Wanting it is the key

I am told that anal will be no good for the recipient if they do not want it.

Yes, it is tight - but with proper lubrication and foreplay, it works --- if the recipient wants it.

As in . . .

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She was really enjoying that, only wish it could've been me behind her........ 😜

Notforme, you're right. You won't enjoy it if you don't want to or believe you won't. You'll be tense and your anus will naturally fight the penetration. You'll be convinced that it will hurt and it will.

If you approach anal sex with an open mind, wanting to enjoy it, relaxing your anus, then you have taken a giant step towards a pleasurable first experience. It also requires patience and gentleness on the part of both participants and lots of lube. For me, an enema is a required prelude for two reasons. It helps relieve the possible bloated feeling the recipient can sometimes feel and it makes for a cleaner experience, therefore a more enjoyable one.

Is it possible to convince one to want it?

I wish I had the answer to that one. I think it's harder to convince them to even try something new as opposed to getting them to want or enjoy it. Convincing them that they just might enjoy it instead of making it something they're willing to endure just to shut you up is a high hurdle. Once you've you cleared that one it's up to you to be as patient and gentle as needed. Proceed with caution and hope for the best. A little wine and good lube are useful accessories.

I've tried it with past partners at their request-I found that even with an open mind it hurt! They probably didn't go about it the right way-but it doesn't make me want to try it again. However I have been interested-but I know my girlfriend would not be into it.

I want it, I'm just afraid of the pain. But I want it SO bad! I've purchased a but plug to try and stretch me in order for it to hopefully feel better. I also tried an enema for the first time today, just to get used to those also.

NotForMee,

You are correct, a person has to want/desire it in order for it to be enjoyable & good. If the desire/want and other very important factors are not present, then it won't be optimal, no matter what.....

G.N.

FreakAzoid11,

You write quite correctly: "I've purchased a but plug to try and stretch me in order for it to hopefully feel better." From my point of view it is the most important preparation for a good anal sex to stretch the anus systematically by inserting a well shaped butt plug, this regularly; a butt plug with a maximum diameter of 1 3/4 " will be sufficient.

As a gay man who learned from topping a power bottom, the trick, as posted, is to want that _ in and up your_. That signals the lower muscles to relax.

First tried anal when I was 17 but I'd been experimenting with candles and olive oil since I was a teen.think yes that wanting it needing is the key.since my first male lover was an older black man then hehe took it slowly with me and oh I was sore in morning but it was a nice sore as he was gentle but with big cock.aw sweet memories as it was a romantic occasion as he'd bought me a pink babydoll and perfume and I came in my thong panties as he came inside me.