Estim helpfull after prostate cancer

A dear friend. The man's a peach. In 2009 he gave up his cancerous prostate and his ability to have a natural erection. He did that to avoid dying a nasty death from the thing that is aggressive prostate cancer.

Prior to that he was a great lay. Caring. Observant. Certainly slow. Seriously girls, a great lay.

So, post surgery, we stay in touch. But he's not all that talkative.

I get a call, he's been on line and he has this new toy. "Sure, I'll come over for a drink."

He'd bought an entry level e-stim kit from Amazon for like $100. So we toddy up for a while and decide to juice some pads and see what shakes.

Two here...two pads there...level one...level two....more power and he's feeling something.

Getting real girls, here's a man...a man of mine for some fine times that hasn't had an erection in 10 months (and never will again) but he's feeling something.

"Do you still have feeling in you penis?"

"Of course!", he tells me.

"Good, maybe this'll help."

I go down on a flaccid penis for the first time ever. Pulling the head of it into my mouth as best I can. I mean I AM WORKIN' on that soft thing.

He "comes". Nothing at all like when we made clocks stop before his cancer diagnosis but he came. Less of a landslide than a real one but something, My old great lay buddy had himself a rush.

I gushed and kissed him and rubbed tits all over him.

We see eachother now & then. He likes to call and say, "Let's juice the pads and see what happens."

I get mine later at home. He was good for me then. I'm glad to be good now&then for him now.

Way better than going to a good man's funeral.

Imagine what it would feel like with an ErosTek 312 and a 2" trode inserted in his urethra.

Julia, that's a really good story. In fact even though I love this website (I think it has saved my life in a very difficult time), I don't think the story even belongs here. It can be a part of something bigger, something a bit more literary, something deserving of a look by a wider audience. Keep writing at least 😃

Julia, This is a blessing story! You have been given many stars to your hallow. What you have given to this man is more than you can ever know. You are a goddess to the stars. I wish I would have someone like you......

God Bless you,

Beltoro

@tenn_julia although you haven't been around here and the post is really old, you sound like one classy lady. Your friend was very lucky. 🌹 🌹

Thanks for that post, it's been near 20 years since I had a radical prostatectomy. After 18 months, I began to get about 75% erect -with the help of meds, nothing up to that time, however I found early on that I could achieve orgasm without being fully erect. I think that orgasms are often more intense than when I had all my equipment, but perhaps it's due to having to work really hard to get there. And I've played with some TENS units also. My urologist believes that some nerves have regenerated, and, while it's not ideal, it's much, much better than having the cancer spread. Your gentleman friend is indeed fortunate to have you in his life, Julia!

Julia, I cant say enough about how your caring and understanding attitude is a moral booster and depression beater to a man who has undergone a radical prostatectomy. I only wish their were more women like you who can somewhat understand what happens to men, both physically and mentally , after under going this life changing surgery.

I under went one 13 years ago when I was quite young. It was supposed to be a nerve sparing surgery but...... here is part of my story. The side affects aren't very pleasant to live with. No real sex for 14 years and counting. I was told there would be a slight shortening of the penis, maybe a centimeter by my surgeon. Doc, you better buy a new ruler. Try 2 inches shorter. There are times when I look more like a female than a male and many times I dont feel much like a man anymore either..... You'll regain enough of your erection for penetration. Ahhh Doc, wrong again. It took three years before I had an orgasm again, without an erection. It was then and still is quite difficult to achieve, but when it does happen it can be quite intense. Occasionally , with lots of help from vitamin V and with a little cialis thrown in, I can get hard enough for penetration but there won't be an orgasm. Not only do I suffer mentally and physically but so does my wife. She, at least has other options which she has on a few occasions acted on with my permission. But I still have to suffer. There are times when I must be hard to live with. I feel sorry for my wife but I am also extremely grateful of her because she has stayed by my side and understands what I have lost. Not all wives stay .

The flip side is that I'm alive and I am not going to die a horrible death from this disease. I have known many men who suffered horribly after the cancer spread to their bones and elsewhere in their body. One man in particular I knew extremely well. The last 6 months of his life he lived on morphine and would scream if you barely touched him. I do not want to die that way.

So thanks again Julie for your compassion, caring and understanding.