The Psychology All Types of Anal Penetration

While craving, and, or having things up my ass, be it a cock, an enema, a fist, etc., I've wondered aside from the actual physical pleasure of it, how much of the ecstasy and joy of it was in my head too. The combination of both elements is amazing. And, while getting it, I have such a feeling of submission that I wonder about myself. I've always felt and acted out in that I'm sub with men, and Dom with women. But, when penetrated, I belong to and love whoever is doing me at that moment. I find it very hard to actually explain the mental part of it. When I have a fist up me, just near, or into my colon, and I'm moaning like I've never thought I could, the combo is what I'd have to say is existential. I wonder how others feel about this.

Explaining the mental part would take thousands of words, but I understand what you're trying to say, I think. I have never been fisted, but I do really like fisting women and penetrating/fucking them vaginally. I've never tried anal fisting, but fisting a woman vaginally is beyond intense as a giver and I know it is the same as a receiver based on feedback I've gotten. There is such an incredible merging of the energy when you fist someone, especially in an sm context. That is particularly awesome.

For me, stimulation of the sphincter itself is the bulk of the pleasure. Once the object is inside, not much more until I hit my prostate...

While craving, and, or having things up my ass, be it a cock, an enema, a fist, etc.,[color=#000000] I've wondered aside from the actual physical pleasure of it, how much of the ecstasy and joy of it was in my head too.[/color] The combination of both elements is amazing. And, while getting it, I have such a feeling of submission that I wonder about myself. I've always felt and acted out in that I'm sub with men, and Dom with women. But, when penetrated, I belong to and love whoever is doing me at that moment. I find it very hard to actually explain the mental part of it. When I have a fist up me, just near, or into my colon, and I'm moaning like I've never thought I could, the combo is what I'd have to say is existential. I wonder how others feel about this.

It's ALL inside your head, which is not to say I believe all the psychological mumbo jumbo, most of which is bullshit.

The other body parts are merely the vehicle for the sensations. 😁

I am a bit more focused on the physical side as well. I love the sensation of the first contact with my anus and then as the object enters the tight feeling of my sphincter muscles grabbing and then there is the pop feeling of getting past my sphincter and entering my rectum. The big payoff is my prostate which can provide pleasure that is felt in my entire anal / genital region.

The psychological side maybe a bit less defined for me. I have had women finger and do dildos and vibrators but I really wasn't thinking about anymore than the intense physical pleasure I was feeling. So for me, a bit heavier on the physical side vs. the existential.

For me, as a man, receiving a fist is an act of extreme submission. I am giving her permission to enter a very vulnerable place and take total control of my body. This is very freeing for me.

A penis, or a dildo is a physical sensation, but I find a fist puts me in a whole separate reality. Being fisted is an out of body experience.

Having any anal play, or penetration done to me feels incredibly submissive. But to be allowed to explore my Man's ass whether with my tongue, fingers or toys is like an exploratory mission of pleasure and feels neither Dom or Sub to me, not sure how it made partners feel for sure though. The reactions are so noticeable, very easy to distinguish between STOP! and OMG do it more! I'm very much a pleaser.

I've only almost taken my own fist (its hard, due to big hands). for me the act feels like the most extreme taboo of kink. The physical sensation of stretching out and filling up..and feeling my own insides is also unbelievable. I guess its both.

The most i've ever had with partner was a woman who let me get 3-4 fingers in her during a submission play, feeling her clamp down before loosening and accepting me was insanely hot.. even more when she held it open when i took them out so i could spit inside before going back in. damn.

The psychology of anal penetration??? Animals are hard wired to like pleasurable sensations. If animals didn't like those sensations, no one would do it.

It feels good. There are lots of nerves there that make a constant reminder of how good stimulation of those areas feel. Yes, you do need to learn how to make the sensations as good as they are just like with vaginal penetration. Just read the threads on women losing their virginity. Most had a lousy time and many had painful experiences, yet they are all here fucking away, getting penetrated.

For me, as a man, receiving a fist is an act of extreme submission. I am giving her permission to enter a very vulnerable place and take total control of my body. This is very freeing for me.

That's YOU.

My husband loves being fisted and it isn't an act of submission at all for him. He will TELL me to do it. That technically makes him the top or dominant player.

His orgasm while I jerk him off with my arm inside him is something he looks forward to having me do for him.

I agree with @SwitchableSusie and @Gem. When a female partner penetrates me with a finger, toy or nozzle it's not submissive at all. It's 2 lovers making each other feel good. Once a partner used language of a dominant manner and it really turned me off.

However when i penetrate my partner anally it can be a dominant thing or just 2 lovers again. It depends on the scene, position, language, 'vibe' of what we are doing. Since I am the dominant one there is usually some aspect of me 'taking' her ass, but it doesn't have to be.

Sex is certainly physical but it is SO mental as well, and I think even more so for kinky folk given the way fetishes turn us on.

I don't worry about the labels, lets just frolic ... I will do to you what feels pleasurable to you and you do me with what feels pleasurable to me.

The activities can be the full spectrum of topics/fetishes mentioned here, the caveat is mutual agreement.

