How do I get my husband involved as a patient?

Okay so my hubby knows of my fetish and has went as far as to build me a table equipped with stirrups (leg and feet) But he hardly ever gets it out. I would also like to examine him but he will have no part of it. I would so love to stimulate his prostate but he says, "i'm not gay." He is so misssing out!!!!! Any suggestions????

I think The Joy of Sex might have some good advice about this. Most guys like some sort of anal stimulation, but it's different for everyone, so maybe just starting with a light touch on his anus while you're sucking him could be a start. With the med stuff specifically, if there's a way to maybe incorporate some fantasy he has, that could get him going....

Two points:

First has he ever be to a doctor and gotten a complete physical? For years I dreaded the idea that one day I would have to go to the doctor and finally bend over for a prostate exam. Finally I went to the doctor (a female doctor) and ended up getting a prostate exam and in just one minute I went from dreading the experience to looking forward to my yearly physicals. (If he already has a male doctor tell him to switch to a female doctor.)

Secondly, perhaps ask him what his ultimate fantasy is and perhaps you could work on incorporating or blending his ideas with yours. As long as you are both willing to talk about it the doors of opportunity are still be opened.

That's a stumper, prostate stimulation has nothing to do with being gay, bi or straight. It seems to me he may be having a little problem addressing his feelings for the same sex and may think he may enjoy it too much! I think he needs to come to terms with his fear. I comend you for trying to share your pleasure with him and am disapointed he doesn't understand your needs. I believe we as a society are far to judgemental and closed to new ideas and sexual desires. As a consequence, we keep our desires and needs close to the vest and don't share them with the people most close to us. We are much more likely to share in a safe environment like this where we can share our needs and desires without the fear (for the most part) of a judgemental few, that quite honestly have there own fetishes.

I wish you the best of luck!

Tommy

Prostate massage is great check out this link for an explaination on how to do it.

http://datingsense.com/erotic_prostate_massage.htm

Check out his prostate in bed one night or morning, he'll never look back, Mmmmm OOOOhhhhhh

During intercourse, slip a well lubricated finger in his bottom during climax.

Jgthomasmd you have a good point there. My husband has slipped a finger into my anus several times during intercourse, and the result has been amazing. I thought I would return the favour, and when I did, it really surprised him. It did highten his orgasm, but he was very shy to admit that he enjoyed it.

Use gynecolocila posiziton on your bed using some pills.

good luck

My husband says the same. He thinks that if I try to stimulate his prostate that would make him feel gay.

Keep trying in a good way. Dont nag,,,,,do it as paly.

Hope u have good luck.

mark54

It took me a while to let my gf try the prostate thing... i felt the same way until finally let her... There's this big deal about men and things going in their anus... we're taught that it's "gay" etc.. by society.. oh well... I know for a fact that I'm not, I love women way too much.. =) and, after a few minutes of her finger inside me back there, i got adjusted to it. she's still the only woman to do it to me, but I've since let go of that gay feeling thought... it's not a penis, nor is it another man... it's your gf/wife, and her finger ---- now, if she whipped out a strap on and wanted to show me what it felt like getting anal sex.. yeah. no. that would bother me! =)

the other part was fairness... how can i expect her to let me have anal sex, put toys in there, and fingers in there.. if I'm not at least willing to let her do a finger or two.

Good point. I like you reply.

I enjoyed your reply as well jbrauer28. I think you made a great point, and explained it very well. 😉

I would start with a rectal temp on him and see how he gets along with that

I'm a married man who by no stretch of the imagination is gay. I do not like nor am or ever have been attracted to men. However, I love anal play, anal penetration with dildos, exams, giving and receiving anything anal. My wife has an idea and tolerates my lifestyle somewhat, as she turns a blind eye to it. However I would love to get her more involved. How do I do this?

My husband and I tried the prostate exam once, but I just couldn't do it. He had no problem doing a rectam exam on me 😃

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I'm a married man . . . love anal play, anal penetration with dildos, exams, giving and receiving anything anal. My wife has an idea and tolerates my lifestyle somewhat, as she turns a blind eye to it. However I would love to get her more involved. How do I do this?

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There's only one way. Ask her to stimulate you anally. After she starts to become more comfortable "in your ass" 😁 😁 try to stimulate her anally, starting slowly and without penetration at first, and see how she responds. It may help if you let her know that this type of play is important to you.

Wish I could get my wife to be more active with my prostate. She has tried a few times and that was that. She really had no interest in it.

My wife has tried to massage my prostate once internally, amazing experience but hasn't been repeated yet. I enjoy her masturbating me and rubbing that area externally.

My husband love my finger in his ass during sex and it makes him cum more.

Prostate rubbing internal and external can be great, wife often gives me an external rub.

The best thing you can do is start of small like wear a nice sexy nurse outfit one night and get him to be your patient. After that you can gradually progress it and introduce him to being submissive and then not before long he'll be all yours.