Do men really enjoy giving oral to a woman?

After coming out of a 17 year relationshp where there was no giving of oral sex to me (I have always enjoyed giving - as a matter of fact I love to) - I'm left wondering do men really enjoy giving oral sex? I have always had a difficult time relaxing & enjoying it - because I didn't feel that guys enjoyed doing it - and I was left wondering if smell, appearance or taste were as big a concern to men - as it seems to be for me. I would love to know what others think. It's been 17 years since anyone has done oral on me - and it's left me wondering in what ever new relationship I enter - should I be changing my way of thinking? I appreciate all answers - comments, etc. On the flipside - how do I overcome my own mental hurdles to relax - and enjoy it? (The ironic part of all this is - I'm pretty open minded when it comes to sex - I really enjoy sex - and it almost seems absurd that I think this way...)

I can't speak for all men Charlotte, but I for one enjoy it. I find the scent of a woman's pubic area intoxicating. A man might do it to please his partner, himself or both. I do it for both of us. If you like it you can't lose. So, if you find a willing partner, relax and enjoy the experience. There is someone out there who will meet your needs.

Sam42 said:

I can't speak for all men Charlotte, but I for one enjoy it.......

Well you can certainly speak for me Sam! I too enjoy giving oral to a willing partner. I regard it as one of the most intimate parts of lovemaking and above all I regard it as a great honour and privilege.

Charlotte said:

After coming out of a 17 year relationshp where there was no giving of oral sex to me (I have always enjoyed giving - as a matter of fact I love to) - I'm left wondering do men really enjoy giving oral sex? I have always had a difficult time relaxing & enjoying it - because I didn't feel that guys enjoyed doing it - and I was left wondering if smell, appearance or taste were as big a concern to men - as it seems to be for me. I would love to know what others think. It's been 17 years since anyone has done oral on me - and it's left me wondering in what ever new relationship I enter - should I be changing my way of thinking? I appreciate all answers - comments, etc. On the flipside - how do I overcome my own mental hurdles to relax - and enjoy it? (The ironic part of all this is - I'm pretty open minded when it comes to sex - I really enjoy sex - and it almost seems absurd that I think this way...)

I'm so sorry Charlotte that your ex would not reciprocate. Of course no one should have to do something they don't like doing but I do read from what you say that you gave oral to him - such a pity that it wasn't a two way thing. You ask if smell, appearance or taste were an issue for men? Well, if a woman wasn't healthy or fastidious as to cleanliness there might be issues there but otherwise I see no problem. You go on to say 'as it seems to me', implying that your ex wasn't particularly fastidious. If that was the case it would be awful for you and I'd only be surprised that it took you 17 years to make the break! So yes, if it was his cleanliness that was a problem then you should change your way of thinking -as I said before no one should do things they don't like doing - for whatever reason.

Personaly, with my partners I've always enjoyed the smell, appearance and taste - though perhaps as Sam42 says, scent might be a more appropriate word than smell - and we constantly refer to the Nectar of the Gods and suchlike phrases, for both of our 'Nectars'.

So yes Charlotte, whilst not all men enjoy 'doing it' I wager the majority do! You mention that you have mental hurdles in relaxing - Well, when you find the right man, who doesn't have his own mental hurdles about such a beautiful act, you'll not have those mental hurdles either!

I absolutely concur. The pleasures that a gentleman can offer a woman with oral explorations a wonderful. The response he receives from her body becomes its own rich reward. As with the tender blossoms of the lily, each woman's particular flower is unique and beautiful in its own way. Why would a caring partner not want to sample, caress, savor, taste his lover's most hidden garden?

Charlotte, most men that I know enjoy performing oral for their woman. You're right, smell and taste do play a part, however while an unhealthy smell or taste can put a guy off (in which case all the more motivation to find out what the issue is and correct it..) I can honestly say that there is nothing more exciting than the smell and taste of a healthy, sexually excited woman.

It's also an extreme turn on for me if my oral attention results in my partner cumming. It's both sexually exciting for me and a point of pride that I can pleasure her that much.

