Purposely becoming Incontinent

Progress in becoming incontinent :

I do so enjoy wearing diapers. I found early on that it is not easy for one to just relax and go in there diaper. Yes one fully knows the pleasure that they will feel as the pee flows out and the diaper fills, gaining in wetness and in bulk. Both of which I truely enjoy. However mentally getting your body to respond to your desire is not easy.

I did try thinking yes your wearing diapers its ok to go. I found I worried about leaking so started wearing a kitchen garbage bag as a replacement for plastic pants. Yet still I found it difficult. I also started wearing multi layers of diapers with slits cut in the inter layers so the pee would flow from one to the next.

I also started to really pay attention to the feeling as the pee flowed out of my uretha.

All of these things did help but still I had not gotten to the point where I was just flowing.

I then started wearing them to work. I was totally scared at first but as time went on I found no one noticed or cared.

Today I did something different. I went to an old pharmacy here in town. Wow they still carried plastic pants. I went in wearing three totally soaked diapers and know that anyone that looked could not help but notice that I had on diapers. I purchased the plastic pants.

I went back to the office and took off the plastic garbage bag and put on the plastic pants. What suprised me was that just as I walked out of the bathroom my pee just started flowing. I did not even know it was happening at first. It was so wonderful. I went back to my desk and now for the last three hours i can feel myself leaking.

What I do not understand is why just purchasing and putting on the plastic pants caused such a mental change.

I thought about this and think that the act of buying them in person and putting them on at work made the difference. Now mentally I feel that so what if they leak or my chair gets wet. I am wearing a diaper, plastic pants and if anyone ask - I have a bladder control problem.

The other thing that I think has helped in my progress to become incontinent is mentally my whole mind set is different. Also about two weeks ago I started when not wearing diaper (mate is not into diapers, does not know about my pleasure, and does not want to know) I started wearing over night incontinence pads - Tena or Poise.

I am hoping this will continue and that it will get to a point where I just leak and do not have any control. Once that starts happening I will totally have to wear diapers not just for my pleasure but for the need. What a great day that will be.

I know lots will say I am crazy for wanting this.

Slowly 'purposely' becoming incontinent :

I have posted before about my working toward having to use diapers 24/7 ie becoming incontinent. I know lots will say you will regret this. Personally I am not sure that one can really reach such a goal unless they do have a medical condition. Yes I do think that a person by releasing pee from the bladder constantly will cause the bladder to not hold as much and thereby make one need to go more often. I also think that yes perhaps by just releasing into the diaper when the urge hits will even prehaps cause some of the bladder spincter muscle to get weaker. However the training and years that one does not just release is so deeply ingrained. I have found that it is possible to just release but one does know that they need to pee.

My approach on working on this has been to wear multi layer diapers and plastic pants. I do really enjoy the feeling of the pee flowing into the diaper. Not just totally flooding but that constant feeling that your leaking that the pee is just dripping out. I have gotten to the point that I can sit at my desk at work or in the car and feel the pad (tena overnight pad) that i wear inside the diaper as a stuffer swell up. The constant reminder of the presure of the pad as it fills then slowly releases its content (I cut slits in the pad or pads) into the diaper is a mental stimulant that the process is working. That feeling of the bulk between your legs, the swelling, and the dampness as the pee even flows back between your butt cheeks is also a stimulant for me that all I need to do is relax and let the flow happen.

I have found that it is difficult not to push. I so want the pleasure of feeling the diaper swell and the pee wetting it that the urge to make it happen right then is strong. I have to mentally say STOP do not push, do not try to force it out, let it flow. The other difficult part is when the flow stops one has the strong urge to do a final push to empty the urethra but that urge I have also managed to sasy NO to.

The other thing that I have found difficult is to sleep in a diaper and the plastic pants. My mate does not know about my desire or want to know. I can however wear a diaper (depends mens max. absorbancy) and plastic pants under my regular underwear. The problem is I have not gotten over my fear of wetting the bed and gotten use to the feeling of even wearing all that to bed. I am going to get over this feeling and hope that as I do that finally I will wake up one morning and find the diaper all soaked or at least wet.

Just wanted to post an update about my feelings.

I don't think you are crazy at all. You only get one life so live it as you chose. If being incontinent makes you happy then go with the flow (pun intended) I love being in nappies and losing my bladder control was a brilliant experience. I have enjoyed my journey to nightly bedwetting and daytime incontinence and wouldn't go back to being dry ever.

