How do I make it hurt less?

I have a Tantus Ryder. I use plenty of lube on it and it slides in easy, but it takes awhile and hurts. Maybe it's because it doesn't taper. I'll go to put it in and it'll be fine, but then about halfway through of sticking it in I'll get searing pain from my stretching anus. Then I'll have to ease it out a bit then work it back in again until it's fully in, but even when fully inserted, the pain still lasts for a decent time (not a good thing). Does anyone have suggestions on how I can prevent the pain from happening in the first place?

Seems a bit obvious to me Partyofone - ditch the Tantus Ryder.

It's clearly too big for you and you need to work up to it with smaller objects - and although you say 'plenty of lube' it might be insufficient.

Pain is an indication that something is amiss - Don't ignore it - or tolerate it.

Hi how are you. i saw what you wrote. you might want to get a plug the is tappered at the end so it can slide in easier. they also have plugs that are tappered that inflates.

let me know if this works for you

warm water

Sounds like you need to move down to a smaller plug. Then gradually increase the toy size when your muscles are slowly stretched. You could also try some different lubes. Thicker lubes are usually better for anal play. But, pain should not be part of the equation, especially if it lasts for sometime. I hope this helps.

David 😃

Sorry to hear that you are have problems/pain with the Tantus Ryder because that is my favorite plug. But it sounds like you should go back to a 1 Inch diameter. The Ryder is a 1.5 inch and you are clearly not ready for that yet. Use large amounts of lube, preferably a water based GEL with a 1 inch width soft plug. Start out wearing it for 15-20 minutes at a time until it is comfortable. After this you can start increasing your length of time that you wear it using 15-30 minutes increments until it is not really noticeable that you have it in. When it gets to the point that wearing it for longer periods is sort of boring, go back to the Ryder and use the same method of getting used to wearing it. You will get there and it will be comfortable to have in if you take the time stretching very slowly. Don't give up. It is a great plug if you want something a little larger. Good luck!

Why not try one of the FunFactory toys. I have several Ryders, but find products from Germany more comfortable. Start with the Bootie and work up. enjoy!

Another reason for searing pain like that is a toy coming in contact with an internal hemmoroid. Regardless of cause...any toy that causes pain on a regular basis needs to be ditched.

One factor rarely considered is that FRICTION is as big a factor as actual size.

You may not be using a satisfactory lubricant. Many people THINK they are but in reality they are not. Most oils and silicones will last a long time, but aren't as slippery as many water based lubricants like Probe, Astroglide or J-Lube. An important ingredient is polyethylene oxide which is an EXTREMELY hygroscopic slippery polymer.

Hi

Take your time relax and I only use jlube .

Just go in till before it hurts and stop.

Now crunch your bum up tight on the plug then relax and when you have done it a few times you will feel it slide in a little bit but pain free.

Take it slow xx

It's a slow process...do not hurry it! If taken slowly and carefully, anyone's anus can be limbered up without causing damage, which can lead to leaks. I agree wholly that you should buy toys made for opening you up. It may take several weeks to work up to the largest, and some may never get there. Don't push it! If you tear your anal sphincters, life will change for you.

Relaxation is really important too. Try relaxing first with a series of enemas. Use the hottest water that is comfortable and try to take multiple quarts at a time, (either with multiple quart bags or a gallon bag.) A 1" or 1.5" enema retention nozzle might help too. If you're like me, after several large, hot enemas, you'll find that your whole body and especially your anus and rectum become very relaxed, and horny. You might even feel a hunger in your anus and rectum for something to penetrate them and fill them up.

Relax.

Breathe.

Use lots of lube.

Have fun...

I use a lube shooter to get the lube up in there and then start out with some smaller dildos/plugs to gradually work up to bigger size. If it still hurts, better stay smaller or get checked out with an anuscope to see if something is going on.

I feel your pain! I went down to a smaller plug. Someone said glass was better so I tried that. Then because it was glass I tried Vaseline as a lube. At least I know it wouldn’t wear off. Butt alas, still have a burning sensation between my cheeks. Someone here said hemorrhoid, and I am thinking that might be what I got. Sorry I don’t have any solution for you, but know your not alone. Good luck!!

I am not a medical professional but have always heard and strongly believe that pain is an indication of something wrong and not to be ignored (ironic for a spanking enthusiast, but different topic!) What I've had great success in doing -- in addition to the excellent suggestions that enough lube is not enough and relaxation is your friend -- is starting with something smaller, adjusting, them moving up in size (sometimes more than once). Good luck.

I have hemorrhoids. They rarely bother me. But I am wondering if wearing my butt plug is aggravating them. Has anyone else experience this?

Actually, butt plugs probably help when you have hemorrhoids

You should google "rectal rocket"

and see these

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23996020

http://rectalrocket.com

https://www.medicineshoppenb.ca/the-rectal-rocket

I think butt plugs help hemmorhoids. Part of the reason is that I think people are more diligent about cleanliness back there with plugs. I hardly ever have a bowel movement with at least doing a quick bulb rinse afterwards. I used to be bothered by small hems every now and then. I haven't had any since I started plugging. I've got the cleanest butt in town! lol

Same with me, since I started plugging regularly I no longer have problems with rhoids. However you got to be sensible - start with small(ish) plugs made of non toxic material and find a shape that suits you.

Happy plugging!

OP hasn't been signed on here for 3 years, >4 years for this thread, but for the rest of us, use finger(s) then small soft plugs then larger soft plugs then increase to firm or solid (steel, glass). It worked for me. I'm up to about 2.5" now for several months and it's very arousing and satisfying. I have some larger plugs, up to about 2.8" but I'm still working on getting comfortably up to near that size.

Eric

Supersized plugs are NOT going to be good for people with hemorrhoids.

They will only make the hemorrhoids worse.

Wow. So much good advice. Thank you. Thinking of trying a longer neck. Perhaps curved. I went down in size but it barely feels like I gat anything inside me at all.

I worked up to a 2" did dildo a few years back. Worked my way up to it - never had any pain associated with the big one (at least for me). Now I have a 1 5/8 that is challenging. Probably because I don't do it that often. I enjoy butt-plugs and definitely have enhanced orgasms with one inserted. The ultimate was when wife put a dildo up my ass while having sex (reverse cowgirl). Very erotic and intense!

As has been suggested, pain is not a good thing- it is probably indicating that your anus is not ready to be stretched to that diameter. Start with smaller, tapered, well lubricated plugs. They come in different diameters and gradually increase the diameter. Start each session with a smaller plug and after several insertions, switch to a slightly larger plug. You can obtain them in about 1/4” increments in diameter