Optimal position to lose the virginity

In the most cases a girl will lose her virginity at the beginning of the sexual intercurse with an experienced boy or a man; in the reverse case in the most cases a boy will lose his virginity at the beginning of the sexual intercurse with an experienced girl or a woman. Here in this forum you may read that in many cases this event has been feeled as horrible, ghastly and dreadful. So the following question does arise: Which is the optimal position for a girl or a boy to lose the virginity? - I suppose that in both cases the optimal position will be the Cowgirl-position.

A poll conducted on this forum, as well as many others polls to my knowledge tend to indicate that most people, boys and girls, lost their virginity in the missionary position, which is the instinctive way to have sex, as least for Westerners as a whole ( every one knows it is called "missionary" because natives in Africa were surprised to see how church people wanted to have sex with them, as they had others traditions in this respect, essentially doggy I guess). I think "missionary" is good because people are face to face and can experince some kind of confidence between the two of them, which is important for a first time. My personal first time ever was "missionary", but as I was lucky enough to spend the whole night with my girlfriend, we ended up in "cowgirl" and she insisted on doing all the job. So it is probably quite good for a boy to have the girl moving on his penis on a first time.

You indicate that losing one's virginity is a rather negative experience for many. Polls seem to show the contrary with a general sense of satisfaction. Personally I must say I regard this moment as one of the best experiences I had in my life, thanks to my girlfriend's gentleness.

Remember: From the point of view of the anatomy "missionary" is one of the worst positions to deflower a virgin.

Best position for the guy--absolutely ANY.

Best position for the girl--missionary.

As was stated above, both are probably anxious and they probably should face each other for communication purposes.

I think in most cases, the guy is probably better at guiding himself in with a little help from us, than we are at guiding their penis in the first time, which would be the case if the girl is on top as in the cowgirl.

Also as mentioned above, gentleness is the key.

The MOST IMPORTANT factor is NOT POSITION.

WETNESS and LUBRICATION IS MOST IMPORTANT.

If we are wet and relaxed, and don't have to support ourselves, intromission will be easiest.

Ricini.

I am not a Medical doctor, but in the 60 years of my life, I have had sex with a few female partners and I don't get your point about "missionary" not being good for girls to loose their virginity.

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Obviously the opinion upon the optimal position to deflower a virgin changes from continent to continent and from one country to the other; e. g.:

* Italy: Cowgirl

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SMl-Rll3M3s

* France: Cowgirl

http://www.doctissimo.fr/html/kamasutra/se_1609_positions_01.htm

* Germany, up to now:

1. Missionary, 2. Cowgirl, 3. Doggy

You may read that actually the preference in the positions for the girls is changing:

1. Cowgirl, 2. Missionara, 3. Doggy

http://www.planet-liebe.de/forum/showthread.php?t=102449&page=

http://www.planet-liebe.de/stellungstipps/stellungen-bei-denen-sich-die-frau-oben-befindet-4/reiterstellung-3/

http://www.planet-liebe.de/erstes-mal/tipps.html#frau_welche_position

http://www.planet-liebe.de/stellungstipps/stellungen-zum-eindringen-von-hinten-6/hndchenstellung-4/

Having been on the receiving end - missionary with legs as wide as possible is the least tight, but most likely to be the most painful. I had to stop my boyfriend when we were doing it this way because it hurt too much, but doggy was okay. I think it depends on the person and how each individual is built.

Some years ago I read in a description of an ancient culture at the times of the Roman empire - perhaps this was the culture of Karthago - that the defloration of a girl was integrated in the religious cult, this in the following manner.

After the girl’s first menstruation period this had to go to the temple where she had to introduce oneselves to the priests. The priests lead the girl to a cult figure with a well shaped dildo on it, this all manufactured of bronze. The ritual deflowering ceremony existed in the fact that the girl had to sit with the entry of her vagina exactly on the top of this dildo and in sinking down slowly the hymen was penetrated, this under the eyes of the priests.

Just because some perverted religious bastard priest cult had girls sit on a bronze dildo until it impaled her virgin vagina and tore her hymen, doesn't mean it is the best way to lose her virginity. I am sure it was the best way for the perverted bastards to see the dildo go inside her.

A girl at her first menstruation is hardly ready for intercourse, nor is her vagina ready either.

These religious people make me sick.

Switchablesusie: "These religious people make me sick." - You are right!

"These religious people make me sick."

Susie it's the other way around, they are SICK !

That's extremely disturbing!

Switchablesusie,

I suppose that at the times of Karthago it may be less bothered for a young girl deflowering itself in sinking down slowly on a bronze dildo on the top of a cult figure and the priests regard this as witnesses than today in diverse cultures in Asia where the priests claim the law to deflower a girl of one's own strenous effort and designate this in the name of god as a "deflowering ceremony".

Ricini, the people of the world would be infinitely better off if people would discard the ridiculous and offensive concept of any god and just let people live their lives.

Live by Lennon's "Imagine"

In another post someplace, I said I would ask my older daughter the position when she lost her virginity--had sex for the first time. Noting that she told me she had played with dildos for some time, it wasn't how she lost her hymen, so probably any position would have been fine for her.

