Acquainted or not

In a play exam is it preferable for the "doctor" and "the patient" not to be too well acquainted with each other? In the case of those who are friends is the procedure still as exciting as it was the first time with someone who was virtually a stranger?

I am not suggesting there is a problem with those who are friends and play together, or those who have a regular playdoc, there are obvious benefits to knowing what the patient and doctor enjoy. I'm just rather fascinated with the psychology of the experience.

I fully appreciate and support the importance of safety, obviously there has to be trust and understanding between both parties, but can the lack of familiarity and the impartial approach of a new "doctor" or "patient" add to the experience?

I am not sure how important this factor one way or the other. I became "acquainted" with my regular play partner through this board, and though we have played many times, the experience is still as satisfying now as it was the first time.

I can see that there is likely to be an extra excitement in any first meeting, when neither party is entirely sure what may happen, or exactly what to expect. But there's also the risk that things may not work out as well as had been hoped. Between play partners who are familiar with each other, and therefore more relaxed, that should no longer be a problem.

This idea is like most others in the fact that needs/desires vary as do the people involved. Personally, I have wanted to be well aquainted with my patient as that is a great way to gain her trust. The flip side of that coin is that, yes, trust could be gained thru real play right away rather than time spent from afar but so few women are willing to travel that route and you really cannot blame them. I have talked to women that had bad first experiences and they are VERY hesitant to try it again. It takes a lot of coaxing and reassuring to secure their trust and confidence, especially with this sensitive topic. They must truly understand and believe that there will no unwanted surprises to spoil the visit. Yea it is true that the first visit can be insanely wonderful and seemingly unable to duplicate but future meetings are just enhanced versions of the first! I enjoy getting to know my patient and her needs.

Well as a woman I will give you my 2 cents on the topic. Now before I go further, I am not suggesting that I speak for all women because I don't believe I do in this case. There absolutely is something to be said about the excitement one has or feels when doing something for the first time whether it's jumping off a bridge tied to a rubber band, going to your first concert, or playing patient and or doctor. But for me, maybe I am getting older and am not quite the fly by the seat of my pants type of girl anymore, but I am just as excited, probably more so actually, simply for the fact that I can really relax around my one and only playdoc.

When there is a knowledge of your play partner you can trust and relax knowing that you are not going to be hurt, and having that level of trust means that your level of play can only go higher and higher which in turn should make each experience only that much better, and different every time. Which again in turn should keep things always new, exciting, fresh, and like your first time. Also, the more you know us the easier you know how to please us, and for some of us, that's not always as easy as it seems or as easy as it is for others. And to be totally honest, if we are not pleased, or being pleased, the chances of us coming back are slim to none.

So in short, alfdtuna, I think you actually get it, and hit it on the nail on the head. Rock, I hope this helps shed some light.

Mashie

My response to your question Rockdoc would be from my personal views of meeting with a playdoc and chatting with other people via this site.

As I don’t do fantasy, its realism all the way for me, I find that learning about an individuals lifestyle, what makes them tick (or not as in the case of some) is beneficial to myself and hopefully to them as well to learn about what makes me the person I am. To chat with a potential playdoc and hear them speak about everyday activities, general topics, non medfet related subjects gives the impression that they are not solely intent on getting a woman’s knickers off and that they are able to communicate in educated correspondence, with courtesy and respect. For that reason, the playdoc will not be to me, a stranger when we meet up for the first time.

As you say yourself there has to be trust and understanding between the people concerned, and again from my point of view, there has to be some inside knowledge of that person. Not necessarily sharing the same views or sense of humour, although that is a tremendous bonus if they do, but building up a friendship before a meeting is to be considered.

Yes I do think that once a friendship is made and further meetings take place it does still hold that excitement, maybe a little more sometimes as the anticipation of what might (or not) be part of the examination each time.

Obviously other people have different views to mine and it wouldn’t do for us all to be the same, variety is the spice of life as the saying goes. As I said at the beginning these are just my thoughts on the question you pose and as with the other replies you have received, I hope this goes some way towards a response you were looking for........

There is definitely an extra edge to a first play examination appointment, especially if it is the very first time the two of you have met in real life. But this can vary from patient to patient and even how they or you feel on that particular day. There are a number of variables that can come into play.

But subsequent appointments can be just as exciting and rewarding,and things can be done a little differently each time if you want.

The underlying interest is always present.

Dr Philip - The UK Play Doctor.

If you are a person who is excited by the nervousness of first meetings - then seeing the same playdoc over and over, may lose its allure. I prefer a chemistry and rapport with my playdoc, it makes for a more mutual experience, if that makes sense. And as Mashie said, it deepens trust and you both become more familiar with what trips your trigger!

There is something very special about a first meeting. The nervousness and excitement can make for an intense time, but I wouldn't say it's better than subsequent meetings.

Totally agree with Woodpecker. There's an adrenaline rush at the first meeting or two that I love, but it's so hard finding good play docs, I'd just as soon keep playing with the same play doc and know he'll do a great job than go through a bad role play exam.

In my personal opinion as a patient, I am in complete agreement with Rocdoc. The lack of familiarity adds to the experience. There is an element of nervousness and awkwardness present at a first exam that cannot be duplicated again with the same patient/ doctor. This tension enhances the overall experience for me.

While I agree with Woodpecker, I also understand MikeLittoris thoughts as well. Having a regular play partner is wonderful and I am so blessed to have one. However, I also enjoy meeting and playing with new play Doctors in my frequent travels.

Lady Teddy, who loves to travel and to meet new play Docs

I have two examiners and make it a policy to have absolutely no personal relationship with either of them. I do not know any details about their lives and do not exchange pleasantries with them. When I interviewed them before accepting them as examiners I was totally cold and impersonal. They were both forewarned that this would be the case and agreed to the rules. I agree that one can never reproduce the same feeling of embarrassment as the first time an examiner sees you undressed, subsequent experiences are not entirely comfortable as long as there is no personal relationship.

I think it would be fun to have a personal friendship with your play partner, you'll both start to learn what the other likes and be able to tailor exams to fit that really well, plus I get a rush knowing that a person that I'm talking to as a friend or hanging out with has seen me naked, examined me, and done embarrassing and invasive procedures on me, and I've done the same to them.

On the other hand, you get a very different feeling being examined by someone you don't know very well. If you have a play doc or patient that you only see when you're examining them or being examined, the only thing you associate with them is the experience, every time I see this guy, I'm naked and being poked prodded and examined, and that's a whole different rush, I hope to have both play partners that I'm good friends with and play partners that I only see and talk to during an exam.

I always Struggle with this question. As for finding female patients, I always Want them comfortable with the situation and would never expect someone to simply show up for an exam with a complete stranger. That being said, there is something exciting about examining someone you don’t have that level of familiarity with; It feels more realistic. When I am the patient however, I very Much enjoy walking into an exam and meeting my “doctor” for the first time, just as I have With countless real doctors in the past.