Ass play

Hi, I was just wondering how I can get my wife interest in anal play. We have try it a little but she is not a big fan, I love it and would like to do it more.

Start slow. First while she is laying on her side insert two fingers into her vagina, the middle and ring finger. As she starts getting excited and her hips start moving slowly press your pinky finger against her rosebud using her lubrication. I did this once to a girl and she went crazy trying to figure out what I was doing to her. Slowly start working to your thumb, but you've got to stretch her slowly. Work your way up to larger and larger things, before you know it, it will be you inside her. Have fun.

Thanks wander, I have tryed that and on two occasions she has been happy for me to insert my finger , and seemed to love it. But now it's a no go zone again.so I'm at a loss.

Okay try this. Have her lay on her back fingering her real deep (get under her cervix), use your ring and index finger with your thumb touching her rosebud. Get her real worked up, but don' let her come; she may cuss you out, but ignore it.

Lubricate your thumb with KY and gently press it against her rosebud. By now her hips should me working up and down real nice, begging. This time press your thumb against her rosebud in time with her thrusts. She'll be so hot she'll be impaling herself on your thumb. Stay with it. Don't finger her any other way. She'll eventually start to associate the anal stimulation with her orgasm. Good Luck. PM me if you like.

Get her real worked up, but don' let her come; she may cuss you out, but ignore it.

@Wanderer2

I am curious..How would you prevent a woman from cuming?

@Wanderer2

If I understand that correctly, then, you use two fingers to stimulate her vaginally until she is so excited that she is vigorously humping your fingers.

Then - having 'placed' your well-lubed thumb in a position close to her anal opening - you let her hips and butt movements bring her rose back towards your thumb. I guess that when she moves with a suitably large thrust onto your fingers (when she is pushing down hard onto them) you place your thumb, almost without touching her, exactly where her rosebud is. So, on her next movement - when her butt moves quickly backwards so as to 'withdraw' from the pair of fingers that are in her vagina - she herself moves her bud back onto your static thumb and, as you say, she impales herself upon it.

That sounds like a great technique.

Let me know if I've got that right, and - also - whats's your advice as to what extent that first impalement should be: just over the tip of the thumb, as far as its knuckle, or would you give her the full thumb-length in one? Not sure if going all the way might bring things to an abrupt halt (if she's not really expecting it) and whether the 'conditioning' (to associate orgasms with ass play) has to be more subtle to be effective.

Grace is right.

Longer time ago, I had a girlfriend, who also normaly didn't like anal play.

By making her real randy, she started to enjoy it.

I'm not saying this works for everyone, but let me answer some of the questions here.

@ grace1. How do you keep a woman from coming? You stop doing what you're doing. If you know your girl well, you know when she's getting close.

@ Facilitator. I probably didn't explain that right. Right hand two fingers inside of her, real deep, under cervix. In my experience a girl will lift her hips up to match your thrusts with your fingers. Left hand thumb, lubricate well beforehand. As she starts lifting her hips to match your thrusts your thumb just "happens" to be over her rosebud. With each thrust let her work it in with a little help from yourself. Start out with the tip of your thumb, eventually your whole thumb should, hopefully at some point in the future, be able to get all the way in past all those muscles at the opening, this could take a couple of tries. If she's inexperienced it could take some time she'll be tight. Remember NEVER stop fingering her this way. Let her come this way. There are a lot of nerve endings at her rosebud and they need to be sensitized. Train her!!! Eventually she'll start to want it, hopefully. Then once she's sensitized start working onto larger and larger things. Eventually you should be a very happy man. 😁

This has always worked for me. Good luck!!!