A Turn-Off

I have no problem giving my partner oral sex. I just hate it when they put their hand on your head and try to guide you down there. That really bothers me. Does anyone else have a problem with this?

I used to, in fact I really resented it when a man did that. However, I don't mind it when my mate does it. It means he's enjoying what I'm doing and he wants more. He would never make me gag and has expressed reluctance to express himself in that way but I told him it's a great way to let me know that he likes what I'm doing. By the way, he loves it when the roles are reversed and I grab his hair to pull him in closer.

Lady makes a great post. He is probably just communicating to you that he is enjoying it or does enjoy it from you. Sometimes us men find it easier to suggest with a motion than it is to outright ask. We are afraid of rejection too.

I like the idea of being forced to do it, so having a guy grab my hair for example and force me into a rhythm is a turn on. What's not a turn on is having someone push really hard against the back of my head and make me gag.

I like lot of fantasies, but DISLIKES if any mess is going on with the fantasy,

Pain and violences are not welcomed.

Little pain with huge pleasure and arousing can be so delicious.

My TURN OFF in this subject is a bit different than most. I'm not sure I would enjoy have my head grabbed, my hair pulled, and a grunted "Lick my Dick" but I also would hate to have to resort to any of that in order to get oral. If the only way my wife would find it acceptable, let alone that it might be a fun thing would be for me to force her then I may as well resign myself to never getting oral. It would be a total TURN OFF for me to know that she couldn't stand to do oral and was only doing so to avoid pain.

I love giving oral (love it, love it, love it) - and I find that in the past him guiding my head, or even putting his hand on the back of my head and giving me a little "encouragement" - is more of a turn on for me than a turn off. I like the passion and the gutteral/primal feeling - when a man is so into it - that it just feels natural to do that.

Charlotte,...i think males love oral sex,...so males love you Charlotte!!

I don't find it a problem when my husband does that no matter how roughly he does it, but if I was with a new partner and he did more than gently bring my head there in a soft guiding manner, I wouldn't like it. I know how to do it, very well in fact, and I don't need any help.

I love to go down on a man, and for almost twenty years my husband has been the only lucky guy, but I AM THE DOMME and I will decide if that's what I want to do!

My SO likes it when we play like that. We generally don't play rough though. She also generally goes off when I start going off. We get this cool circular thing going. I go, she goes, I go, she goes.. You get the idea. I have found that controlling her head movements at that once critical second gets us properly synced up so her motions are in perfect sync with my spasms. When we get it right it is the most incredible feeling.

I love it when a woman pushes on the back of my head and grinds her crotch against my face when I'm giving her head, but if I was gay and I had a cock in my mouth I wouldn't want that cock forced down my throat.

I don't particularly like to be "guided," especially not in a rough manner, while I'm actually performing oral sex. However, beforehand, when he gently pushes down on my head or shoulder to indicate that he wants me to go down on him... that IS a turn on for me.