She told me her first experience was missionary. Also keep in mind, she and her boyfriend knew each other for about a year before they had sex and it was really a tender experience for her. She said they did it a few times that night and tried out other positions, but I didn't ask her about them. You know those 16 year old boys (and girls) can fuck all night long!

My first time was missionary (I was 17). I also had been inserting objects in my vagina for years before having sex, so intromission wasn't painful for me either.

For a good first experience (the boy's personality and demeanor notwithstanding) girls should be given a dildo by their parents at puberty for gradual introduction into their vagina. They already use tampons, so this is just one other thing to put into their vagina. That would make things much easier for them later, plus most girls would enjoy it once they get the hang of it! I am going to do that for our younger daughter. For all I know, she may already have one.

Switchablesusie,

I agree totally that it is the best for a girl to separate the lost of the hymen from the first sexual intercourse. So let them play with dildos, this will never have any aftereffects, but with the first sexual intercourse a girl will have to calculate with a pregnancy for there exists not one contraceptive that is absolutely secure; exclusively this is the "case of emergency".

Switchablesusie - you're either the coolest mom out there or you're the coolest mom anywhere.

This is the greatest compliment I could picture.

Best position for a girl would be under ME!

Skybear

Skybear, I guess that means missionary! 😁 😁 😁 😁

For me the first several times were in the missionary position. It was also the times when we used condoms, which I still hate but did use after the birth of my daughter while I was still nursing.

I lost my virginity in the missionary position like almost everyone else. It must come from experience, but maybe the best position is doggy style. I'm not sure that I would have appreciated that as a teenager, however.

Missionary seems to be the norm. And it's the easiest takes little effort and still feels good. Besides you can't start with the good stuff on the first go or you won't have anything better to climb to

I think it doesn't matter at all. Personally I'd prefer doggy style. Surprisingly many advice cowgirl position which may be nice for a few. It's difficult to wax yourself. Isn't it?

When I took my 22-year-old girlfriend's virginity, I laid face up and allowed her to squat over me and lower herself onto me at her own pace.

She was a shy girl till we met, which I guess explains why she waited so long. She was a little better than average size, but she had a small vagina. I knew she was scared it was going to hurt because of this, and that's why I let her go at her own pace on top of me. I also tried to relax her by fingering her externally. She wouldn't let me put a finger inside her because she wanted to lose her hymen on my penis.

She took my penis and positioned it at her entrance and started pressing down....and winced. I kept telling her to take her time and go slow. I was hoping she'd go slow enough for her hymen to stretch instead of tear apart, because that really hurts something terrible. She kept pressing till she had me in just past the glans, then she just took a deep breath and forced herself all the way down.

I felt her rip inside, and she yelped and cried out. I didn't dare try to move inside her because she was feeling some intense pain down there. All I could do was hold her and try to comfort her because it scared me as much as it hurt her. We waited a few minutes and she slowly tried moving up and down. I knew she was still hurting, but she kept picking up the pace until I guess the pain became dull.

She felt so good, I guess because she had muscles from running so much. And she made a mess on both of us and the bed (blood and vaginal secretions). It was everywhere, but we didn't care.

I was so glad she was able to orgasm, because that was a difficult and painful experience for her.

But I recommend if your female partner is nervous about the pain of losing her virginity, let her be on top first so she can go at her own pace. You're less likely to hurt her as much this way, especially if she's got a thick hymen. If she's absolutely too tough to "break in," she might need to go to her OB-GYN to see if something's wrong down there. Some girls are born with an imperforate hymen, or a very tough hymen that requires a minor procedure to make intercourse less traumatic. Some of the luckier girls can lose their virginity with little or no pain, usually because they've injured their hymen at a younger age or the hymen itself is pliable or thin.

Slim88,

Congratulations to this experience with such an extraordinary courageous and determined girl that insists on becoming a woman.

Definantly a poisition where eye contact is available. I think missionary is good or a variation of that.

. . . . let her on top first so she can go at her own pace. . . . If she's absolutely too tough to "break in", she might need to go to her OB-GYN to see if something's wrong down there. . . . .Some of the luckier girls can lose their virginity with little or no pain, usually because she's injured her hymen at a younger age, or the hymen itself is pliable or thin.

It is a good idea to let the girl control the pace of insertion. Mothers should teach that to their daughters.

It is extremely rare for there to be "something wrong down there" or for a surgical release of the hymen to be needed.

My daughters and I all lost our hymens to fingers, candles, vegetables and dildos long before we ever slept with a boy, and I suspect that is becoming increaingly common, and no, I didn't give them dildos or cucumbers, they obtained those things on their own from the food store, candle tabletop section of department stores and sex shops.

Definantly a poisition where eye contact is available. I think missionary is good or a variation of that.

I wholeheartedly agree. Being able to see your partner's face and expressions are extremely important especially if intromission is not completely smooth. Besides, if a hymen is present, I would think she would want to share the experience with someone and not be a blind partner.

Switchablesusie,

For me, the suggested procedure is an essential step to reduce the power of the men upon the women: no girl needs a guy in order to demolish the hymen - she may do this with one's own hand.

With her up so she can proceed at her own pace or alternatively th missionary in all its variants and subpositions.