Lover/mate keeping sex details secret,.a turnon?

If you are into cuckolding, or swinging,etc, is it part of your kink to keep details of your encounter "secret" from your mate.?? Sometimes, out of the blue...my wife tells me that she is currently spermy,when I had no idea she was "active". Kinda like(I.E.), I thought she was shopping, but actually fucked a friend.....kinda surprised me ex-post-facto!!! Sometimes, I find this erotic,especially if she wont disclose the positions they used, certain details,etc.She claims its more "naughty", and sometimes a turn-on to engage when Im not aware. Kinda has some "shock" value,or extra kinkiness in the value index!!!!

My wife kept it secret that she'd fucked a friend of mine. This despite the fact that I'd been on at her for ages to play with him. One night as we were fucking, and I whispering that I wanted her to fuck him, she started crying and admitted she'd let him several weeks ago. That sent me into orbit, I went down on her immediately, imagining his cum in there (!) As soon as she realised that I was more than happy about it, he was round a lot more often, especially as I was away for long periods

My husband and I have been into Swinging for over 25 years. We are very open about what happens between one of us and a different partner. I am not really interested in details, he however is interested in as many details as I am willing to share. There are some things that are better left unsaid. The telling of the details tends to arouse him. Jealousy is something that has no place in Swinging.

My husband and I used to swing for a few years when we were really young before we had a family. We haven't in over 24 years. We stopped a year before we decided to become pregnant because we wanted to be positive we wouldn't have an AIDS baby. Nothing was ever a secret because we did it together. I have been saying for the last few years that after our parental needs are completed and our daughters were self sufficient, especially after getting their inheritance from us (we won't need the money when we're dead) we might start swinging again, but life has been so busy and we have been having such a good time with each other, we haven't gone back to swinging, which is NOT to say we haven't have plenty of S&M parties and attended erotic balls or had sex in public since then.

Susie as you know I am not into women, but damn you are so freakin hot and sexy. Good lord already!

Mashie

I think knowing everything is more of a turn on for me. I find it really difficult if I don't know all the details. It makes me feel a part of the experience. Like even though it's swinging, ultimately it's a shared experience in the relationship.

I would want to know everything. Actually I'd like to be there to watch. I've never participated in this so it's still just a fantasy. But in every fantasy I come up with I am there and as she's performing I get that " I'm doing this for you " look and that's a turn on.

I've been in more open relationships than 'closed' ones. Sometimes we play together, sometimes we find another playmate. As long as we come back to each other it's all good.

If a woman has been having sex, I can tell the moment she walks in the door. They smell different. If a man has been having sex, I can tell as he comes in the driveway. Men are terrible at covering their tracks.

My current sweetheart and I are Friends with Benefits. We don't live together, and have seperate lives at times, and are joined at the hip at others. We tell each other when we've been having sex, and usually, at least some of the details. She's into BDSM, and me not at all, so she just heads off and does her thing. I'm a size queen, and anal only, so I go chasing huge cocks, which is not really her thing.

Somehow, we end up at the same breakfast table, still in love with each other.

. . . . If a woman has been having sex, I can tell the moment she walks in the door. They smell different. If a man has been having sex, I can tell as he comes in the driveway. Men are terrible at covering their tracks. . . .

MEN: If you are going to cheat, bring the same brand of soap you normally shower with to the location of your tryst so you can get cleaned up before going home to your wife.

DON'T use your girlfriend's perfumy soap. It's a dead giveaway.

Switchable Susie- There are a lot of giveaways. Guilt gifts, more frequent showering, change of schedule, change of style of dress (If he suddenly stops wearing tighty whities, and buys lame thongs, there's something up!)

I would MUCH rather be in a relationship he could come home and tell me he'd had great sex, than to lie to me.

I wish I would discover that my spouse did anything sexual - secretly or not.

I wish my wife was having sex with someone, anyone ?

It's a turn on for me to know all the details. I wouldn't want her to keep any part of it a secret.