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Even though we both were into anal play, fingers, toys, licking; my wife had no interest in using a strap-on. I brought one home once, but she just used it like a handheld. I wanted to feel her hips slapping into me, experience what she did when we did anal doggy style which she loved. I didn’t percieved it as being submissive, but in retrospect maybe. I just wanted her to f*ck me like I did her!
We had enough common interests that it wasn’t an issue. Although we experimented a lot, we never pushed the other to do something they didn’t want.
@Rigel Wow, I can really relate to your post! Could have been my post, well, except the licking--she feels there are too many germs back there, even after washing well, and my wishing well.
Years ago, I bought a cheap strap-on, but the nylon straps cut into my wife's skin and she didn't like it and I can't blame her. So I bought a much nicer leather strap-on, but it didn't fit well and at all and was just too uncomfortable for her (no stretch).
Like you said, "We had enough common interests that it wasn’t an issue."
But I kept looking around because I too liked the feeling of her hips against my bum and not just her hands pushing a dildo in and out, .
And eventually, I found a stretchy strap-on thing that fits like a pair of panties. It's not perfect--she doesn't love it, but it's much better than the others and so she's okay with it and I only ask her to peg me about once a month and that seems to work. And she plays with my bottom, inserting various anal toys, about once a week, so it's all good.
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