New to this... Did I do it right?

Just had my very first enema ever and I'm wondering if I did it correctly. I purchased an enema kit with a hanging open bag, a long tube and two plastic nozzles. I didn't realize this at the time but I now know it's a very cheap kit (purchased at an adult toy store). I proceeded to fill the bag up with warm water and a teaspoon of table salt, lubricated the larger nozzle (douche), got in the chest/knee position and inserted it. I opened the valve and the union from the nozzle to the opening/closing plastic valve started leaking somewhat but I figured it would be alright since I couldn't possibly take in all 2 quarts that the bag is supposed to hold. I felt the warm water go inside me for a bit, but after a while I didn't feel anything - no cramps, no bloating, no gut expansion, nothing. I checked the bag, and to my surprise, it was empty! I had a slight urge to expel but nothing I couldn't hold. I figured the leak was bigger than I thought, so I used a graduated plug while I refilled the bag. I added no salt this time. I held the plug for a few minutes and then reinserted the nozzle. As it began to empty (and leak) I did feel a sensation of fullness but nothing out of this world. I felt no cramps or an urgency to expel, as I thought I would have. I also felt no pleasure as I had apparently mistakenly thought I would. I have been reading stories and different forums for days on end, all turning me on and giving me several great orgasms. But the enema didn't. I took two bagfuls (minus the leaks, no way to tell amount) and expelled after holding it for around 10 minutes, but I felt no sexual arousal whatsoever. Am I doing something wrong? I was SO looking forward to this experience and feel a little disappointed. Is it that I got a leaky cheap kit? Or is it that the arousal will come in time (no pun intended)? Although this first time I was flying solo, my husband is fully on board with this and we had planned to make it part of our sex lives and use it not only as foreplay, but also to prepare me to have anal sex, something which I'm not experienced in either. Please help?? Tell me this will get better...

P.S. If this should be posted in another forum, please feel free to move it. I just need help, doesn't matter from where.

I'm not trying to dissuade you in any way, but not everyone finds enemas erotic. I find them very erotic to give, but I'd rather not receive. I've tried every which way to Sunday and I have yet to "get" the erotic enema.

First, you might want to invest in a better setup. Nothing is worse than worrying about when that connection between tube and bag is going to give way and cause a flood second only to the opening of the Hoover Dam. It sounds like your solution was right on the money for a novice, but you say that you were playing solo. Maybe solo isn't the way for you to fly. If your husband is on board, then you have the perfect situation. Make it romantic, soft lights, etc. Have him help you get all hot and bothered, then try the enema again with him continuing to stimulate you. You might be surprised at the result.

Lastly, you could (slowly) start to experiment with some solutions that have physical effects, such as soap, glycerin, etc.

If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.

A few tips;

Keep the nozzel barely in so the side jets go right against the inside of your rectum

Hang the bag HIGH up there

open the clamp all the way

use some soap if you are looking for that campy feeling

make the water about 6-10 degrees (F) hotter than body temperature

OR 6-10 degrees cooler for a different experience

and getting a bag that wont leak and a good partner will help

If you are going to try hotter than body temp invest in a quick read thermometer since temps above 112 can injure you

You can get a better quality enema bag cheap at Walmart. They carry them in the pharmacy section for only $5. I think you might find that having someone (husband should be perfect for you) give to you might be more erotic.

Everybody likes something different so it may take some experimenting. I really enjoy the feeling of a belly-full of warm soapy water and the demand-defer urges to let it all out. Try some Ivory or Dr. Bronner's soap or maybe some glycerine soap if you think you might enjoy that and use very warm, not quite hot, water (again check the temp with a thermometer until you get a feel for the temps). After filling up, I like to lie on my back and massage my sides and lower abdomen which really gets the urges going. Your SO might be happy to help with this part and perhaps massage other areas as well. 😉 Also have him take his time in getting you good and lubricated, inside and out, before inserting the nozzle. If you're interested in anal sex, that will only help things along and should feel good.

