thing. It helps us accept this bad or uncomfortable thing. So having said that this sort of thing happens usually at a young age and over time your mind tries to make sense of it sometimes by turning it into something you want to pursue. It later in adult hood sometimes sooner turns into what can be called a fetish. A fetish as explained through dictionary references is 'A sexual fixation or obsession with a usually non-sexual object'.

Note: I can't think to add any more to this at this time I might later.

For me being a sissy involves wearing ruffly pink baby / little girl clothes along with my diapers.

Karma bump for Pat for keeping it simple. Good job too babyboy.

When I was growing up a sissy was considered a boy who couldn't do boy-type things - like kick a football or run hard. Although I played sports, I was never good at it, I think my younger years has something to do with the need to be called a sissy. I have never considered myself a sissy (or am I in denial....) even though I LOVE to wear all sorts of lingerie that must have silky frilly fabric, the more naughty/girly the better. Maybe, more of my background, might give "my" perspective of being a sissy. When I'm dressed male, I can be around men and feel I'm their equal. I have a HUGE desire to be in control of my surondings (not controlling to others), that is why I could not do drugs, I'd lose that control. In all respects, I probably would be called a manly man. I hunt and fish and do all sorts manly chores.

So, all that said, I also have a need to withdraw from all that and (for lack of better words) manage my childhood experiences by dressing up in lingerie and have woman and men laugh at me, pointing, look at that sissy, he needs to be publicly humiliated. He (note I say "he") needs to be dressed in pink frilly panty and bra (that's what I'm wearing now) and service men. He should be dominated by a woman and bent over so she can use her strapon on him. He should be told when to cum, and when he does cum, he must cum on a plate and lick it all up.

I believe, sissy is a loose term and is personal to each sissy.

Stan

To me a sissy differs from a crossdresser in that a CD tries to pass as a female wearing normal clothes i.e. age appropriate skirt, blouse, heels what have you. A sissy always dresses way over the top femme. Always lots of frills, bows, ribbons and anything else that screams 'Look at me I'm a girl!', but usually prevents the sissy from passing as it draws attention. Thats why the stereotypical little girl ruffly party dress, ankle socks, and mary janes is such a turn on for many sissies, including me, as it is super girly.

I agree with Dan and Babyboy on what they've said and it really gets into what it personally means for you.

Growing up, I'd agree that being labeled 'sissy' meant you physically did things or acted in a way that was not masculine. The way you walked/threw a ball/ran/etc basically got you labeled. Guys didn't get called 'normal' it was an unspoken status unless something changed that perception. But if you were weak/wimpy or especially effeminate, then sissy became something that you'd get labeled rather quickly and it wasn't seen as a positive. I know that being teased is pretty normal/regular in all growing up and we regularly called guys sissy or fag as things happened, one weak throw in baseball and you'd get 'razzed'. We didn't truly think it through, it was a jargon of growing boys.

As for guys who dress. Could be just panties, or could be all the way to passing as a woman and all points in-between, it gets a little tricky as some may see it as a big positive being called 'sissy' where others would be very offended. It's meant to be a bit of a humiliating term, one that belittles the person being called it.

From my own personal experience, it was very confusing enjoying wearing lingerie and knowing that men aren't 'supposed' to wear panties and such. If someone saw me in panties, it would not be a stretch to have them call me sissy, even though I didn't feel or act girly. To me, I am a masculine guy that wears, it just so happened it's lingerie. Its the thrill of wearing, the rush and excitement of it that is enjoyable.

What raised the question of 'sissy' as a term for me happened with my first m2m experience. Without all the details, I was more of the 'top' role in that meeting, the man I was with did not wear fem gear, I wore panties/stockings/garters and he commented in a moment of passion that he thought I was a 'sexy sissy'. It shocked me how hot I found that comment. Was I sissy? Really? Afterwards, I felt that the term was what HE thought, not me. He saw me in lingerie and was aroused and that was his feeling. The question that came up in my mind was 'what does being sissy really mean?' It's a personal thing, and his use of the word sparked a thought that sissy can mean various things. It could be a positive or a negative based on context. I liked it. It was a term that meant I'm a guy that dresses, but that's me, and others may despise it. I'm a linebacker build, nobody would ever call me a 'sissy', however, if they saw me dressed in fem gear...that may be possible! LOL.

Since then, I do refer to the times when I'm dressed as either 'dressing' or sometimes as being in 'sissy gear'. For me, it's my ownership of the term. I'm more of a "butch sissy" type. A mans man that wears fem gear. I don't walk girly, don't talk girly and want to be one. But Hell, wearing filly things can be very hot and if that makes my desire to dress seem sissy, then so be it!

As a final note, no way is a crossdresser sissy as a default. Not in my estimation, they could be, it may have no bearing whatsoever.

I'm kind of new to all this so please take with a grain of salt...I've recently asked myself what I am. Am I sissy because I like wearing sexy panties? or am I a sissy because I would like to have a dominant make me a sub panty slut and take away my standard male role. I agree with several of you that it's what context the term is used in that makes the difference. If you called me a sissy slut while I'm wearing my panties...it would turn me on, because that's part of my fantasy But in any other context it would be fighting words. To me and I think other men, that "sissy time" is a vacation from our daily reality. It's a time when we are not In our masculine roles and don't have to be the tough guy. I realize other men may want this role full time. I personally don't. I'd like to have both roles accepted and be able to change as I like.

I am a total sissy. I was dressed as a girl at age 5 by my mum and sister, i was taught how to curtsy and skip about as girls used to do. Was taught how to walk very gracefully. A sissy girl is suppose to act like a girlie girl, my bedroom walls are painted pink, i wear something pink everyday, pink berets or a pink ribbons in my hair i wear dresses with lacy petticoats under them, the maryanne's with ankle socks.

Being the sissy of the house i also wear nappies and plastic pant to bed and sometimes during the day if I'm bad. A sissy wants to act very sissified 24/7, a cross dresser is guy that just wants to wear girls clothes to blend in, they want to look and act like a grown up girl. Even if they just like to wear lingerie under their clothes, they are still a cross dresser. They want to try to blend in out in public and want people to except them as a girl.

Me,i like to act sissified, real girlie all the time and love to have all the attention on me as i prance about my home. And the more people that see me and giggle and laugh, the more girlie i act for everyone, i act this way even when i am out in public. I want everyone to see how sissified i am. I enjoy everyone looking at me.

I don't know. I think of myself as a Sissy, but not a little girl. I cross dress most of the time but, although I love to bottom, I don't feel submissive. I just love the feeling of receiving anal. I have a Boyfriend and we have bareback sex. I love how he feels inside me and love knowing his cum is inside me!