Just remember incontinence is a lot like a puppy, you have to take care of it several times per day.

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Ive been wearing fulltime for four or five years now and yes you can become incontinent. I am living proof. Will you ever get to the point where you lose ALL control? Probably not. Your bladder does shrink, your muscles do become weak and you do dribble a lot more than big spurts and you dont always feel it

I applaud you on this. I at one point was attempting to becoming enema dependent, I was gonna do between 2 to 4 qt daily enemas for the rest of my life, but due to my job sadly I could not complete this goal. But good for you in trying to achieve your goal

Hi

I’ve started down this road myself. I’ve always been a bed wetter and had a small/ weak bladder but for that last few months I’ve been wearing nappies 24/7 and using them continuously.

I’m wetting at night without waking so much more regularly now and I think I might be finding it harder to hold my bladder now.

As for why well there’s a lot of reasons, yes this is a fetish that I’m indulging and yes that colours my experience and acceptance of this. Yes my boyfriend also lives his role as a dominant caregiver, so me being in nappies makes us both happy.

I’ve also have a weak bladder and bedwet since I was little but I’m not medically incontinent. Though I’ve had plenty of close calls, some embarrassing accidents and had to pee in public before when facilities haven’t been available. Truth is that it is easier and less stressful for me to manage my bladder with nappies than self control.

But really it’s this being in nappies makes me happy and weirdly self confident, so that’s enough for me to wear the man I want to ‘need’ to wear them so I’m working on breaking my potty training

Who here had made them selves incontinent on purpose. Whether is urine or bowel. Tell us your story on how and why you did it.

I’ve recently started sitting in my dildo and baring /straining myself as hard as I can to push it out. And obviously me sitting on it, it’s not gonna come out but I’m going this route in attempt to weaken the muscles in the rectum to allow my self to get fuller and not know when I have to go to the bathroom. I’m a avid enema user but I would honestly stop them if I could make myself completely bowel incontinent. I’d really like to just start going and not know that it’s gonna happen. Now for urine incontinence I’m not there yet but I do only pee in my diaper I try to never use the toilet unless I’m at work for that one.

Who here had made them selves incontinent on purpose.

I’ve recently started sitting in my dildo and baring /straining myself as hard as I can to push it out. And obviously me sitting on it, it’s not gonna come out but I’m going this route in attempt to weaken the muscles in the rectum to allow my self to get fuller and not know when I have to go to the bathroom.

I really wonder why on earth would you like to be incontinent. If you ask the old people for sure they will tell they really don't like it. In fact hate it.

Straining yourself as hard as possible to push it out would make the muscles more stronger instead of weaker.

At least, in my honest opinion since I'm not a doctor.

Why not. I mean people like to do things all the time he a certain way. I wanna live my life in diapers to were I have no choice. I love my diapers that much. They are a part of me.

I really wonder why on earth would you like to be incontinent. If you ask the old people for sure they will tell they really don't like it. In fact hate it.

Straining yourself as hard as possible to push it out would make the muscles more stronger instead of weaker.

At least, in my honest opinion since i'm not a doctor.

@Tonykiko67 the topic is posted in Diaper fetishism so talking and inquiring about incontinence can be expected. It is a part of the diaper fetish. Not always for everyone, just like other fetishes. Not always understood either.

Progress in becoming incontinent :

I know lots will say I am crazy for wanting this.

There's nothing like being different to get us to question the status quo, eh? Humanity has established social norms and vast systems, like the healthcare system, to support and 'substantiate' those notions. At the end of the day, it's people telling other people what should or should not be, what's "crazy" and what's 'sane.'

When i was a kid, i became aware that i am different from what i was taught i should be (gay in this case). i was raised in a religious culture that reinforced the notion that being gay is "broken, sinful." When i hit age 12 or so, and could no longer deny i am attracted to guys, i went to the library. Medical books all affirmed i was 'sick.' Homosexuality was not removed from the APA list of psychological disorders until 1973. So, apparently, homosexuals living before 1973 were "sick" but homosexuals living after 1973 are okeedokee.

Those on the edge of social evolution may be "crazy" today and 'sane' the next day. It's the magic of modern medicine.

Having been "shy bladder incontinent" since my 20's it's been a pain. Thanks to all the feminine bladder pads that eventually hit the market; I was able to turn this problem into some I could enjoy somewhat by using pads in various panties I liked to wear. Still, as mentioned: If you ask the old people for sure they will tell they really don't like it. In fact hate it. - Yes, true for me too.

