How do you make anal sex fun?

My boyfriend and I gave been doing anal for a little while but it hurts me mist of the time and he really enjoys it so how can I make it fun and easy for me to do it? He lubes up my ass and his cock but it still hurts. So any help would be appreciated.

I find that some mental imagery works well for me. Even at my advanced age, I'm not very experienced with anal intercourse. My mate, however, enjoys both giving and receiving. In fact, just the other day he asked me if I would mind receiving, I said not at all. When it came to the act itself there were some moments of tension on my part, I think I was anticipating discomfort. I told myself to relax and visualized the petals of a rose opening up. Particularly appropriate since that area is oft referred to as the rosebud. Anyway, I imagined myself opening up to surround him, and bingo, it worked a charm. No pain or discomfort whatsoever.

I also have the confidence that if I expressed even the tiniest bit of discomfort ar apprehension, he would stop immediately. Not to be nosy, but does your BF have good control on the downstroke? If he's entering too quickly or at a steep angle, that could be a problem.

Last but not least, would he exchange experiences with you and let you enter him with a strap-on or such? Sometimes a better experience can be had when you walk a mile in eachother's shoes.

Makes sure he uses his fingers to lubricate and penetrate you before entering you with his penis. It may also help if he uses a small dildo or other toy before his penis.

It is VERY important that the receiver wants to try it, even if reluctantly. If they are dead against it, it probably won't be fun.

My bf is good with his downstroke. He does lube everything up but I guess it's bc I know it's going to hurt and I don't relax it. The only thing I have ever put in him is one of my fingers and I think that's all he will let me do.

Whate position is better to do it at? Bc the only way we have been doing it is on our sides. Which sometimes it don't hurt when we do it like that.

Be don't always use a finger or anything before he puts it in me, that should help ifvhe started that also huh?

Thanks y'all for the help!

The anus NEEDS to be opened and warmed up before inserting a penis. It needs time and patience. He needs to use one finger, then two, three maybe even before having anal sex with you. You may need only a few minutes of fingering before your anus relaxes.

Much of it is in your mind, you can help ease the tension with deep breathing, or massaging your own clit. Also, pushing as he inserts himself into you will help open and relax the sphincter muscle and allow for less discomfort and an easier insertion.

Have him fuck you normally doggy style, then, when he's still inside you, let him finger your bum and work lots of lube into it. When you can take two fingers easily, he should quickly slip out your vagina and into your anus and penetrate you smoothly. He shouldn't thrust too much, just push into you and finish inside you. This way you're turned on and relaxed and have plenty to think about while he prepares you and he's going to come sooner rather than later when he gets it into you. Anal sex is something which needs practise, but it's good so persevere.

Take things real slow. A good slender vibrator works real good to loosen things up.

I know I'm a guy but what changed my view about anal sex was the first time I actually had an orgasm while stimulating my anus. Maybe try it on your own when you can't be interrupted, use a finger in your anus (well lubed of course) and masturbate at the same time trying to have an orgasm. As you get closer to your "moment" try moving the anal finger around more and more and see what happens.

It is very loving of you to try and find a way to accommodate your lovers anal interests. Hopefully there will be a big reward for you as well. The vast majority of the woman I have introduced to anal sex have become addicts.

I think the key points are attitude, or mood, preparation, and technique.

If you plan on an anal session. The first few times this is really helpful. You can gather up all the supplies and have everything ready. You can also take a nice long bath and remove any distractions from the house. Lock the doors, take the phone off the hook, sign off the internet etc..

Don't jump right into it. It is something to worked into. What I like to do is start with normal foreplay, and after going down on her for a little while, lube up a finger and start to play with her anus. You should be able to feel the little ripples of pleasure going through her as you lick her clit. Do not go past this stage until you are getting that effect. Slowly start to work your finger in, and use a slow sweeping motion. You have an amazing amount of feedback to guide you via the tension on her sphincter. Also let her come down on your finger once you have it lined up. At first you need to go really slow. You can also play with her vagina but keep one hand for each and don;t mix them. You might not even get to anal sex with your cock the first few times. Hopefully she will start to push her legs back when you are eating her, opening her anus up to your probing when you go down on her, Cool! You are ready for the next stage.

For the next stage, I like to lube up her ass crack and my cock and spoon. I like to slide my cock back and forth over her ass crack while spooning. You can use one hand on her breasts and one on her clit while you do this. I like to start trying to rub my glands more and more over her anus. At some point you should feel her anus puckering with little waves of pleasure. Now you can try lining your cock head up with the target. Go slow. Tease her anus. Let her control the depth and the motion. I try and keep her from putting her hands on my cock though. This is a fear thing and I want her to learn that I will not thrust. It may take you a few sessions to get all the way in, and a few more sessions before you do much more than a very slow back and forth. Concentrate on the warmth, and tightness and the dirty erotic feelings. If you both want to get there you will.

Don't rush it. The time will come when you can go at it like a porn star. I kind of miss the first shy days though. Enjoy each stage of the journey and take it slow.

What position are you in when it is uncomfortable. I think doggy style or a rear approach work well due to a curve in the rectum shortly after passing the anus. All the other advice is good too- be very well lubricated, take it very slow, perhaps dilate your anus first with one or two fingers, etc.

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You might try playful warm up & lube, then insert a small but plug. Go back to other forplay and sexy fun. The plug's presence in your ass will be exciting, and it will help to reset your sphincter to feel that "closed" is actually wrapped around the plug stem. If you want to you can play with popping it out briefly and then reinserting, but primarily leave it in and have other fun. After 15 minutes your muscles should be comfortable in the slightly open condition.

You can get a set of 5 or 6 plugs that are in various sizes, and you can move up to the next size for the next 15 minutes if needed. Since your butt hole is quite capable of opening up very wide when a poop come out, it's not so much a matter stretching beyond what's possible, but more a matter of teaching the muscles that being open is OK, and that instead of being squeezed down on nothing they can be squeezed down on an object. The muscles will still reach a state of "closed" but with a foot in the door, so to speak.

If you find that you need more than 15 minutes, or more than just one plug size, try starting a couple hours prior to sex. Get yourself aroused, lube up your ass, insert the plug, then get dressed and continue with your day. The extra time with the plug in will be good additional relaxing time for your muscles, will keep you aroused and wet as extended forplay, and when your boyfriend learns that you've been secretly wearing a plug all evening in preparation for him he will be very appreciative.

Please keep us posted on your attempts and adventures.

You can buy a kit of 5 butt plugs in graduating sizes. Do a search for Anal Dilators. The heads on these are not much bigger than the stem. That makes them easier to insert, but you may find they pop out easily too. The do-it-yourself fix for that is to wear 3 or 4 thongs. Don't use super skinny G-strings, just regular thongs with about a 1" wide strip of cloth up the back. They will hold the plug in snug and give your nether regions an overall tight feeling. You can even use these extra thongs to add a couple rounds to your sexy strip tease dance before reveling the sexy plug hiding in your naughty bum.

I think it's best to take hot bath before anal sex as well. this will make you relaxed and I think sex will be more plesent.

Starting slow is key. Small plugs and fingers always work!

You should try being on top, that way you can control the speed and depth of insertion.