How did you learn to give a really good enema?

I learn how to give an enema buy watching my aunt and mom giving my younger brother an enema. Ane practice on some willing friends who liked to get enemas.

Just from years of giving to myself and several others. 😉

Growing up, we spent a lot of time at grandmas each summer. Like mom, grandma gave us enemas when needed but she also taught moms two preteen sisters how to care for us. Once they had demonstrated to grandma, they knew what they were doing, she gave them the responsibility of doing our evening bath including enemas and the occasional spanking.

Grandma had a big downstairs bathroom with a large dual head walk-in shower making it convenient for the girls to put us in the shower together. Once we were in, they got in the shower to bathe us and keep order. Because this was the normal routine, both girls got undressed once in the bathroom, just like we did. So, on evenings when grandma told the girls to give us an enema or two before our bath, they were naked just like us.

In the beginning, they gave us enemas laying naked across their bare lap. But as we got older, they had us get in the knee chest position and switched the adult rectal nozzle to a long-curved douche nozzle. It was around that same time, the girls started letting us help give each other enemas because the knee chest position allowed better access. They weren’t that much older than us and were a lot more open minded than mom or grandma. In a lot of respects, they were just as curious as us. We Learned a lot from those two girls about ourselves and how to give enemas. The main thing was being able to communicate while giving or getting enemas. This became very useful after grandma taught us personal hygiene as preteens and enemas became our responsibility. Not liking solo enemas, we started swapping enemas with each other using the knowledge we learned primarily from our two young aunts.

40 years ago I learned from a very skilled nurse how to give myself cleansing enemas, and since then I’ve learned from experience that giving “a really good enema” takes know-how and patience of the giver and acceptance of the receiver.

I remember the first time giving an enema to my husband. He was reluctant and anxious, and he was telling me to stop with every little cramp. His mom had never given him an enema, so I was patient for him to get used to the feelings.

After I got him to relax and accept what I was doing, he listened to my instructions. The hugs that he gave me afterwards were a good sign that the enema worked just like I had intended.

I have worked in the doctors office and so often heard patients complaining of bowel problems.

Many patients would just say "I feel constipated".

Then I worked in the hospital and before many, many surgeries doctors ordered "enemas" and when you saw.

So would get the enema bag Knock on the door and greet the patient and say "your doctor has ordered for you to have enemas till you are cleaned out". Many responses not friendly but when it has to be done it is done.

Then I was giving colonics and all those patients were there because they wanted to be cleaned out.

So experience is the best teacher. And as a few have said you need to give all your attention to the one receiving the enemas. The body language, what they may or may not say all helps to learn to how to give a good enema.

And I am a big believer in communication especially when giving enemas and or spankings. The spankings and enemas were more common in the 50's and 60's and into the 70's but since then things are not as common as they once were.

So much depends on the person needing, wanting and asking for assistance with receiving enemas.

I think you learn like you live moms enemas where just a bag enema with lots of stop and starting the flow where my aunt was into volume and she really took her time .My grandmother was always a series.all of them coached you to take it and had there own ways to accomplish the task. They all had good helpful hints to take the enemas.

I have been chronically constipated all of my life. I don’t remember a time without being given enemas. I learned the sensuous side of giving a really good enema from my late husband….he had wonderful techniques! I had many, many orgasms (and unplanned accidents). They were very loving but no-nonsense and quite effective with soap suppositories and large volumes of enema containing various solutions. Mostly Ivory soap, like my Mom always gave me.

And, of course from my Mom…..she taught me how both wonderful and painful enemas could be, using so much hot soap water to make my stomach hurt and bowels gush by twisting the douche nozzle deep in my rectum and making me hold it.

My cousin mentioned to me just a couple of days ago, that that she used to rub her rectum alot as a little girl, using my Aunt’s large jar of Noxema cold cream. She said my Uncle (her Dad) rubbed her rectum and anus with it before administrating enemas and soap sticks.

My Mom had my Uncle James occasionally give her enemas because he was a Medic in the Navy and he was considered to be the most experienced enema giver in the family besides my maternal Grandma. Mom would remove her panties first, then walked bare-butt into their small bathroom, exposing everything. This was in the 1950’s era. (Every now and then, you could hear him loudly say “HOLD IT”!!!). Mom would carry on (fussing) and get loud. “Oh (expletive!!!) Take it out!!! I can’t hold it any more!! Ooohhhhh!!!! (More expletives, loud and heard all through their little house.) And sometimes, “ohhh James! I like that”! Mom always said he gave her the BEST ENEMAS she ever had.

I just remembered something …..my Uncle had an old hand massager that had elastic straps on it. It buzzed loud. He ALWAYS took that vibrator into the bathroom with him every time he was giving someone an enema. Was he touching their pussy to calm them or try to give them an orgasm? My cousin said she heard the massager going when he when using it on it on his Sister, Lainey when he gave her enemas.(it definitely would add benefits and cooperation of the patient!). I’ll have to try and find a close replica of that hand massager.

