Trying to get wife to do a monthly breast self exam for me

I am trying to get my wife to start performing monthly breast self exams so I can watch. So far she is reluctant to do so even though I see her topless on a daily basis. I went so far as to sneak a BSE shower card into her purse a couple of weeks ago when I accompanied her to an appointment she had with her ob/gyn (where I got to watch her getting a breast exam from the nurse she saw. Just a palpation exam with her shirt and bra pulled up...no visual exam 😢 ). I put the shower card up in our shower, but so far it seems like she is not interested in performing a breast self exam. Any suggestions for getting her to start doing her breast exams?

So that you can watch? Or for her health? Surely the latter is the more important.

Discuss it with her and explain that she needs to look after herself and by performing such examinations she could maybe one day, save her life. Just putting a card in the shower/her purse doesn't really show that you care about her, talk, explain and maybe throw into the conversation that you would like to watch. Maybe even if its your desire you could perform the examinations on her.

Talking gets to the root of a lot of issues, if only enough people did it at the right time.

For many women, monthly self-exams are a deeply personal issue. Maybe she simply doesn't want you standing there watching when she discovers an abnormality or something that doesn't feel "right". Perhaps she sees your interest as one more task or chore that has to be dealt with every month. Who's to say that she doesn't already do a breast self-exam and you're just not there to see it? This may be something that is between your wife and her health care provider.

May I be honest with you? The overall tone of your post leads me to think that your desire stems purely from self-interest, and not from concern for her health. I hope that's not the case, but if that's the feeling your wife gets, I can understand her reluctance.

Finally, let's turn the tables; do you perform monthly testicular self-exams? Do you let your wife watch? Participate?

Why not do it with her? It just adds another dimension to fondling & massaging her breasts...

My first wife was a nurse, and [more than] once told me about a woman who came into the clinic to investigate a lump in her breast. When asked how she discovered the lump, the woman replied "My boy friend found it."

My partner insists that I do her monthly exams. I have studied the various techniques so as not to miss anything.

She lets me palpate here breasts all the time; there is just something about watching her undress and visually examine herself and then palpate her breasts.

When I'm fondling my wife's breasts, I have a habit of pressing along the sides looking for lumps or knots. We had a scare a few years back. I just walked up behind her one afternoon while she was doing dishes, kissed her and started playing around. I ran my hand under her right breast, and somehow, a small lump was the first thing I noticed. It really worried us until she got it biopsied, and it turned out to be a harmless deposit caused by estrogen. But my advise for you guys out there is to be proactive where you're wives are concerned. If she won't do self exams, learn to do them for her, and often. Not exactly a chore either, I love playing with titties anyway.

I think ladydocsin hit the nail on the head.

If this is just for your pleasure, and there is nothing wrong with your wanting to see this, as you said she lets you see her topless all the time.. You may want to ask her if she will do it shall we say, unsupervised for her health and once she is confident that she has nothing, perhaps she will go through the motions in front of you. Many woman are phobic about finding something and would rather be alone or with their doctor should something pop up.

Now as far as checking my testicles.. No, I don't check them every month, but if I did it would not bother me if the SO wanted to watch. No doubt she would wind up on her hands and knees with them slapping against her cute little ass before we were done, but that's another issue entirely...

Give her time and space, she might eventually come around.

Be patient and give her time.

Now how about if you already do periodic exams but want to make them a routine ? Wife and I both check each other occasionally. but I would like to make this a regular thing . Any ideas on how to start a routine like this ?

Set an alert on your phone calendar maybe?

Take a shower together. Soapy hands make anomalies in the breasts and testes easier to feel. Plus, the heat will relax your scrotum making examination easier.

My SO very rarely does self exams. I think she leaves it more to the professionals. Which I suppose is a shame as I'd like to help her with her exams. Maybe she does them in the shower.

I would be fine with her doing my testicles, but they are somewhat sensitive.

I try and do some dual-purpose petting with my wife. Don't think she does hers either.

I'm hit and miss with the TSE too. I check out the left side often, but I'm not so good at remembering to do the whole testicular surface. I usually stop after checking the size of the varicocele.