Discussing personal hygiene with teenager.

A couple weeks ago my g/f oldest granddaughter spent the weekend with us. In the shower we have 1 closed bag for douching and 1 open bag for enemas. Hers/ mine. Different nozzles. Her granddaughter took a shower one night before bed. Next morning she asked me what they were for. (g/f was gone to work). The quiets answer I could come up with was, They are for personal hygiene use. You wash your outer body, they are used to wash the inner body. Nothing more said.

This week she will be staying with us all week. She's 18. Not sure on how to answer any questions she might have, If she does. I'm an open type person. G/f is kinda personal on stuff like this. She will give enemas only if I ask. So how/what should I do? Maybe one way is for her to google the info, might be the best. Basically, if she wants to learn the in and outs. Should I offer without any remorse? What to do, if anything?

If it were me, and she asked questions, I would only give truthful answers to all she asked, but only to what she asked. Wouldn't carry the answers any further than what she was asking answers to.

I don't think I would go too far into enemas as a sexual or fetish thing even if you are open about things.

If she has a sexual interest in it, she will figure that out for herself. You don't want her parents-your children or inlaws- getting upset.

You already told her, end of discussion.

...Basically, if she wants to learn the in and outs. Should I offer without any remorse? What to do, if anything?

No piks56, you should not offer or even respond to a request, with your granddaughter. She may be of age, she may be willing and you both may have no sexual motive, but you leave yourself open to an accusation of incestuous behaviour, particularly from the girls parents if they find out and don't approve.

Your gf may be willing to help her but from what you say she is keen on her privacy.

I agree that this is a sticky issue because of other relationships, and the incest taboo.

I've met a young woman online, however, who would disagree strongly with the advice given here. She says she is very thankful that she had a nice introduction to enemas & non-penetrative sex from extended family members (including males) whom she loves & trusts, so that now she knows what sex & orgasms should feel like with her boyfriend (with whom she now has sexual intercourse).

If this can work at all, it has to be something SHE wants; otherwise it borders on coercion due to the relationship. And even then, the gf may be outraged & leave you.

Excellent solution, I think. The fact that is your girlfriend's grandchild means that grandma should be handling the questions, not you. At least, that's what I would want if one of my grandkids have questions along those lines.

Sorry, I missed the fact that it is the gf's granddaughter and not piks56 granddaughter.

Therefore the question of incest does not of course arise - but I still think it would be very unwise of piks56 to have a hand in it - so to speak!

I would just answer whatever she asks and leave it at that.

Pike56, I don't care how "personal" your G/F is about this issue, she must be involoved; for your own safety as well as a feminine viewpoint and understanding of this issue.

You cannot put youself in a "safe" positon with your g/f's granddaughter, you will always be at risk of accusations of some sort of sexual misconduct. Always have your g/f with you when around this young lady, ALWAYS! And let your g/f take the lead in disucssing your "personal hygiene" supplies with this young lady.

If I were you Pike56, I wouldn't touch this with a ten foot pole. Let your GF take care of it since it's her relative and since she is a woman. After that, I'm sure the young girl will be able to make her own decisions about the info given to her. I do find it odd though that an 18 yr. old woman doesn't know what a douche bag is for even if she never used one.

Be careful not to have this create a wedge between you and your GF.