Looking for some guidance

I'm a 32 year old gay male and my 24 year old boyfriend has a diaper fetish of sorts. I found out by accident and its not something that he's open to talking about. He shuts down a lot whenever I bring it up. I'm extremely sexually open. I have many fetishes and I'm open to any and all ideas. I've told him this and asked him to explain his fetish to me so we can act on it together. The most I've gotten from him is that he wants it to be him in the diaper and then he it tells me it's humiliating.

Guess I'm looking for any advice on what his fetish may entail or even how to make him more comfortable acting on it with someone that he knows loves him. Guess the whole thing infuses me a little bit. But I really want to learn. Any help or opinions or advice is greatly appreciated

Not sure how to help you exactly but i will try. Every one of us on this site has their diaper fetish for different reasons. Some of us its because of medical reasons, while others its from early childhood.

The diaper itself is a comfort thing to some while a sexual device for others.

As far as you bf goes that's hard to tell seeing he has never come out to anyone about it. The best advice i can give you is to talk with him and try to have him open up to you to see why he is in love with this fetish.

Or if all else fails seeing he is a ab/dl lover, when he come home one day tell him he was a bad boy and to get into the bedroom for a spanking. Place him over your knees spank him and when done diaper him . To almost all of us either ab or dl this would be totally wonderfull if our significant other would take control and make us wear diapers. But try talking first . if he see's your interested about it maybe just maybe he will open up to you. Try telling him you want to try it with him to see whats so wonderful about them to him.

Hope this helps a little for you.

It can be a surprisingly broad subject, as Momasboy points out, it can be different for most of us, why we like it, and why we do it. Your boyfriend could be hesitant because of a trauma, or maybe some sort of abuse from the past. He might like it very much, but at at the same time not feel comfortable with the subject. You could try a type of backdoor approach (no pun). Maybe if you bought some diapers for him, but were to leave them in his dresser for him to find. Don't tell him you bought the diapers, let him come to you and ask, if he feels he wants to talk. Give him the key, and if he wants to open the door he can on his own terms.

It's just a thought, maybe it can help? I hope you can get together on this, good luck.

All very good advice by Mamasboy and Luvs, which I agree fully with. Support and caring is the ticket, but under no uncertain terms be confrontational in anyway. I kind of like the idea of the diaper gifting but your boyfriend might find that humiliating as well. Have you thought of maybe the idea of you wearing a diaper at the same times as he does to sort of break the ice a bit? I had a young lady who was on the edge of wearing for me in the beginning of our relationship and it bothered her to be the only one wearing a diaper. Try the fellow enthusiast method and then when the ice is broken you can go back to just your boyfriend wearing if you like. Hell you never know you just might like wearing them too after you try for a while. Sounds like you have a very diversified lifestyle choice or choices I should say try the mutual experimentation route.

Please keep us up to date on you're progress? I find this very interesting and I am interested in your results.

All the advice is good - I have very little to add. The mutual idea from Elf sounds like a good idea, and you do never know if you might like it yourself!

The main thing is that at least you are open to it and learning about it. He is lucky to have someone who is willing to be so. One of the best things is to show that you are open to the fetish and you want to support him and join him in it.

I personally would go for the talking approach and then the mutual wearing... or just the talking.

Sorry, I have no new ideas, but here is my 2 pence for what it is worth!

Thank you all for the advice. I think my interest in the whole thing is mainly based on the excitement of getting into one of his fetishes. I've tried talking to him about it a few times. I know... He knows I know.... He knows I'm interested... I just think he's embarrassed which isn't that surprising with his personality. He's more than happy to explore my interests but not very open to expressing his. It took a lot of talking to just to get him to admit that he wants to wear the diaper. I think I will try buying them and kind of seducing him into it. Any advice on brand or type or if that even makes sense. I'm admittedly pretty ignorant still of the whole thing... But I can't possibly learn enough. I appreciate you all taking the time to lend a hand. I'm sure he'll appreciate it too sometime. Lol

Well good for you buddy. Glad your trying to at least understand his fetish for him. Very cool of you BTW. As far as diapers go if he likes disposables then i suggest abena x-plus or wellness diapers or if money is not to important then look into ABU brand or bambinos brand also. both have a baby print on them.

Good luck to both of you. hope he realizes what a good guy he has one day lets you into his world of likes.

Always nice to hear there are another couple of lucky people who like to work together on a problem. Enjoy yourselves.

Thanks again. It's much appreciated. And I in no way think of this as a problem

In any way. I have many kinks and I'm absolutely open to my partners kinks as much as he is to mine. I think it's fun and free and kind of liberating to get out of my comfort zone and explore a new area. I just hope I can convince the man that I love to open up and let me into his world. Thank you all so much. I truly appreciate the support and advice that I really had nowhere really to find any answers to my questions. That I realize doesn't make much sense right now but I'm a bit drunk. I guess all I think is thank you all very very much.

Help your BF enjoy his fantasy. It could be good for your relationship

It might be too weird for him if he's shy/uncomfortable about it, and you try to help him "enjoy his fantasy" like A2Bill suggested. If your can, that's great, but it might be best to give him his space for now. Just know and accept that this kink isn't going to go away, ever. It just won't - it's a part of who he is. It may take him some time to accept this. It'll be pretty nice for him when he eventually accepts his kinky, padded side, and he realizes that he has a BF who already accepts & loves him for who he is. Give him time, and cheers to you for your patience, and your open-mindedness 😃

Hi

I cross dress into ladies clothes and one thing a diaper or a nappy does is give a bloke a more feminine profile. Yes a nappy is bulky so it pads out a bottom, widens the hips and gives a lovely curved tummy. It also smooths out man tackle bulges. Perhaps dress your b/f in nappy knickers and plastic pants under ladies undies and clothes - he'll look gorgeous!!

Of course you can dress up too - complement or contrast with him - it does not matter. You'll soon be striding out together!

Live life now - later may be too late

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How has it been going? Is bring diapered something that you two are still interested in? Curious as I am in a similar situation.

Diapers have always been my little secret. It's mine, I've learned to hide it. It's my own personal love. I'm currently learning to accept my wife's love and let her into my kinky world. She's open to the idea of me being in diapers and is willing to do what ever it takes to pleasure me. She's changed me and bought me special presents to go with my fetish.

I understand your boyfriend desire to keep it secret. When you've had a special relationship with diapers It's hard to learn to share it with someone else. One suggestion our therapist had for us was to sit back to back and have a conversation. Somehow not looking the other person in the eye makes talking about this easier.

Be supportive, love him and have patience. Hopefully he'll come around.

I had trouble exposing this subject to my wife because of childhood trauma. My parents caught me masturbating in diapers and told me what a loser I was and how no women would ever love me. I was told all sorts of nasty things. That really affected me well into adulthood. Maybe it's trauma?

Hope that helps.

Possibly seens how he wants to be in the diapers he might want to be the only baby. Or he was molested and trying to hang on to his childhood of before the insistent took place. Maybe stuck in that time and don't know how to talk about it... I could be way off putting my 2 cents in the only reason i did was cause i kinda the same way bout keeping to myself about certain things especially to those closed to me