How many girls in their 20's are openly into anal?

I'm a college age guy and I've been rather obsessed with anal for my whole life. I've been trying to breach the conversation about anal sex or assplay in general with my girlfriend of over a year but she just is too weirded out by it. Are there any girls here that openly loved anal since or before their college days? How can I make my girlfriend feel more comfortable with our butts?

I certainly was.

I can't give you specific ideas on how to get your woman involved because no one had to coax me! 😁 😁 😁 😁

Mainly I would say to use a good massage oil and massage her body, back, legs and butt and get progressively closer to the anus, eventually penetrating it with a good lubricant. Vaseline may be good because it will mix well with a massage oil.

NOTE: depending on her responses, it might not be wise to "go for the gold" on the first or even second or third massage.

Tickle her perineum?

I guess I really wanted to hear from someone who was not into anal before their first experience, but is now okay with the idea. I will certainly tickle her perineum as she is tied to my bed tonight and see where that goes.

I think men can also help with your "predicament", not just females that weren't into anal. My wife, for example, was not into anal and still isn't wild about it. However, I do believe that if you proceed slowly towards your "goal" you are going to be better off than talking to her about it. She may just have a pre-conceived notion about anal sex that no amount of "honest talk" is going to overcome. ManyOoohs4U may have a good point. Just linger around the general area, inching closer as she becomes more accustomed to being touched there. Don't try to rush it, just see how she responds. My wife finally overcame the resistance to my kissing her there and accepting of my "wayward" fingers and I think she has really come to enjoy my anal attentions.

I think there's a lot of cultural baggage about the ass in general. Most people (are closed-minded) think of it only as a poo dispenser. Then there's the whole "Exit Only - Do Not Enter" homophobic stigma attached. Some women will immediately assume a guy who likes ass play, giving or receiving, is gay. One girlfriend accused me of being gay. That's actually how I came out to her as being bisexual. Funny thing is that she got into it after that. I teased her occasionally that she did it so I wouldn't leave her for another man 😃

It's pretty common nowadays

Great post Furry!

Cheers

When I first met my gf/wife, we were both students.Sex was rather conventional at first, but I showed her that I liked anal stimulation very much and after a while she became accustomed to penetrating me with a finger and playing around. She herself was not that keen on the idea at first, but I think that by seeing how I responded to anal stimulation (very enthusiastically) and by mentioning that this is one area where the sexes can experience the same sensations, she gradually sort of conceded the point and began to try it out herself.

I can't say it was because of the (casual) arguments that I put forward were enough to convince her, but that, in conjunction with showing how much I enjoyed it, were enough to overcome her initial hesitation.

Now that I think back on it, it didn't take all that long. But, I do know that if I had tried to force her or spring it on her unawares, that would have been the end of it. The same with only talking. It was a mixture of demonstration and off hand remarks ... and then very gentle trying.

I'm into anal and I'm in my teens, but I have been since I first tried it. I don't understand why more girls aren't into it, but I feel like a big part of it in younger girls is due to that fact that they think it will hurt.

A massage sounds like a great idea, or if you see she is extra horny maybe she'll go for it if you go extra slow.

My wife didnt like it before me. Now when we have sex she always wants me to stick a finger in her ass and of course, I do 😉

The massage trick works AMAZINGLY well. Eventually she will beg for you to stick her but first you HAVE TO MAKE HER WANT IT!!!

And this means a LOT of massages, eating her out and occasionally flicking your tongue over her hole. Do this enough times and get her used to it, then move to finger in her ass while the other fingers are in her pussy as you're licking her clit. Then one night you can just lube her up and go for it SLOWLY!!!!!

If you have been TRULY patient and made it all about her for the past 6 months, she will want you to try it and then it's another process of slow, lots of lube and LOTS of communication. If you don't make it about her she will shut down faster than a nun on Sunday. Remember, she's young and to her pain is SUPER scary so make sure everything feels good 😃

I enjoy anal a lot. Have for 3 years. Love the feeling of being filled with a dick back there. Such a turn on.

I'm not totally open in the sense that everyone I know is aware that I'm into anal but its no secret in my sexual life...

I had my first anal while I was in college. A boy that I was sleeping with convinced me to try anal and one night we locked my dorm room door and after he lubricated by butt and his tool, he slowly slid it up my tushy as I kneeled on my bed. It hurt a little but then it did feel good. Since then I did anal other times with different boys. The same college boy asked me to try taking an enema, on my back, while he lay on top of me and screwed the crap out of me. THAT was amazing.

I.ve never been with a guy, but I have never needed any encouragement from any of my ladies.

Been very anal erotic since my early teens. Now, I find that I enjoy it even more after a very long enema session.

Wow!!

I knew I liked anal before I told my bf at the time. It was just an awkward conversation. I knew he liked it but I was more embarrassed about the "ick" factor. After him being so persistent I said okay and it's it been fun ever since. Just talk to her about it. I like the massage idea as well. In my head, if you're willing to go back there not knowing its state of cleanliness you obviously are afraid of a little dirt and might make her more comfortable.

I was,a Freshman in college the first time I had anal sex with my bf of 2 years. That was 1971 and a good lubricant was hard to find. After hunting around the house he lived in, I found a jar of Vicks vapor rub. I have been hooked on anal sex ever since and still love it to this day.

I just love anal

I've never been against anal, but wasn't so much of a butt slut until after dating a well hung guy that loved fuckung my ass. He also had a scat fetish. So I got much more comfortable about things. Now I typically cum easier with anal than vaginally. It's just a cultural taboo I think. I had a friend swear off anal until she tried it as a method of sex without losing her virginity yet. I almost died laughing when she called and told me. I told her she shouldn't knock it before trying it :-P

In my 20's I dated a woman also in her 20's who was passionately into anal but admitted that, before we dated, she used to consider it 100% perverted and wrong. She said that because I was so complimentary of her body and specifically her bare bottom that over time she got used to the attention I directed to her cheeks. I mean just rubbing and caressing, nothing further. I never even brought up penetration in the early days.

But one afternoon lying around naked, I was caressing her bottom and lightly ran a finger along her butt crack and got the courage to say "I wonder what you look like in there?" She was surprised and said "what do you mean?!" but not in an angry way. I said "your bottom is so gorgeous, I'm just curious what you look like between your cheeks." She said something non committal like "Ohhh, well, that's so private" and then giggled. I asked "may I look?" as I placed both hands on her cheeks. She said "OK" but then pulled away in a very dramatic manner, before I could go further, and said "No! No, it's too private there!" It was almost playful, so I didn't pressure her further.

Months later in the relationship, after a lot of buttfucking and rimming and rectal thermometers and other naughty things, she told me that our early playful conversation was the point when she became sexually aroused by the idea that her bottom could be desireable. She realized that I was serious in my desire to explore something she considered taboo, and that excited her beyond what she ever imagined possible. As of that moment, she wanted me to pay attention to her ass.

@RichardAsni, that's an amazing anecdote. I can only imagine the relief she must have felt when she realized she could finally let go of that burden. Good for you!