As to the topic. Speculating.

The specific means and ways we have seem complexly individual to me. In general terms, i wonder if the underlying need/desire is not about incontinence, but about letting go, giving up control?

i was approached by a Guy awhile back Who wanted to "control my continence" and wanted me to 'give" it to Him. It evoked a dissonant, ambivalent emotional response in me. i was immediately turned on, and at the same time afraid. For me, it's not solely about losing control, but about giving that to another Man Who wants/needs to have that as much as i do, from the opposite side. The result is a symbiotic connection, and maybe bond, that (for me) is the essence of intimate relationship.

To me, the most sublime connections and bonds we can have in life are those where each is at their most open. i think many go through life hiding their needs/wants for fear of rejection. Ironically, the hiding we do to avoid rejection ends up being a sort of self fulfilling prophecy. If we remain hidden, we do not get the chance to experience the desire of another for who and what we are, and they the experience of being desired/needed as well.

@Tonykiko67 the topic is posted in Diaper fetishism so talking and inquiring about incontinence can be expected. It is a part of the diaper fetish. Not always for everyone, just like other fetishes. Not always understood either.

Thanks for pointing me out this is the diaper fetishism group, I missed that since my start page is always the what's new page :-)

I can understand the fetish, though for wanting to be permanently incontinent would seem to be impractical on a later stage in life.

But yeah, as long as we are happy with who we are and what we do, that's what matters most! ;-)

I can understand the fetish, though for wanting to be permanently incontinent would seem to be impractical on a later stage in life.

@Tonykiko67 Reason does not always figure into what one enjoys. I myself do not understand the l masochist, being ones "slave", or the heavier needle play that many others enjoy. But to each their own pleasure and enjoyment, as long as it happens with consenting adults involved.

Interesting topic!

I can understand people reacting with negative comments or criticizing tones, but I can also understand the OP’s feeling and wish of wanting to be incontinent.

As a lifelong DL and little I would love to be incontinent for a while, but not permanently. If they coul build in like a switch the could turn it on and off I’d be happy to have one. The feeling of having no control is making me very little just thinking about it.

As for the people who are on the other side of the spectrum; you may not understand why someone would want this, but just because you don’t understand it isn’t wrong.

Spike

I have loved wearing diapers, wetting, messing them and finding many ways to incorporate diapers in sex. But I would not want to make myself incontinent ever. I hate any loss of control.

I wish my urologist would install a stent to make me urine incontinence. He could make me wear it for a month with no chance of getting it removed. That way I would get a good sense of what it's really like to be incontinence and know if that's what I really want. I have worn a catheter for several days. Walking around nude after a shower or changing and having to deal with the dripping urine was actually enjoyable.

When I had to have my prostate removed due to cancer I knew one of the side effects was urine incontinence. So being a lifelong DL I made sure my incontinence was permanent by not doing anything they recommend to improve my continents. I don't flood my diapers I just have uncontrolled small releases especially if I am physically active.

I feel like Im on this path. Been a regular bedwetter for years and have been closer and closer to 24/7. As my comfort grows with daytime wearing I suspect I will gradually lose muscle and slowly my ability to hold for any reasonable period. It wont/isnt a quick or forced process but slowly and naturally.

Becoming incontinent on purpose has recently been a thought on my mind. I believe that I may have suffered trauma by being forced to potty train when I didn't want to. Despite being 3 and a 1/2, from what I recall, the experiences and interactions I had with my parents relating to potty training were not positive or pleasant although I fail to remember specifics. My idea is that if I can become incontinent again I will live with the reality of it (cost, inconvenience, stigma, etc.) and then should I decide, on my own terms, I will "re-train" myself as an adult. From what I've read I understand this is extremely difficult, but possible.

I have recently been mentally concentrating on staying "open" after I use my diapers and also not holding tension that I notice I normally carry which seems to serve as a "guard" from urine release (I have a very very shy bladder, again probably due to trauma.)

I have only been "training" for around a week now but I was able to use the pull-up I wore on the way home from work while I was actively driving my vehicle. This is a first and I would consider an absolute success because I know from the reports of others that using diapers and driving at the same time is not easy accomplished. Also, I have felt less stressed in general this last week from not holding my tension, my self-discipline regimen I've been imposing on myself, or a combination of the both.

Also, my girlfriend supports me in all of this and has expressed she would adore if I became a diaper boy who needs them 24/7, no exceptions.