Being penetrated is one of my big turn on's. Started when young (5-6 y.o.) A finger (not mine) inserted all the way while coated with Vick's really sets off the mental rockets. Not interested in having a penis insert in mine, but mine in my female partner is hot.

If you look at the psychoanalytics of the anal stage, you can start to get a sense of how fragile the physical self-concept is for a little kid. There is a vivid sense of dissolution of bodily integrity...which is fun under the right circumstances, but terrifying if it isn't under your control.

1970'sboy

I LOVE the submissiveness of a hand, a rock hard cock, a toy, a huge plug in my ass. LOVE IT!

For the umpteenth time, I agree with Susie. Being fisted by a woman has nothing to do with being dominant or submissive, for me it's merely about being pleasured in a very intense and intimate way by someone who wants to and isn't put off by the particular act.

Never thought of it as being dominant. After the gulp, or breath taker, the power fills me and there is no going back. I yearn for heaven at that point and is something I can't be denied.

That's YOU.

My husband loves being fisted and it isn't an act of submission at all for him. He will TELL me to do it. That technically makes him the top or dominant player.

His orgasm while I jerk him off with my arm inside him is something he looks forward to having me do for him.

Susie,

Just guessing as I've never done it, but I imagine that as your husband orgasms with your hand/wrist/arm inside him, you must get some interesting (and I would say thrilling and erotic) sensations as his rectum/anus also spasms or contracts around your arm. I'm sure you both enjoy the hell out of it.

Eric

For the umpteenth time, I agree with Susie. Being fisted by a woman has nothing to do with being dominant or submissive, for me it's merely about being pleasured in a very intense and intimate way by someone who wants to and isn't put off by the particular act.

Never thought of it as being dominant. After the gulp, or breath taker, the power fills me and there is no going back. I yearn for heaven at that point and is something I can't be denied.

Exactly. Similar for me to a butt plug or enema - It can be just delightful erotic mutually enjoyable sensations between two lovers. But if you enjoy the D/s dynamic, it can also be enjoyed with one feeling dominant, the other submissive, adding another layer of interaction, enjoyment and arousal. I love anal plugs and enemas by themselves, but with a trusted Domme in control of it, it's even more satisfying.

Eric

For the umpteenth time, I agree with Susie. Being fisted by a woman has nothing to do with being dominant or submissive, for me it's merely about being pleasured in a very intense and intimate way by someone who wants to and isn't put off by the particular act.

Haven't gotten her fist up me, but I do know that the times she has inserted her fingers it has been an amazing experience. Sure, it felt really good, but it also was one of the most intimate things I've ever done with her, having a part of her inside me.

I've looked at her hand and thought that it probably could fit.

Exactly. Similar for me to a butt plug or enema - It can be just delightful erotic mutually enjoyable sensations between two lovers. But if you enjoy the D/s dynamic, it can also be enjoyed with one feeling dominant, the other submissive, adding another layer of interaction, enjoyment and arousal. I love anal plugs and enemas by themselves, but with a trusted Domme in control of it, it's even more satisfying.

Agreed. Dominant/Submissive. Top/Bottom. We probably change roles and are one or the other several times in one session or sub session. The communication, trust, respect, awareness, safe word are all so important that the role playing is fine, however egos have no place. When I know I literally have a life on my arm the power surge is mind blowing! Even when he goes into subspace and is somewhere else and is saying things that make no sense, he is still in control as I ultimately must know my limitations. Things like. Elbow up or down, shoulder height in relation to spine, left, right, too deep, not deep enough, too fast, too slow, etc. All these must be right to get my ultimate mind fuck. Only when I know all is perfect and I know by how he reacts and is relaxed, we melt together.

Clearly, this can be an act of total submission and vulnerability even though the fistee can and does, ultimately, call the shots, but whether that sense of surrender prevails or if the sheer erotic/sexual pleasure of it floods out all thoughts of who I am and what role I play, it is an amazingly hot thing to do or have done.

Sex of all varieties is a combination of physical sensations and psychological intensity. But anal play for me is the ultimate in psychological pleasure, such a naughty, shameful, intimate, forbidden area of the body, exposed to another person who then penetrates this very very private place.

Long ago a female colleague and I started having sex after months of flirting, and after only a few nights she made it clear she wanted to “examine” me. My heart beating out of my chest, she took control, pushed me into my back and told me to hold my legs back.

I obeyed.

She knelt on the floor and brought the bedside lamp next to her, like an exam light. My brain exploding with excitement and embarrassment, I looked down at her face, a huge smile across it as she looked down at my privates, for what felt like forever. And then I felt her hands on my cheeks, and her thumbs pulled them wide apart. I had never felt so exposed, ashamed, overjoyed, and confused. She held me wide open as she looked, for minutes, smiling all the while, and then said “Ohhhh, look at the smooth pink skin inside you, it’s so beautiful!” And it was at this point that I felt her push her finger inside me, slowly, watching. All the way in, all the way out, over and over, and commenting the entire time.

Not sure how to describe my orgasm.

For us there is no psychology behind it. Just physical pleasure giving or receiving .