Dating someone new

Does anyone have any experiences with approaching this subject with a new potential partner? It seems to me like bringing it up while you're still determining your compatibility could save things from getting really complicated later on, when you're already heavily emotionally invested and then possibly faced with a tough choice. But I don't know, I could be wrong. This may be something I have to think about soon.

Definitely a tough call, I did it a long time ago although it wasn't with a new partner, it took a lot of courage but it was worth it. Having it out in the open from the outset is probably the best way to proceed to avoid complications later. However as a friend of mine recently said "You can't put the toothpaste back in the tube"

LilyAnn, I think you're lucky.

It's MUCH easier for a woman to broach the topic of playing doctor with a man than the other way around. This has been brought up in other threads and since men are horny bastards it is easier to convince them to try it than for a man to convince a woman who isn't already interested.

Go for it!

Sooner rather than later!

I never knew that med fet even existed until I started dating my play doctor. It didn't take him long to tell me probably 2 or 3 weeks at the most. He was pretty direct about it too. While he was playing with my boobs one night he said I needed a breast exam. I thought he was joking around until he did it better than a doctor would. Then he told me what med fet was and said he wanted to give me a complete physical. Okay, what could that mean? Look in my mouth or ears, maybe he has a stethoscope, maybe fingering me with two fingers like a gyn exam. Not quite.... He took me into his exam room (which is nothing like I have ever seen in a doctor's office only a hospital) and spent 2 hours giving me the most complete physical I had ever had in my life. Never expected a date where I had someone looking up my bum at 11pm. Lol.

I broached it a few ways. When I was with my ex, we did everything except sex until the 3 month mark. I said how I cared about her and our relationship and asked her what should we do for birth control. I suggested she go in for a checkup and offered to drive her there. I offered to go into the exam room with her if she wanted, but she balked.

A month or two later, I told her that I was reading an article on breast cancer and said how I would never forgive myself if she had breast cancer that could have been caught through a self exam, but wasn't. She said she did self exams but I told her for my own sake if I could check for myself, I would feel better. So she was alright, if it will make you feel better.

About two months later, we were messing around in bed and talking really dirty. I told her to tell my her fantasy! She didn't have anything really out there. She then asked me what mine was. I played coy and said how I couldn't tell her, that it's too naughty, that I loved her so much and didn't wanna lose her because if it. Telling her just how much she meant to me, building up her curiosity, having her begging me to tell her. Well she was giving me the greatest handjob ever and I spilled it. She then went along with my medical fantasies and even let me watch her real gyno exam a few months later.

We are no longer together, but what I wouldn't do to see her in the stirrups again!