Though giving oral to a girl massaging and fingering her my ex always told me i like the insertions but not the water dummy me never caught on at that time, I had to peice it together She would always be alone goint to expell in lies the mistake because they get to reflect on the negatives if I can figure a way to eliminate those got it cold then. My wife never masturbated during expultions, greatly missed opportunity because of the presence of the solution higher sensitivities so instead of putting a small vibrator oon her clit or more personally using 2 of my fingers to make her squirm she wouldn't have even noticed expelling or the next peice of the puzzle put a finger in her anus made her hold it until she was ready from the masturbation the "cum and go" protocol would have started long time ago they're are 2 versions of that as well the afore mentioned and the kneeling on an ottoman by the tub or the bed 8" of a rectal tube inserted the bag in front of her so she can see it a flow meter so she can hear it a nice hard 7" cock in her pussy then when she enema potty's do her clit until she squirms finger to make her hold it then get the 2 bag 2 vaginal pipe silky warm water pussy enema vibrator taped to the tubing take her back to the bed and give her the cock train till she says "TIMEOUT" PLAY NICE KIDS

I learned from my mother, my mother-in-law, and a nurse I hired to help prep for a colonoscopy. I also read every mention of an enema in instruction and home nursing references.

What I remember from my mother is always use lots of Vaseline, and Ivory soap, hold as much enema as you can, and never quit expelling early, just sit there for a while. Also, a small enema may start a large bowel movement.

My mother-in-law who was a head nurse taught me how to insert the nozzle effortlessly without any discomfort. You touch the outside of the anus, and leave the nozzle touching until the anus relaxes. The you insert the nozzle and start the enema immediately, stopping for cramps and regulating the pressure for more comfort as the enema is administered.

The nurse who was administering pre-colonoscopy cleansing enemas taught me that you take time to insert the nozzle by lubricating the anus first, and only give about a cup of enema solution then stop. The first cup of enema fluid stimulates a feeling of having to go, and if you stop, the feeling will go away asking the patient when it does, then you proceed and things will go more smoothly.

I combine all of these technics in self administration, they work.

Since I’ve never had an enemate and never got enemas from mom I’ve had 50+ years to practice😉And I think I’ve gotten really good at it🤪😈😍

I learned the basics, like why and how, from my mother. Once I was maybe eight or nine, old enough to understand why I was getting an enema, she explained the process including how to burp the bulb so you don't have air in it and that the enema doesn't have to be big if you hold it a few minutes before letting it out. I guess that is why I liked them. Once I was about twelve and she caught me giving myself an enema, I was on my own, and began experimenting with quantity, positions, and frequency with and without masturbation to find what I really liked. And then it was just practice, practice, until I became the enema enthusiast that I am today. It's been a fun journey.

For me, patient response during the enema and viewing the enema output. My enema rules are that the bathroom door remains open and the toilet won't be flushed by the patient. If you're planning to give several enemas of different liquids, it helps to view the output and gauge what the next fluid and amount should be. Initially of course there should be plenty of solids with a SSE, but i sometimes give a double SSE to make sure the heavy solids are out if the bowel sound is very gurgling during the first enema. Afterwards, salt water enemas should begin showing out put less coarse and more brown water. Changing to plain tap water yields light brown to yellow and eventually after the 6th enema, clear water with some minor specs. THAT'S a good enema series. However most of my play patients are OK with not flushing.

The reason to keep the door open is so I can hear if there's distress. I had a play patient almost pass out on me because he strained too much so I decided safety before modesty.

Learned by experimenting on anyone that would give or take one..of course listening at home started me on that direction, also I had a few very experienced mentors, mostly women but also a few guys. I informed myself, read on the subject anytime I found something and most of all by not being shy about it, asking my partners how they felt, making a taboo become a pleasant routine..

Practice makes pervert as we say.

Reading, learning, studying with people older and more skilled, and hands-on experiences.

Very simple:

learning by doing

It's been so many years and it's really sort of hard to break it down. But I will say that I gave most of my own enemas and experimented to give myself the most pleasure, starting when I was about 10. I had several friends in the neighborhood that would play at inserting enema nozzles. meanwhile, I kept experimenting on myself until I finally had a girlfriend in college that participated. I've had several more girlfriends, some were enthusiastic. In addition, I went for a number of colonics.

I guess that collective experience was what I've learned. And, although most of it is self administered, I have given enough enemies with favorable response to think that I'm at least passable at it.

The most important thing is something I've said here here before. Many of us are ashamed of our proclivities in both enemas and spankings. I strongly urge you to do whatever it's going to take to get past that. Many therapist would help you and I believe shame, cripple our ability to enjoy them.