The Naked Dominant

I dont like a dominant naked during a scene. I dont want to see his pink bits. it kinda kinky for me to be the naked one. I want to be the one that is exposed and vulnerable, I want him to be the one calm in control...and somehow in my mind i associate that with clothing. am I the only one that feels this way?

I enjoy topping naked. It's my choice. You can wear this blindfold.

I am ALWAYS calm and in control when I top.

When I am dominating in the scene, I start out wearing my heels, spiked bras, latex suits and other articles so he can see who is running the show, but once he is restrained and wearing either a leather hood or blindfold, I take off a lot of clothing, definitely my heels so I am comfortable. I may even raise the lights a bit since he can't see anyway.

I dont like a dominant naked during a scene.

I'm curious, and don't take this personally.

Do you have the impression that a Dom thinks with the little head? Is that why he (you spoke of males) should keep his genitals covered?

In my experience, I couldn't get in the right headspace if I actually SAW my dominant nude during a scene. For me, I think it's because I find absolutely nothing beautiful about the male body. It's sharp, pointy, rigid... I much prefer to look at naked women.. they are natural, organic, and beautiful. A naked man would just simply turn me off. (It always amazes me that I find the female body absolutely amazing and beautiful, such a natural form of art, but once they open their mouths, it's all just ruined for me. ROFL! I like to look, but can't stand getting to know them. Ugh!)

Now, with that being said... if my dominant blindfolds me or puts a hood on me, then the only image I'll have of him during the scene is the last one I saw before I closed my eyes, or before they were covered... so, in that case? If he wants to strip after my eyes are covered and whip me in his berfday suit? So be it! LOL! I'm not really going to care.

I have never topped naked but have taken off my shirt due to the heat I was feeling during a flogging that I was doing. Since I had been at it for 1- 1/2 hours. My shirt was really sticking to me and I have since learned to take it off before I begin any impact play that is going to go on for awhile. To me, topping and dominance is in the sound of the voice, the way commands are given, and in the way you touch their bodies. Now, for the rare times when it comes to being the bottom, I am naked in a heartbeat because I do not want to have clothes in the way of floggers, paddles, and hands, but that is just me.

I wouldn't mind topping certain people naked. The idea of them feeling me naked against their skin and being unable to see or touch is erotic. I love to look at a man's naked body but I can understand how some women can be beautiful to look at also, but I have only been sexually attracted to men. Plus, like you, soumise, when most women open their mouths, they very quickly just piss me off. I do not trust women in anyway, because most are petty, vindictive and will stab you in the back in a minute if they think they can get by with it. As far as emotionally honest, a women will turn on you when it is to their advantage. This is why I choose to limit my personal friendships and for the most part, there are few females that will ever pass muster for me to spend time around and allow into my life.. I have never understood why the human female is the way they are, but I have never had one let me down in this way, yet. It is a mystery to me so I will just hibernate away with my hubby and a couple of others that I have grown to trust, but even with my bdsm play, I will stick with the XY's. Sorry about the rant, and yes, I know that I am cynical.

Most times I am wearing a studded thong when I,m Dominating.

We both enjoy being naked when I am getting a spanking over my wife's knee. I like her big, heavy, warm naked breasts resting on my naked back as I squirm and try to avoid her big, strong punishing hand, but she is too strong for me and holds me in place.

I agree with you, betty bum. Being a dominant, I am always clothed while disciplining a woman. After her discipline, and she has learned her lesson, then, and only then, is the possibility of me getting naked a possibility. And, that is if we are going to make love after the forgiveness.

Its something i cant really do. especially using a flogger. i end up accidentally hitting myself which hurts really bad. so i tend to up throwing some shorts on or something to simply protect myself.

No - you're not. I love to be exposed to my wife, and vulnerable. And I think she enjoys it when I take power sometimes too. There's something about being helpless, exposed, while the other person is powerful and dressed, that makes a moment that much more erotic.

I dont like it either when i would do it. I would often be more worried about hitting myself with a flogger then what i really should be concerned about. although i do not prefer it during the whole session i do believe it fits well at times.

