Platonic enemas outside of a marriage?

I haven't seen this topic in here, per se. But I think it's an important one. I have read lots of postings about enema-lovers being paired with a husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend who was not interested in giving or receiving enemas. Has anyone ever had an open discussion about getting enemas outside the marriage/partnership because it was a "need" that was going unaddressed? If so, was the spouse/partner accepting of the situation and did you enjoy enemas with an outsider? Or did it cause jealousy or other unpleasant reactions? I have not yet heard of a successful "openness" in this regard. From my own personal experience, an ex-husband reacted to my candor about enemas with disgust and jealousy.

Having a "platonic" enema session with someone necessarily exposes body parts that are otherwise off-limits to strangers. So I can see where a partner would want his/her companion to do this type of thing outside of a relationship. Yet, having an unaddressed "need" and unfulfilled fetish seems unfair.

My beloved wife simply cannot understand the need and is disgusted by it. I get enemas from nurses when she is out of town.

Such a "need" was not, thankfully, an issue in my long, and for want of a better phrase, enema compatable (and very long) and wonderful) marriage.

The passing of my wife several years ago leaves me extra lonely regarding enemas.

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If you have to go "outside" your marriage to get what is needed.......then you married the wrong person. I did this with my ex......that is why she is my ex. Sadly, we often stay together because of kids, or , in my case MONEY. I KNEW the ex was going into the "bonus-round" when I told her I was filing for a divorce...........cash and prizes were well into the 6 figures......but I have only ONE life, and I dont regret it one ounce!!! I have the woman,lover,wife that Ive always wanted. If people can accomplish this without animosity, and still have a genuine relationship.............Its great..........just never met anyone who would like to be considered inadequate, but still wish to remain in an honest marriage. We all have needs.

"If you have to go "outside" your marriage to get what is needed.......then you married the wrong person"

I disagree emphatically. We all have many needs. I am married to a woman who meets almost all of mine, and I try to do the same for her. To make one's "need" for this rather unusual practice a condition for marriage is to indulge a very distorted perspective.

I had a long time enemate that would have me administer enemas several times a year, with no sexual activity. After about five years she retired from her job with the government and shortly after "retired" from her enema play... so sad.

That is really an issue -- although my wife has been aware of my strong interests in enemas from the beginning of our relationship she is till not going to fullfill my needs.

Thus, I have started a research for a professional nurse who could perform the treatments. After I have found one who was a perfect fit (educated, experienced, well shaped and even sexually interested) I have explained my plan to her openly. She has then refused it completely. It was a few years ago.

I have started to think about this again -- the good thing is that there are some nurses offering enema treatments here in the UK. Obviously I am not going to announce this to her this time...

This is an interesting topic and one which I think has been addressed before but from a different angle!

I agree completely with the last paragraph from 'ex-member' posted last month. Allowing someone to see/touch what most men would feel were the most intimate parts of their body, parts which very few people would get access to, is a big and humbling step for most of us. For a gay man like me, it is a very bonding experience, even though it is not with one's partner due to their disinterest in this subject. Regarding the bit about having chosen the wrong partner, I do not feel that there is a yes or no or you are quite right or you are wrong to the question that was raised, For a lot of us, love is where it falls, and hopefully we enter into a relationship that ticks more plus, than negative boxes.

Platonic? Woody Allen had the best line on platonic relationships: When asked if he thought one could have a platonic relationship he answered: "Before or after sex?"

I had many enemas from other women while married was an extra turn om for me

As a klysmo., any enema is the same thing as sex, even if sexual contact never happens.

Very important question! My ex-husband found out I was meeting up with a strange man to give and receive enemas and it was a precipitating event prior to divorcing a year later. Interestingly, my ex's main objection was that he thought it was a perverse, sick need to have an enema fetish and demanded I get psychotherapy to address it. He was not as upset about meeting the stranger.

Captivated, it's your ex who had his priorities out-of-whack. Given how intense the draw of an enema fetish can be -- god knows, I feel it! -- a savvy husband would have picked up on your needs and helped you fulfill them. Sounds like you're good to be rid of him. I hope you feel that way.

My situation is similar. My wife and I exchanged enemas for years but supposedly strictly for health reasons, even though every time we did we had hot sex afterwards. :ater in our marriage we drifted apart and she stopped sharing enemas. In fact when I realized that she no longer wanted to give or receive I was crushed and felt rejected which lead to a more serious issue. I went outside the marriage meting a great lady who shared our love for them. My wife found out and she was more upset thinking I was sick. Fifteen years later we are stilled married because I love her dearly and we have so much to stay together for, but my need is still so strong that i still want to maintain a relationship with an enema partner outside the marriage. However I agree with Woody our relationship wound up including other activities including spanking and sex. My friend unfortunately moved away so I am left seeking to replace her. Very sad on both counts!

To Eneman

Yes, well my ex insisted we go get therapy for "me" together. The psychothetapist recommended during the first session that we schedule separate appointments to work through our issues and consider doing couple's therapy as well. The issue here was incompatility on many levels and his zero tolerance for hearing that enemas were a form of fetish rather than a perversion. Yes it is good to be out of that marriage.