I think that you can find any combination and it's the same for women. There are people who would rather give than receive oral. There are people who would rather receive than give. There are people that love giving. There are people that will give oral just to please their partner. There are also people who won't give oral at all. Even if you could make broad statements about people's preferences, each individual is different so you don't know what you're getting unless it's discussed or you find out when it's time.

To me, it's like this site. If I talk to someone here, I know they are inclined to be open minded about fetishes.

For these types of questions, I like Dan Savage's advice column. Just Google "Savage Love."

As for you specifically, since you know, you can work on it. It's important that you know what you like, want and need in the sex area. Since you haven't had it in a long time and want it, then maybe you should find a guy who loves it! There are plenty out there!

Eating Mrs L pussy after I cum all over her is great

I love oral sex as much or maybe more than intercourse. To me, there is nothing else like it. I love EVERYTHING about it! The taste, the smell, the view... all of it! I also like the control it gives me over my partner. I can control every aspect of her orgasm. When she cums, how often and the intensity of her orgasms. I love watching my sub cum! Its SO primal.

I once dated a lady (before D/s) who wanted no foreplay. She wanted it, "Slam, Bam, Thank you Maam!" It was the MOST boring vanilla sex I had ever had. We did not date long at all.

Kudoes to you, Charlotte. If I had been in your place he would have done oral on me for my own enjoyment or he he would have done been gone!

I also believe that if you had a man who REALLY enjoyed giving you pleasure and actively sought to satisfy you and that really enjoyed oral, then you could/ would relax and enjoy it.

That can be so pleasurable for both parties, and especially after cumming.

I also enjoy tasting a woman, using my lips and tongue to explore her nether regions. It is something that I enjoy doing and will almost always perform it before actual intercourse, it seems to make whomever I'm with more relaxed and become more turned on and asking for more.

As for the scent/taste/visual of the act, for me, I prefer a woman who's freshly showered (or bathed) and with a clean shaven mound. For me it's all about exploring her and taking my time, kissing along her thighs, dragging my lips over the crease where her legs meet her groin, running my tongue just around her lips, then moving it down between the labia into the folds, back up again, then moving onto her clitoris and right down the middle. If she's clean and shaven it makes the act much more enjoyable for both parties. While I will perform oral on a woman who hasn't showered in a while (ie after coming home from work), the salty/sweaty scent can sometimes be a bit offputting. Sometimes though that can make it a bit more of a turn on and more spur of the moment and raw.

Do not settle on your next partner. I was seeing a woman recently who had come out of a 10 year relationship where the sex was either terrible or nonexistent. After having me between her legs with my tongue and lips, she can't get enough.

I would rather give than to receive. Luv the way the lips feel in your mouth when you suck them and to put my tongue in. It is just a major turn on.

Thank you for your responses - its been really nice to hear the encouraging words. I am quite open minded and see sex - as "adult playtime." I enjoy pleasing a man - have always wanted to please - and will continue to do so... I'm looking forward to meeting, dating, and settling down with someone as kinky and open minded as myself. Now to find (capture the heart of) that elusive man - who makes my loins ache, my breasts heave, makes my pussy gush, and who can make me pant and scream with delight....

I agree with surgedoc. It is truly more truly more blessed to give than receive. What pleasure to explore with the tongue, probing, searching, gently sucking and etc. Feeling and sensing her slow rislie to a state of climax. For me, it just does not get much better.

I just get off seeing the reaction it gives the mrs. For me it is a big turn on to see her orgasm!

I love to perform oral sex on my partner she also enjoys it very much.

I live for it. I am a lesbian trapped in a man's body. There is nothing more rewarding. I do like wet!

On some days I PREFER performing oral sex on my wife to penetrative intercourse! And I REALLY like traditional sex with my wife. When she orgasms during cunnilingus it makes me feel so connected and passionate. I've told her repeatedly that I happy to perform daily but she holds me back to a 2-3 times a week schedule 😃 !

I enjoy giving and receiving oral sex but my SO isn't interested in either...sad situation!

Charlotte, I really do enjoy preforming oral ...I love the smell and wetness of a aroused lady. I hope someday you find a special person so you can relax an enjoy.