Me neither. It should be the sub that naked and ashamed. Just seeing his cock should be such a reward for sub.

Being naked leaves one open, vulnerable. That is why the one in charge should have some clothing on. They are covered and have nothing to fear.

I agree. I don't want my Dom naked during a scene. It makes me feel more submissive if I can't have clothes and he can.

I think having the dom clothed in an appropriate costume initially during the scenario is very nice. But then gradually stripping and being more exposed during the course of things does help increase the excitement

The dominant one should always be clothed, naked is vunerable clothed is always safer.

Predictably, most writers prefer the dom to be clothes, hence not seeming vulnerable. But how about this for a turnaround? We are in a nudist retreat, certain codes have to taught, and the dom has to be naked. For me, the dom(me) would need a perfectly-honed body, great posture, and possess a commanding tone. In those circumstances I could imagine a naked dom being effective.

I'm into CMNM usually being the naked person.

I have been both the vulnerable sub and on occasion 'in charge'

To be naked and dominant is possible and is a really fascinating experience.

We usually start with him dressed and me naked or nearly so. For me at least it emphasizes he's in control and I like it. He winds up naked by the end but I'm often blindfolded at that point and even when not I'm so deep into the scene that it only kinda registers on me that he is anyway - if that makes any sense at all.

Only tried this once with another male as the Dom. It worked for me as he was a complete stranger and in his own home, on arrival he took complete control and I wasn't allowed to speak unless asked a question. In his hallway I had to take off my shoes and coat then stand and wait instructions. This was followed by being told to go to an upstairs room where I had to stand on a particular spot, instructions were then given to remove named items of clothing until I stood, hand by my sides, in just my boxers.

There followed a period when he took basic measurements and criticised my appearance before instructing me to drop and step out of my boxers and hand them to him and he put them out of my reach with my other things. At this point I was naked, hands on my head, legs apart in a room with someone I had only met 10 minutes before who was examining my genitals. The fact that he was dressed and in complete control was what worked for me. After that I was given a blindfold to put on, secured by my wrists and ankles across a bed and I suspect he stripped off at this point and possibly somebody else entered the room I could never be sure. I was fingered and masturbated but when I was released he was dressed, he then handed my clothing back to me piece by piece and watched while I dressed.

If I'd seen him stripped it would have removed some of the element of loss of control, humiliation and submission I felt.

I prefer my Domme to be clothed. But I also prefer to be clothed too. This is due to my kink for rubber and fetish clothing. For me, being 'forced' to dress in rubber, hoods, corsets and heels is similar to how others might feel naked. I'm vulnerable, in unnatural clothing. I wouldn't go outside dressed like that, in the same way others wouldn't go outside naked.

If a Domme was naked it would have to be for a very specific reason - tease and denial or some such. Even then, being a visually stimulated fetishist and a male I probably actually get more from seeing a Domme clothed.

We aren't a typical d/s relationship as we don't 'scene' or 'play' together so much as enjoy each other thoroughly in a less structured way. As such he is often naked when exerting control. Those times I go so fully into my body that clothes or lack thereof wouldn't make much of a difference to how submissive I feel. I'll take him any way I can get him and if he's naked with me we are probably on cloud 9.

Yes the dominant show always stay dressed .

Nope Doms should wear clothes. More exciting that way. Or half clothes. Just pants on.....yeah that can be hot.

I myself would feel more vulnerable as a submissive if I were the only one naked. Put another thing on my to do list now

Dommes, Doms wearing clothes is the way to go. At least for me. It is a big part of the power exchange. If they make you strip first and watch you as you peel your clothes off that is also part of the scene.

When going to a nurse dominatrix to satisfy my fetish for painful and embarrassing buttock injections, having my pants pulled down in the presence of the fully clothed nurse and receptionist exacerbates my excited humiliation.

As posted before, with my wife's blessings, I see a pro dominatrix twice per year. Since I like acting out stepmother / stepson scenes, I like my dom tastefully dressed.

My own taste is both in rubber, leather, pvc, or vinyl. With BDSM toys every time- restraints, hoods, muzzles, and gags.