I was just thinking about this the other day.
Most of those with whom I’m have been intimate know that I can pretty-much tell if someone is “faking” their enjoyment of anal sex… Some of these people (girls in every case) were girls trying to use it as a means to get access to me (for a lot of reasons, but groupies are like that). But if I started having sex with a girl, whom I realized “She isn’t too into this…”
I’d tell them, and ask “WHY do you want to do something you don’t like!!!???” Some got angry. Some got upset. A few said “I’d like to like it.” (Leading to some simple instructions that allowed just that… It’s not hard to do).
But later, my wife (she and I did a few actual Porn videos that were just anal stuff) was amazed that I could tell which other performers were faking it as a way to make more money (in the 1990s, being able or willing to do “Anal” still paid girls about two to five times what straight sex did). And she knew this because the girls who DID like it tended to be able to tell she did too. And the girls who DID NOT like it tended to ask her “OMG! How do you get off so hard on that. I struggle to just make the right noises.” (And THAT, Maddy, is why people didn’t BUY those videos until you DID learn to like it). But my wife would say “HOW do you know that (that she was faking it)?”
Darkening of the skin of the klips, eyes, areolas, and genitals (if they don’t have their anus bleached, it gets darker too…), Their breathing tend to be shorter, and they get what is called a “polygonalization” of several areas of their body, STARTING WITH the areolas/nipples. It might not be insanely pronounced (Like hers), but it’s impossible to miss once you see it.” And most importantly… Their butts don’t snap shut the second it doesn’t have someone’s dick in it (The initial penetration has artifacts that also tell you whether it is possible they like it).
Part of anal sex being “fun/enjoyable/etc.” is it not hurting… It not hurting, and and “getting off on it” require knowing that the “relaxing” of the anal muscle groups IS NOT what most people think. I once compared it to learning to ride a motorcycle at higher speeds, where “Steering” is done by turning the bars in the opposite direction from that which you want to go… IT IS NOT INTUITIVE… And for anal sex… CAN BE SCARY the first time… It requires “pushing out.”
I remember learning that, and thinking “So I probably have to ‘push out’ pretty hard.” Which resulted in being penetrated REALLY HARD (Not that it was bad, because IT WAS NOT!). I’ve seen a lot o others do the same thing, not knowing that it just takes a tiny bit if effort. But with the “pushing out” the dick can come in, and once it starts doing (To quote Alex from A Clockwork Orange) “doing the old-in-and-out” the butt tends to STAY that way until a while after the object in it (Penis or not) has been removed. It IS possible to penetrate an anus, and have sex with it without that kid of minimal dilation… But it WOULD NOT be fun for the person to whom that butthole belonged (Couldn’t resist the alliteration).
BUT… Same applies to enema videos… I think of ALL the people whom I have seen masturbate with them; that I have seen use them before, during, or after the “Main event” of Sex, regardless of what that might be (sometimes it IS the enema).
BUT MOST… Remind me of what guys who like violent anal sex want from it: To Humiliate the Woman. To have power over her, and hurt her in many cases.
I KNOW why so many videos tend to focus on BDSM: Shame.
It gives them an excuse to do something they believe is otherwise “shameful.” I would say that the VAST MAJORITY of the girls I have known who LIKED/LOVED anal sex, or even enemas, were TERRIFIED of “the world finding out.”
I have seen EXACTLY ONE video of a girl masturbating in a shower the same way I have, or Bréa did, or Mike did, or my wife did, or the other boys and girls whom I knew did it did… She had the hose from a shower with some sort of much larger nozzle on it, and once it went up her butt, did not come out until she came (many times… For guys it tends to be once or twice depending upon any other sort of “performance Enhacement” is taking place).
Even weirder is that in 99% of the videos I have seen… The length of time they keep nozzle, hose, etc. inserted is roughly 10 seconds.. WTF is up with that?
That doesn’t count the “inflation” videos that are just BAFFLING to me… OK… You blew yourself up like a water-balloon… Now what?
WTF! THAT’S IT!
BTW… I would be willing to put on awful lot of money down to bet that most of those who do “inflation” with enemas do it SOLELY because of the money it generate being better than “normal sex.”
In talking to the few people I have seen on sites like Fansly, OnlyFans, or ManyVids, who I can tell DO like getting enemas… It is something they just started, and are merely copying what they have seen, and don’t have much idea of what else they could be doing with it.
One Trans Boy I spoke to was AMAZED that he had barely scratched the surface… He is supposed to be trying some of the recommendations and making some videos of it… If he notifies me, I will put-up links as soon as he does. He also promised to speak to some of the girls he knows on those sites who do enema vids, saying “I know a few who actually DO like them, and they just don’t have any real experience either.”