Lucam

I enjoy giving and my wife enjoys receiving. We also both like a little ass play mixed in. The most intense orgasms my wife has are when I slowly insert a finger in her ass while licking her clit.

I for one loveit. Unfortunatley my current wife does not REALLY enjoy it. She suffers from learned stigmas about that area being dirty and self concious about urine flatulance and scent. There was only one time when I started to go there on a woman and was repelled by a scent, I just stopped and went to something else. My wife has let me do it 'cause she knows I wanted to but she wasn't comfortable and that left me uncomfortable. But Yes I DO Enjoy It.

Toby

I prefer to give than to receive....best ever

I too really enjoy giving oral to my wife but alas she says all it does for her is to annoy her. She says she gets no pleasure from it at all, so I have stopped trying. Before I married her over 30 years ago, I know that several girls enjoyed me giving them oral pleasure, so either I have gotten rusty with age and lack of use or it is a problem with her. I am sorry for the other men on this forum that are in the same boat I am but I'm glad to know that I am not alone.

Are you kidding me , I love to give oral pleasure to a female . . If a man won't kiss your vigina , kick his ass out and call another man that will . I never have turned down a chance to eat pussy . Charolotte you and all females deserve the pleasures of oral sex , life is to short , just do-it . You will like it !!!

Hi Charlotte.

I was raised to give oral to a woman after I saw my Uncle with my Aunt growing up. I had to sleep in the same room, and so my nights were filled with on-going moans and sighs. Lol! Finally, at the age of 13 y.o., my first oral experience with a woman 8 years older taught me the art of eating her delicious musky pussy and rimming her asshole. So, I began searching for more to taste and enjoy. As an adult, I would date a lot and instead of the girl giving me a blow job, I'd reverse the services and tell them I wanted to tongue their pussy and rim their ass. A few found my kink weird, butt once I was down there, I had them crawling and weeping with joy.

The highlight of my oral experience was with a woman, divorced and in her mid 50's. She looked tired, old and out of touch and afraid of being left alone. I met her at a market where she was shopping, and we struck up small talk. Soon I was at her apartment helping her move some of her furniture. We laughed and she was embarrassed. She felt awkward of her looks. She said she had been recently divorced after 22 years of marriage, so I made her feel more relaxed, and I stepped it up and said, with taste, that I'd love nothing better than to give her oral satisfaction. She almost choked.

She said, "What!? My ex never ever got near me or even wanted to." Lol!

She didn't move as I began raising her skirt and stood up to position her hips and spreadeagled her legs. She was so rigid, butt she finally relaxed and allowed me as I removed her soiled but well-scented panties. She said she needed to bathe. I went for it. The musky metal sweaty odor and taste and I was in heaven. Her pubic hairs were sticking out like dead branches, thick and sticky, Mmm. Needless to say, I dove into her love pond and stayed there for some time. I visited her many times after, and now she re-married and she thanked me that I had revived her hope and made sure her new beau ate pussy.

I'll miss her juicy pussy, but I continue searching for more untouched, deserted pussy. The oldest I have ever satisfied orally was a 68 y.o. married lady who was a neighbor of mine. I love womens' pussies and their asses. Most women have never experienced anyone tongue rimming their anus and go absolutely wild with lust and orgasm after orgasm.

Sorry. I overextended my response. I just love pussy and would love to orally satisfy you, Charlotte, anytime.

Certainly erotic going down on a woman -- usually after doing a few positions then pull out and go down then go in again -- it seems to raise the excitement

In a single word YES! The whole business of sex is about pleasing a partner and oral seems to be one of the very best ways. I have a saying in my office "Having a woman cum as she is licked is one of life"s sacred moments". I really believe this as does my GF who just loves oral both giving and receiving.

It is one of my favorite joys of life! I never get tired until she forces me to stop. Even then, I want to do it more!

I am so glad that you men like to do this sort of thing. Goodness knows, speaking for myself actually, that I love this activity. I know Doc does too and he's geat at it. After he makes me cum, I get all tickley down there which makes him lick me even harder. Mmmmm.

Mashie

One of my favorite things to do. She makes me stop way to early for my liking. The smell and taste make it all the better. I get horney thinking about it.