What would you do differently the first time?

Everyone always wants to hear about what the first gyn exam was like. (At least everyone on this board!) 😃 I want to ask a different question: ladies, if you could have changed one thing about your first gyn exam (like bringing a parent or not, bringing a friend or not, asking more questions, going to a doctor of a different gender, going when younger, going when older), what would it be? And why?

I'll start: for me, I wish I had brought a friend with me, at least to wait outside. And I also wish I'd found a female doctor instead of going to a male doctor someone recommended to me. I'd have felt more comfortable with both.

I would have wished for a different doctor because the doctor I went to just happened to be my boyfriends mom. I won't state why I wished it to be different, lol, that should be obvious.

Mashie

First, I wish my mom hadn't been there. I also wish I could have been older than 14.

Good question -- I probably would have shaved or trimmed. I remember being totally embarrassed about my pubic bush at the exam - especially when the doctor made a point to check through the hair a bit.

I don't really think that much of anything could have made my experience any better. I wish that the doctor would have had smaller finger and used a smaller speculum. I also wish mom had not been there.

I wouldn't change a thing. If more GP's, GYN's had the approach and attitude of my old GP, I firmly believe pelvic exams would not be so feared, hated, loathed, despised, dreaded, humiliating, embarrassing, avoided, scheduled-cancelled-rescheduled over and over, taboo, evil etc etc etc!!!

I don't think I would have changed a thing. My older sister was with me and I was prepared.

It must have been pretty good because I always ask for my appointments to be with the same doctor who gave me my first one. He was great. Though I was pretty embarrassed that first time

What an interesting question! I found my first Gyn Doctor in the yellow pages. I was attending an all girl's Catholic high school at the time and the Doctor was located near a bus stop. I knew that I could see the Doctor and still get home in time before my parents noticed. I was sixteen years old and I needed a script for birth control pills. I was dating a college senior at the time. I have always loved older men!

Anyway, I went by myself, still dressed in my white blouse, navy blue skirt and white socks and sneakers. It was so obvious which high school I was from! I only noticed this once I reached the waiting room and I saw all of the older women.

During the exam, which was my first, the creepy old male Doctor commented while he had his fingers inside of me that, "I had nice organs". I had no idea what that meant!

In hindsight, I would not have selected a Doctor only based on location to the bus stop, not worn my girl's uniform and I would have found a less creepy Doctor.

Lady Teddy, who knows how to choose a Doctor now, but still adores older men 😃

High fives from an older man!

It was my first for many things my first gynecology examination, it also was the first time I'd ever had a man look me in the eye and tell me to undress, like I had no choice. After I was naked wearing only the gown that opened in the front sitting on the table he walked in and says lay on your back, I'm holding the gown closed he takes my hands pulling them away from the gown, the gown falls open exposing my breasts he then places my hands above my head. Then from my point of view back then, starts fondling my teenage breasts, pinching my nipples squeezing my breasts very rough. I know different now it was a breast exam but I didn't then. Leaving the gown open he pushes on my stomach all the way down to my pussy. Checks my legs knees then tells me to cover myself and scoot down and put my feet in the stirrups. You can imagine how the rest went, about the same. I didn't know what to think but afterwards the more I thought about his hands all over me the hornier I became, That's the day I fell in lust with males doctors examining me. I still can't get enough maybe it's the submissive in me. I also know now he knew he could get away with it because I was young and he did. Never been examined like that since, but I keep looking it's got to be a real doctor, play is not the same.

My first exam was when I was 17, shortly after I started having sex. My mother took me to see her GYN, but she was not in the room during the exam. He checked my breasts, lymph nodes, ovaries, cervix, did a pap smear and full pelvic exam. The doctor and I had a private talk after the exam about safe sex and contraception, which I later related to my mother.

Being the experimental horny teenager that I was, I had stuck lots of things inside my vagina and anus for years and since I had recently started having sex, I was fine with the speculum that he opened slowly and rectal exam and I didn't make any noises or complain about any of it. The exam didn't turn me on or excite me. I actually had a good experience. I hope my mother's doctor didn't think I was too experienced because I didn't complain about any part of the exam! At that age, I really did more to the boys than I allowed them to do to me.