One thing I've noticed is that it seems impossible to experience more than one intense sensation at one time so if I engage in, um, erotic massage, the cramping/urgency seems to lessen or go away entirely. Often I'll go back and forth several times alternately experiencing the urges to go and the urges to come. 😄

If there's a particular story or two that really get you hot, you could try enacting it with your husband or alone. The mind is the largest sex organ we have afterall.

I wouldn't recommend it right away, but if you think extreme urgency might be your thing, you could try the infamous Milk & Molasses enema. It's easy to take and impossible to hold once it starts working. I'm pretty sure it was an M&M that first got me hooked on enemas and the feelings of urgency when I was given one as a young child. Be VERY near a toilet however. People's reactions vary, but for me once it kicks in, rather than the usual demand/defer cycle, the demand just gets more and more intense the longer I try to hold it.

Good luck and don't give up on experimenting; anything new takes time to work out.

Hi Freakazoid11. You will get a lot of good advice on this site, listen to the moderators, they have a lot of experience. You may not be ready to shop for supplies on the Internet but if you are the very first thread of the forum will give you enough advice for months of searching.

The only convenient place I know of to get even a reasonably descent bag is at CVS. They have a combinatin syringe with an open top bag in the feminine hygiene section. It is not too expensive and it is fairly durable.

For a while stick with mild solutions, 1tsp salt or baking soda per quart of warm, (105-110F), water is a good place to start. I have read that the new Simply Ivory soap is not as mild as the old original Ivory but have no personal experience with this. Baby shampoo makes a very mild, non-irritating enema that is very cleansing and not very expensive. That might be the next step in your learning. Don't even think about more powerful solutions until you have some experience.

I don't recommend hanging the bag very high until you have a feel for your body. Having your SO hold the bag and adjust the height to give a steady, gentle flow is always a good way to start. Your SO can also hold onto the tube so it does not slide out or wiggle too much.

Please ask people like ladydocisin, Mashie or Big K if you are uusure of how to proceed. They can be busy but they will get back and you can rely on their advise.

I'm not looking to get into recipes just yet. I'm just starting out so I wanted to see how my body would react to a basic enema first.

As far as cramping goes, I wasn't looking forward to them. I was more afraid of them than anything else, especially if they feel anything like menstrual cramps (those are NOT fun for me). But I'm curious. Does the cramping happen in the abdomen as the colon is expanding or in the rectum when trying to expel without exploding?

I've cum from a bad watery bowel movement before, and have always cherished those, so if I can replicate that feeling that would be great!

Freakazoid - You may occasionally experience cramping if the temp of the water is too far from body temp and also if the flow of the water is too fast. Mild cramping occurs in the colon if it does happen and should never be as severe as menstrual cramps.

If you are going to have anal sex, make sure it's at least 3-4 hours after an enema to make sure it is fully expelled otherwise you may encounter a mess. If you want to clean out just the rectal area, use a Bulb (Butt Douche) which only puts water in the lower end of your bottom and not throughout your entire Sigmoid Colon. You can repeat the butt douche several times. But never strain with the douche or enema to get the water out because you will get hemorrhoids. Let it come out when its ready and do not push hard.

Never done this enema thing myself ,but am looking forwarded to trying as so many people enjoy that warm full feeling ,just waiting for the wright time .

It's all fun good and exciting, But don't start doing enemas in less you are ready to create a habit, Or should I say addiction.

All is fun but get in the habit of erotic fun not just needto do it.

Welcome to the Forum Freakazoid! I hope you find this place a stimulating and educational experience. I certainly do. Regarding sexual arousal...Hmmm...I do not get an erection during my enema sessions but I find the whole experience erotic. I find the anal stimulation, the fullness, release and physical sense of well-being to be highly enjoyable. Anal eroticism has many aspects I think. I do not need to have an orgasm, for example, to stimulate the pleasure centers in my mind.

Enjoy your time here. There are some wonderful and sincere folks willing to help.