For guys who identify as straight

If you've experienced a hand job or blow job from both men and women, who do you think does it better?

I find that most (not all) men give better. I think this is due to our familiarity with the geography. We know what feels good to us so we do better at reproducing that for others.

Your thoughts?

I don't know how many men you are going to find who CALL themselves straight WHO REALLY ARE straight on this one. Heteroflexible or bisexual maybe, but not truly straight.

I consider myself heteroflexible, but if you want to call me bisexual, I wouldn't object, so your question is kind of like asking me who I think gets me off better, men or women. The fact is either can give a mind blowing experience and either can be not so good. Both can be taught to bring you to ecstacy in the best ways imaginable.

You LEARN either by experimenting on yourself or with a partner what feels really good. No one does their best handjob or blowjob the first time they give it. A guy on his own might never know that a lubricated ball massage or some anal fingering while being jerked off improves the experience tremendously, but a woman could teach him that. Likewise, a man could teach a less experienced woman that cunnilingus is tremendously improved by broadly licking the labia, not just flicking the tip of the clitoris, which might get annoying on its own, which may have caused her to decide she didn't like cunnilingus because no one ever did it well before, and she might not have figured that out on her own or with a less experienced woman. People LEARN what makes it good and then they perfect their technique. That goes for men and women on themselves or on a member of the opposite sex.

I really didn't want to go into the whole Kinsey bell curve thing, that's why I phrased it as IDENTIFY as straight. Of course, guys in the hetero 4% won't have any experience. Guys way towards the middle and gay side of the curve know the answer.

I really didn't want to go into the whole Kinsey bell curve thing, that's why I phrased it as IDENTIFY as straight. Of course, guys in the hetero 4% won't have any experience. Guys way towards the middle and gay side of the curve know the answer.

Does that mean LIE to yourself? 😁 😁 😁

Usually, it means a refusal to accept personal reality due to societal pressure to fit in a particular 'norm.'

. . . . still waiting for some "straight" guy to answer . . . . 😁 😁 😁

Keep waiting. I never expected a huge turn out.

I'm gonna get some popcorn. . . .

Come on, there have to be a few guys who are straight who've been jerked off by another guy, at least when you were first experimenting as a teenager.

Come on, there have to be a few guys who are straight who've been jerked off by another guy, at least when you were first experimenting as a teenager.

I bet those kind of guys would now, due to the overwhelming amount of literature and articles and just general talk about being gay, have probably ended up accepting that they are probably essentially a bit gay themselves ... and who are also OK with it.

Besides, on this site, it doesn't strike me the place where very strict hetero's would be attracted to. After all it is a fetish site, for the kinkier and weirder amongst the population. You'd imagine that such kind of people would to a large degree be long past the idea of strict hetero/strict gay classifications.

I think most of us here experimented with others of the same sex when we were teens. I agree that usually ones of the same sex know what really feels the best. My wife attempts to give me hand jobs and she does do a good job, but always have to finish it because she just can't get it right at the finish.

Only once have I ever done something sexual with another bloke and it was when I was drunk. I let a guy give me a blowjob outside a club - it was a stupid drunken dare in a street full of people around 3am, but I remember it. It was more focussed than any bj I've had from my girlfriend - first time anyone has sucked my balls too which was surprisingly satisfying.

As a teen yup but not as an adult. I am 69 and think about it, just need to find the right guy. Although there was a party where it was a dare and and I was masturbated by a guy with everybody watching, he was very good, better than some women.

My best hand job and blow job has been from a massage therapist. A woman. No one else has even come close to the intensity she achieved.

I have had this conversation with a few "straight" men, with mixed opinions. The natural assumption is that a man would be better. But I think it goes beyond the physical performance and includes the mental and psychological enjoyment. Interestingly, the men I've spoken with had no issue with it being with a man. Each said he enjoyed the handjob or blowjob equally. But when pressed to answer which was better, the men who liked the woman were able to articulate a reason beyond the gender.

I am married and have had some past experiences with men so I feel I can comment on this interesting question.

I have experienced both female and male BJs. To vote greater expertise and pleasure for one or the other is tough. It really does come down to how into the person giving you the BJ is into having sex with you and wanting to please you. This kind of applies to all sex. I would not say that because men have cocks that guys know how give better BJs based on their past experience of getting a BJ themselves. And I would say the same is true that women don't hold advantage over men when giving a woman oral pleasure.

I can't declare a winner in BJ sweepstakes, but I will continue my quest to gain more data on this issue and report back later 😃

It's interesting that the OP of this thread asked for men who identified as STRAIGHT to reply and of all the men who responded, only a couple are actually straight. I checked their profiles. Most are heteroflexible, bisexual or homosexual.

You raise a good and interesting point Susie. But even when a man identifies as straight but their sexual behavior suggests otherwise then they may not be 100% straight.

How many BJs can a guy get from other men and still be considered 100% straight. Sexuality is more of a bi-polar continuum from completely hetero (don't want and never have had sex with the same sex) to homo where the person wants and is exclusively sexual with the same sex. It is the region in between the poles where you find men that are responding to this question.

In order to answer this question, you almost have to have in your sample size men who are not completely straight. Your researching the sexual orientation of the members profiles confirmed this point.

You raise a good and interesting point Susie. But even when a man identifies as straight but their sexual behavior suggests otherwise then they may not be 100% straight.

How many BJs can a guy get from other men and still be considered 100% straight.

Maybe two when experimenting as a teenager, or under extreme circumstances like a prison.

Maybe it's time we started losing the labels. Can't we all just be lovers, without pigeon-holing what kind of lovers?

We still live in a world were to women making loves gets a 'That's so hot' response, and two men making love gets 'That's gross!'.

While we are eliminating labels, take the double standards with it.

P.s. calling it Bi just adds another label. How about 'lovers' or even 'humans'?

Two BJs (max) received as a teen or BJs in prison- still straight.

Yes there are guys out there who fall into this group but a pretty small segment of the population I would imagine. Plus I wonder how good the BJs were in prison or received as teens. Again this is a big can of worms.

I think Buttwoman makes a good point- better to drop the labels and just ask men who have received BJs from both men and women regardless of sexual identity and orientation and voice an opinion. I think your sexual orientation is irrelevant when answering this question rather it's the experience that matters.

Maybe it's time we started losing the labels. Can't we all just be lovers, without pigeon-holing what kind of lovers?

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NO NO NO NO NO!

We need labels in order to communicate effectively and to know what/who we are dealing with.

I like pigeon-holling and classifying . . . well, EVERYTHING!