I am married to what I consider the perfect wife. She is open sexually, she has other lovers (with my approval) both male and female. She masturbates often, loves to have sex and loves more than one sex partner at a time. She sometimes brings home other woman for me to enjoy, we talk about our sexual needs openly to each other. As sexual oriented as she is, enemas do not fall into a sexual thrill for her as it does for me and a lot of readers here. I think a lot of folks don't "get it" that not everyone is open to or willing to be involved with enemas either sexually or therapeutically.

The answer to this dilemma is I seek out others who enjoy enemas on the same level that I do. Unfortunately finding an enemata is time consuming and difficult. I am not opposed to paying for it and I found there are a lot of dominate women with ads who are willing to give enemas. If being with a person who shares enemas with you is your desire, this has to be worked out before marriage. I thing the chances are slim to none that you can convert someone to this unusual fetish.

Given a chance for platonic enemas with a women , i would do it in a heart beat.

My beloved wife of five years really understands my need to go for regular colonics but has no desire to go herself. I go to three ladies, all of whom are totally professional and are married. My wife has met two of the ladies, one "C" at her clinic in a northern city, when I went for a treatment and she went off shopping, and another at a social function for my 60th birthday. The latter was interesting as a number of our friends asked "A" how she knew me and she explained that I went to her for colon hydrotherapy. To go back to the thread, I have been going regularly to these ladies for years, we know each other really well, we (pre-COVID) kiss and cuddle on arrival and departure, I take wine or flowers, we discuss "everything under the sun", "S" has had me purchase an enema bag and shapewear for her, but the relationships are totally platonic and could never be anything else.

It's been quite some time since any discussion about platonic enema arrangements. I have previously posted that 2 people should be able to share in this en-deavor without any expectation of a sexual encounter. I say this while still recognizing the sensual/sexual implications of our enema interest.

Many of us recall our moms, grandmas, aunts, and neighbors discussing enemas in our presence. Some of us actually observed, or interrupted, others giving or being given an enema. I never believed that they were engaging in a sexual relationship or act. That's not to say that my involuntary reactions didn't kick into overdrive.

I have been fortunate to share enemas with others who enjoyed the procedure without it progressing to a sex act. Some were arrangements arranged on this site as well as others. I have also enjoyed enemas provided by colon hydrotherapists who also give enemas and sometimes massage as well. Many people say they are looking for a "mentor". As one experienced in enemas for more than 60 years, I have had the privilege of mentoring others without compensation or sexual favors.

These relaxing and therapeutic interactions are done with the ultimate discretion in order to mitigate potentially negative circumstances. While some may consider these as cheating on a spouse or partner, the exchange of these intimate procedures seemingly have a positive outcome. After all, can only a doctor or nurse administer an enema or take rectal temps? Does one have to pay for a massage at the local massage business? Is a licensed, and expensive colon hydrotherapist the only option?

Again, the sensual/sexual implications exist, but an understanding ahead of time should mitigate the issue. A couple of adults should be able to enjoy enemas, and/or any "additional benefits" agreed upon in advance. If any recollections of an interaction provide stimulus for those involuntary reactions, so be it and enjoy the shits and giggles!

Cheating is what folks define it as. I've given a lot (and received a few) enemas which are nothing more than enemas... no sex, no other sexual activity. Not saying it's not sexy or sexual. But am saying that grownups can set their own boundaries and enemas can coexist with exclusivity if everyone involved agrees.

My wife and I have made an agreement (her suggestion) that I am able to give and receive enemas from others. She gives them to me, but will not receive. She is also not interested in sex that much anyway.

I agree with the other writer that enemas are sexual... at least to me. I am allowed to assist others to orgasm anf bring myself to orgasm during enemas, but there is no penetration or anything that I would consider sexual.

This is only because we believe in open communication amd trust. I have never and would never cross the sexual line woth my enema playmates nor would I ever develop "feelings" for them. If that ever happened I would bail and cut ties.

My wife is the best person I know and I love her with all my heart. She understands my hyper desire for enemas and is willing to trust me to stick to that play.

I am truly blessed.

Enemas have always been inextricably linked to sexual arousal for me, even when done to myself. Of course the multiple machine colonics I've had over the years have by necessity been platonic, though every one as usual resulted in a spectacular orgasm either in the clinic restroom or right afterwards at home. A few times I've even specifically told the colonic administrator that I thoroughly enjoy being full and distended and to make each fill after the first couple as large and long as they are permitted.

The only person I've ever gone to for non-colonic recreational enemas has been a Domme I found many years ago on the old Beth Tyler listings. We knew it was going to involve some sort of sexuality during or after my submissive enemas, either masturbation or oral or PIV.

If I were to find an interested woman to give or trade enemas with me these days, I'm doubtful I'd ever even set it up without leaving at least masturbation on the table. I do love getting enemas from a woman, especially with me as a sub, but if it could only be platonic, I'd most likely just do myself at home with kink accessories (rubber clothes, sneakers, gag, gas mask, etc.) and a fantasy Domme.

Eric