Why is the the thought of having a exam is so appealing?

For me it is a mind thing. One has so many years of past exams to think back on, some being really bad ones and others being ok or maybe even good, but no two are ever the same. For me it seems I am on a quest to find one I consider to be the best one of my life, even though I know that perfect exam will probably never be found in a real life exam because it never will go in the way I would like it to go. That really can only happen in a play exam, but then even those may not always live up to my expectations.

For me, it's having to strip down go my boxers in front of a fully clothed professional and giving up control of my body to them. Knowing pretty much what is going to happen, but not quite what order and having the doctor poke, prod and use their tools to examine me all over. Little things like them using childish terms like "I'm just going to press inside your tummy button", "I'm going to have a listen to your tummy" etc. Then knowing they'll end by asking me to take off my boxers and stand in my birthday suit in front of them.

It has become that over time. Early on during those early pediatric years, it was more apprehension and fear followed by certain sadness of getting a shot in my butt. Back then, I would say until the age of 8, it was more the sense of dread as opposed to being undressed. Thereafter, I became more aware of being undressed, enduring the rectal temp, and the embarrassment of being exposed and having my genitals touched in front of a parent, usually my mother, and crying when told I was to receive a shot. The combination of being naked and hearing that just seemed so overwhelming. As I look back, it is rather silly since mom and the nurse would carry on as if what was to take place was no big deal! By the time I reached 11 and beyond, the exam became mixed with sexual arousal as I discovered erections and what happens when one indulges! Those teen years were now combined with arousal, anxiety, and some dread. After an exam, there was the joy of having to masturbate. Doing so before an exam was also enjoyable the night before. Then of course there was the occurrence of a spontaneous erection during the exam! No amount of thinking otherwise was sufficient to ward off my becoming erect.

All of what I have said formed the "appeal" of going for an exam. It's been heightened by seeing a new doc and experiencing an exam process with someone that I have no previous history. The anticipatory anxiety and curiosity remains as strong as ever. There is still nothing quite like my naked butt crinkling the paper on the exam table. Hearing that "You need to undress fully for the doctor," remains a powerful phrase. Scanning the room is equally appealing. Seeing others in the waiting area only adds to my tension, anticipation, and experience.

I guess, this is an experience that is just unique. Having a total stranger see me bare and examine my genitals and rectum is not common place. It is special and leads to pleasure at some point!

Some good answers in this old thread.

For me, it is definitely the power dynamic, the vulnerability, and sometimes, the objectification.

I always prefer female providers, if possible. That is because I have largely found them to be more empathetic and better communicators. Also, because of childhood issues, I tend to have a fair amount of anxiety being vulnerable and exposed to male authority figures.

So the thought of having an exam - of shedding my role of being in charge all of the time, of being exposed (but not necessarily naked) and vulnerable - that is what does it for me.

I also find the anticipation of my fiancee going for her well woman check up with a male doc very arousing. She always gives me a complete and detailed report on all the procedures when she returns.

When my wife used to get annual checkups by her male doctor I would have her explain in great detail what happened. I would be lying on the bed while she told me and I would be masturbating. Did you masturbate when your wife gave you her detailed report?

I feel like the thought of being examined is appealing because I would be giving up control to someone and letting them look at all of my body with nothing barred. Being so vulnerable with someone sounds beautiful and fun!!

Because the only other time I get naked and spread my legs for a man who squeezes my breasts and inserts things in my vagina is for sex. I rarely find real exams erotic but the fact that that is the only other place I’m going to those things certainly sets the scene for fantasizing.

I am very aware of the "power exchange" that goes on between any Dom and sub, and for me, the idea of passing the control to a play doc is very appealing to me as a patient, mostly because when it comes to all of my kinks, I am just wired that way. Nevermind all of the childhood annual checkup anxieties that come up for me that I get to relive in a safe space, etc. etc., you know what I mean.

Having said all that, addressing my newfound urge to switch, I would really just rather be on someone's table before I start making my own (newbie, rookie, beginner) house calls. So consequently, I am presently in this "I just want a freaking exam!!" phase because I've never had one in the play sense.

I have only done a few exams, all on lovely ladies. All the ladies were totally nude for the entire exam. But especially when their legs are spread, flat on their back, and a speculum is in their vagina, looking at the inside, their is a feeling of power for the examiner. While I have experienced that feeling of power, that is not why I like to do exams. I enjoy the nudity, exploring her body every where, and if she agreed in the discussion of what was going to happen in the exam, getting to give her one or more orgasms. I especially giving her an orgasm with the speculum still in her and spread wide. One time when I was doing this it was a plastic speculum and her contractions collapsed the plastic speculum.

Being touched and in a non judgmental way

Having to get a real medical examination for a problem is definitely not appealing to me at all. Not in the least. This because of the possibility of hearing bad news afterwards. I don't think I have ever looked forward to having a real medical examination. Not even when really necessary. The idea is not appealing, only driven by necessity.

However, the mental imagining of getting examined is totally different. In the imagination I of course know that I will never receive bad news like having an incurable condition I never suspected. In the imagination it's only fun and games, played out to whatever strikes my fancy at the moment.

But in real life? I would love to think I will never need to see a doctor for anything at all. Wishful thinking of course.