I honestly can not think of anything I would change. My first gyn exam is what triggered my medfet in the first place so who knows if I changed something I might not be into this today

Think my first exam was pretty much perfect too. It was everything I expected and I think at the time I was glad that they doctor was quite gentle but now I prefer to be pressed more deeply and rougher. Definitely something that was done to me on my last visit and that I'd like in future. I've had a female doctor but it would be interesting to see what my reaction to one I found attractive was.

I wish I had known how to relax my pelvic muscles at the time. The speculum exam wasn't just uncomfortable, but definitely painful because I was tensing up so much. The doctor could tell and tried to adjust it, but I was just hoping it would end soon. Thankfully that experience has not had any effect on my enjoyment of medical play.

If i could, i'd wish id known about endometriosis and demanded help then instead of expecting care and understanding.

I don't think I'd change anything really. My first exam was an experience that definitely shaped my current thoughts and feelings about doctors and exams, and is also a memory that I frequently masturbate to.

I've been pretty fortunate in the doctor department. I've had all male doctors until I was in my 30s. I haven't had any doctor who I felt was inappropriate while examining me. I've actually liked the male doctors more.

The doctor I had during my first pelvic exam at age 15 was especially kind and gentle. I wish my aunt hadn't been standing behind him watching. I also wish I hadn't moved around so much because it would have been nice to keep that same doctor for a long time.

I gave this a bit of thought… In a way that experience shaped why I am here now so I might not change anything… On the other hand I kind of whish the doctor wasn't also my mom's, knew that 5 seconds under the tap doesn't warm the speculum nearly as much as she thought it did, and that there MIGHT be a finger in my bottom.

I would have scheduled with an actual gyn at a women’s clinic. I saw an NP at PP and she was awful. I’m not sure if she was newer or just plain sucked but it was a terrible experience. She hardly explained anything, was rough with all aspects of the exam. I remember sitting there on the table, lube leaking out of me, feeling shell shocked and sore. I feel like if I had gone to an actual gyn, they would have more gentle & understanding.

Oh wow, this is a great question I’ve never stumbled upon before!! I wouldn’t have gone to mine. My mom scheduled my first exam for me (without my consent). I was SO upset and absolutely mortified at the thought of what I would have to do. I was a virgin and had no sexual health concerns, there was really no reason to go other than I had turned 18 and “that’s just what 18 year old girls do” I guess?? (Or my mom thought I was sexually active or about to be because I had just started college?!? Who knows now)

I wish I had just cancelled and waited until I was ready to be sexually active - I would have made the appointment myself when I was ready. I wish I had been more assertive during my appointment and requested things be done differently or not at all. I absolutely wish I’d had a more empathetic and gentle physician. But, like many others have mentioned in the replies, had I NOT had the experience that I did, I’m not sure I’d have the medfet kink that I have today, so… there’s something (maybe) positive to be found there.

Great question. Personally, if I could to, I'd be go much faster like 14 (illegal there over 16 with parent consensus) just by my hormonal imbalance casued by NDE and severe side-effects over my menstruation. On the other hand my first visit was great- I know what to expect, doc was gentle and professional

That's an interesting question. I, too, would have preferred a female gynecologist to a male one; perhaps I would have been less stressed. It would also have been helpful to ask more about sexually transmitted diseases and how to recognize them. It would also be helpful to ask carefully about all the phases of the exam before starting it.

Answering for cervical testing rather than a full gyn exam, as they're not a routine thing here.

I already knew exactly what would happen going into the appointment, and even then, I don't think I was really too shy. This was years before I started taking testosterone, so there were no issues around atrophy or awkwardness around my appearance and name not matching the procedure.

It didn't actually go too badly. They talked me through it, took their time and used a smaller speculum. However, because rhis was to quickly swab my cervix it was just lying with my feet together and knees wide apart with the practice nurse doing it. The one thing I'd change is to be in stirrups. I had my most recent one done at a secual health clinic while I was there about a clitoral injury, and having my legs in a position that felt secure helped me relax my muscles

If I could have got hold of Diazepam, I would have taken it beforehand. Then I wouldn't have been so shy, anxious and tense.

Dare I ask how you managed to get a clitoral injury @stripandsteth ? That sounds painful. 😢