Vanilla dating and diapers...

Has anyone had a tough time explaining diaper or wanting a total "vanilla" girl to try diapers or try to be the "mommy" in your "adult baby" lifestyle? I always get nervous to explain it or have a tough time understanding peoples view on it.

Once getting to know a girl, I may drop hints, depending on our conversations. You have to feel her out, talk, jumping right into things does not work out so well. She has to feel comfortable with you, she may even eventually say things like, I want to know the real you.. once she feels comfortable with you as a person or man, she is usually more acceptable of things. Good luck!

The inability to even hint at this with girlfriends over the years was a major reason I did not get married until my early 40's when I met a wonderful woman who had obviously fallen for me, and was very serious about our relationship, as short as that had been at the time. One of the hardest things I have ever done was one night we were in bed together, and I thought to myself "It would be really unfair to lead her on in this relationship if this is something she can't handle." So I said to her "there is something really weird about me that I will have to tell you sometime - it doesn't hurt anyone, but it is really strange." I thought about what I had just said for a moment, and then decided it was now or never. When I finished telling her, I said "Telling you this is almost like asking you to marry me - in fact that is what I guess I am doing." She thought for a minute, and then said "Yes." It has been over twenty years. She doesn't participate in my love of diapers, but she is nice about it. We have been happier every year we have been married.

Though girls I've met seem accepting of me likening it they don't seem to want to give it a try

I wasn't vanilla per say, but I had never heard anything about abdl. After a couple dates my guy sent me a picture of him in a diaper over FB. And was like "hey, so would you still be interested?" He's rad so I went for it. We've just spent our one year anniversary as a mommy/baby vacation at Disneyland 😃 and I'm working still to be a better and more strict mommy. I love everything about it. Apparently I'm a rare thing but the moral is to take a shot- just because she's vanilla doesn't mean she won't jump in!

I was in a relationship with a Jewish girl that was into spanking (the only reason I mention her religion is that the Jewish girls I have dated have generally been more open-minded and less condemning than the US Christian girls I've dated - this particular girl asked her Rabbi about anal sex and he gave her the OK!). She was "switcable", as am I, somewhat (I've found most "switchable" people tend more towards being subs).I was able to get her to do something akin to a "Spencer Spanking Plan" thing. I was able to get her to diaper me a few times, but wasn't into it. What was cool about her though is she seemed to be the only girl who didn't loose respect for me by bringing it up. Btw, I've dated guys too, and my last BF hated my diaper fetish. I was able to get another BDSM goth girl to wear a diaper on a couple occassions... she liked being humiliated. For me, the person's openness to my fetishes is far more important than the sex of the person.

I'd test waters slowly. Burned too many times in quickly bringing Mommy/boy aspects

Yes that is one of the hardest things to talk about ur so afraid of her reaction that she will laugh at you or mock you or tell you to get out. I told my wife and she did diaper me once but was not in to it and did not want me to continue so I had to do it in secret as the feeling of wanting to wear diapers is so strong and never goes away..You really have to test the waters and the ones that do find that their mate is ok with it are so lucky.

I do have a friend that does change me and has no problems doing this for me.

I have been in diapers 15yrs and my wife knows this.She is the main reason I'am diapers she wants her the bed etc to stay dry but must change myself.She has also been known to check the bed for leaks everything is done her way.

I had actually quit wearing for a while, I was single at the time and knew I would never find someone accepting of it. I ended up meeting a wonderful woman, and apparently I hinted about my diaper desires because she found out on the internet. I hate that she learned this way before I felt comfortable in our relationship, but we are still together 4 years later. She doesn't participate which I am completely fine with, but to have someone who accepts you for who you are is a real gift.

Yes! I had a hard time bringing it up to my wife after we were married. She has diapered me a few times but is not really into it. I think you have to be careful how you introduce it.