Mixing Age play with BDSM

My wife and I find mixing the age play lifestyle with BDSM/Ms compliment each other perfectly. My wife is a nurse and a switch and there will be times that I will let her do medical scenes on others. Thats the great thing about BDSM. It mixes will with everything.

I didnt write this but got permission to post this. I think its perfect.

Daddy Doms A babygirl's view by Kendra

I mentioned the term Daddy Dom in a chat room the other day and was greeted by a resounding Yuk! It got me thinking about the misconceptions surrounding this aspect of D/s. I realize most think that it involves a father/daughter relationship. That isn't quite true, Daddy/little girl is a much different level. I do not know if I can explain what I mean so I will simply talk about what a Daddy Dom is to me.

First I should say that in my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy s) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman. He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals.

So..what makes a Daddy Dom? First and foremost he loves his little girl. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him.

Seeing her hurt however is not something a Daddy Dom wants. He sees it as his job to protect her, both from the outside world and herself. He may love to cause her great pain in a scene, but he hates to be the one to hurt her emotionally. It hurts him to have to punish her , but he knows it is sometimes necessary. This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.

A Daddy Dom knows the value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the best of him. He knows that in order for his little girl to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. He knows this hurts her, and that tears at his heart, but he also knows it is for her own good.

A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive..acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn't matter. To him she is beautiful.

Many of you may be asking what separates a Daddy Dom from any other Dom. In most cases very little. Hopefully they all provide love, strength, protection, discipline, and acceptance. I have heard Daddy Doms described as a kinder, gentler, Dom. I like that definition though I know it won't apply to all. I guess when it really comes down to it I can't explain it. There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

I agree that almost any other fetish can mix with BDSM. I know most Dom/sub relationships incorporate enemas especially. I don't like them, but my Dom does so they are part of our agreement.

I agree with DaddyShdw both styles can be used for interplay. Switching is a wonderful thing allowing the desires of both to be fully completed.

Thank you for posting that letter. This is something I have been searching for as well as I have both a little girl and a submissive in me and the two seem to fit perfectly together. I did have one ex, who was a "daddy dom", and he is the one who had taught me about my little girl side as before that I was purely submissive. It is funny how after that one experience I now see myself as more little girl then submissive most days. I'm glad to see there are others who feel the same way.

I'm pretty sure I'm submissive but I like daddies more than doms because they are nicer. But I like all of this stuff to I think 😃

I am a sub - but a bratty sub...

I think Age play and BDSM can go hand in hand pretty well, but ultimately it is down to what the people playing want!

When we think of BDSM ,w e usually think of the physical aspects of it such as restraining , spanking/caning , nipple clamping , maybe an enema or two (or three or four) , and the list goes on. By mixing age play , you bring a different dynamic into play. That new dynamic adds a psychological twist. From two kinksters engaging in a spanking session , you now might have a daddy spanking his little girl or a mommy spanking her little boy. This is where the mind ratchets it up a notch. For people into this kind of thing, there is added pleasure to the play. Sort of a second act if you will....Go for it all you age players!!!!!!!!!

The comparison between Daddy/little girl, and BDSM, vary easily for my lover and I. The fore-mentioned are utilized on our emotions, personal physical and emotional needs, etc; I prefer to be romantic and caring (the Daddy), yet when the time, as well as she (my sub), is right, we will follow with some BDSM play. She and I are both in separate yet serious relationships, so much of our time has to do with discussing how to further our relationship; during those times, I become a Daddy to my soft-hearted little girl. Moments of passion, well, my little girl is a woman of whom allows me to control her much differently. I suggest a mix of the Daddy/little girl relationship with BDSM, yet not at the same time! My little girl shall always need love and soft affections; discipiline, maintanence, etc are for our respective developments. BDSM is a more of a consensual game between persons in search of a new type of ecstasy. Enjoy your times, carefully!

Age regression and adult baby play as I understand it to be doesn't appeal to me. I have talked about it with friends and respect their needs but as yet, the diaper scene, baby/toddler scene, baby talk or brat behavior isn't my thing.

However, when I'm feeling submissive and being punished by my Dominant lover, I sometimes go into little girl mode. It probably surprises him when my moans of pleasure turn from, "Oh, God, yes!" to "Oh, Daddy!" without warning though he switches into the role seemlessly. He cares for me deeply and takes the role seriously.

I will always be seeking my real Daddy's love, acceptance and approval. He has always been distant even when we're in the same room. He's not good at dealing with emotions; his own or others. He's seen them as a sign of weakness. The only emotion he doesn't mind showing is anger. Maybe it's a generational thing to always be a tough guy.

It seems that the only time I can conjure up the little girl in me in when I'm in a vulnerable state brought on by BDSM play. It's the only time I don't have to be the intelligent, I've-got-it-all-together confident woman and allow myself to openly feel and show emotions. And maybe someday cry, and heal from slights, aches and traumas past. It feels like the only thing that may make me whole one day.

This confuses me. Sometimes I want a Dom but I also want to call him daddy. I want someone stern and controlling but also sweet and loving. Reading about the 'humiliation' aspect of diapering turns me on but I'm not sure if I would like wearing them?

This is one the reasons I'm here, finding like minded people and some guide.

Hey there,

Are there any ABDL-inclined contracts around that define the sub-girl daddy-dom situation? My girlfriend is very into being a BDSM sub and has over the past few years started nurturing a heavy interest in ABDL-related activities, everything included from such little things as wearing pacifiers to forced humiliation in case of "bad behaviour" in the form of castor oil or suppository punishments?

However, we would like to explore the idea of a contract, and not some 50-shades of bullshit-type thing, that we can utilize when "playing". Does anyone have such ideas?

Regards,

abdllom

When I'm in a lot of emotional pain and feeling really vulnerable, I always want a Daddy to protect me. I've never told anyone in real life, though, because I know how it's viewed.

I would not want 24 7 but would like the pain of being controlled with pain

Age play had never even crossed my mind. I started reading up about it and it seemed exciting. I then dated someone who was dominant in the bedroom and would call me “baby girl”. One day it just happened and I called him “Daddy”. I was never a little with him, perhaps a late teen if I really had to find an age. Discipline featured in our dynamic and being told what Daddy wanted or what Daddy was going to do to me made me so happily submissive.

I love age play where my husband is the daddy dom an I the little girl.

Some people like the transgression of having sex or a love affair with someone who is in a childish mindset. That’s not the case for me though. I’m a woman who is simply a rather childish person. My sexuality often expresses itself as wanting to sit in my lover’s lap, fondle his hair, or kiss his forehead and a bare bottom spanking . I tell him he is wonderful and adorable. Our love for each other feels unconditional.

It's about the care and protection offered by the Daddy Dom role, providing a sense of safety that many find comforting. This dynamic also allows the so-called "little" to step away from adult pressures, embracing a more carefree, childlike side.

The clear power exchange is another draw. It's not everyone's cup of tea, but for those who enjoy these roles, the Daddy Dom's control contrasted with the little's submission can be both exciting and fulfilling. This can also extend into the bedroom, adding a layer of sexual excitement.

I have many role play with “Daddy” it always ends with a bare bottom spanking, sometimes diapers and aftercare. Not forgetting the great sex we have.

@Jane_Woo I know exactly what you mean, honey.

My husband confessed to me a while ago that he'd like me to treat him as my little/baby girl. At first I was so shocked, but after talking about it, and giving it a go, we now both really enjoy it.

I had never thought of myself as the dominant type, but I now love taking over my lap and spanking his bottom.

One of my patients in particular enjoys age play (she's a 'middle') and medical fetish mixed with BDSM. We've played out several scenarios, and some repeatedly: "Kidnapping" (CnC) / 'evil doctor' play, school/sports physicals and punishment exams, her Daddy Dom bringing her to see me for a corrective procedure, etc. It can be a lot of fun with the right partner & mix of kinks.

Unfortunately I can't do ageplay in the typical sense without some form of bdsm or punishment. Soley soft ageplay doesn't do anything for me.

Don't get me wrong, care, attentiveness, and cuteness are important. They help shape the humiliation side as well.