Fisting Play With Long Term Medical Complications

I know this is a very demand fetish...how do you folks prevent serious injury that requires a trip to ER!

Go very slowly whether you are doing anal or vaginal fisting.

The ability to be fisted can take months or years to fully accept a hand to the wrist and beyond.

Use LOTS of lube. Even if you can accept the hand, friction from insufficient or poor quality lube can result in abrasion or tearing of the skin resulting in bleeding. This goes for anal and vaginal fisting

Communicate with each other.

I have done quite a bit of fisting. I have found that IF a girl's had children, it's mostly possible, with care. The woman's vagina grows when she's pregnant, and the baby's head stretches it further. If a girl's not had children, that's another issue completely. When a woman enjoys it, the experience is apparently (I'm the fistER, not the fistEE) almost beyond description. As Susie says, LUBE!!! Go slowly!! Very slowly. Communicate. And don't force

things. The purpose is submission and pleasure, not harm. Obviously, there's going to be some pain as the body accommodates a much larger object than it's used to, but serious pain is not acceptable. The fistEE must be able to relax, and not panic, and real sexual arousal helps here. A LOT.

I am here discussing vaginal fisting ONLY. Anorectal insertions of really large objects may be possible, but I am not persuaded that it can be done safely. Better to limit anal play to smaller things, I think. The anus and rectum should not be stretched to the point of "no return."

I have been uniformly unsuccessful with women who've not had children. I know I said that, but it bears repeating. I have not tried "over time," in the sense that one might practice at some length.

To the best of my knowledge, I have never harmed a partner in any way, but I am VERY careful.

What are suggestions for best lubes and gloves?

Best lubes IMHO are J-Lube and silicone oil (Pjur).

I am fisted anally on a regular basis, and although depth is not my goal, my partner has fisted me on more than one occasion to halfway up the upper arm.

Fisting has to be learnt. From the first experiments with larger dildos to a fist took several months and from the first fisting to my first fisting orgasm took about 9 months.

The most important thing is to make sure that nails are filed smooth and that the fister is not wearing jewellery.

Don't rush the fisting. Intimacy, atmosphere and relaxation are key.

We typically use extended cuff exam gloves and good ol KY. I don't really have a preference of nitrile or latex but do enjoy seeing the wife in colored gloves which - to the best of my knowledge - are only available in nitrile. I sure do wish they had extended cuff black latex gloves.

One thing no one has mentioned is the need to practice ON YOUR OWN FIRST!!!! Partners add pressure to "over-do it" no matter how quiet and supportive they are....As you explore more anal play, you 'll realize that your ass will only relax and open up when your brain is in tune with it. Now let's say you can take a 2 inch wide buttplug comfortably and pleasurably.... Should your partner be there to witness this and take part in your anal adventures YES!! MOST DEFINITELY!!

But let's say you are trying to take a 2.25 inch wide butt plug or even a 2.5 inch wide plug for the first time.... Should your partner be there??? I would say NO, NOT AT ALL. This part of your journey takes a lot of focus and requires you to REALLY listen to your body in order to get your ass to do what you're mind is telling it to do and rushing this process can lead to severe damage. Edgeplay should always be done alone and at your own pace.

I remember a few times when the women I've dated would ask to see how wide my ass could go. When I'd try to show them, my ass simply would not co-operate. Kind of like that dancing frog in Looney Tunes.

One thing no one has mentioned is the need to practice ON YOUR OWN FIRST!!!!. . . .

I completely agree and have always said that when you try something new, even if you plan to do it to someone else, do it to yourself first so you know what it feels like.

Fisting is a process not an event. Go slow and communication is key!!

Echoing what others have said: as long as you take your time, listen to your body, and be gentle with plenty of lube, your ass can be stretched to amazing degrees without any harm.

Accept the fact that what you did previously may not happen today. Every day is different and what has come easily before, just may not happen today. So have fun with what's possible today, don't force it and don't hurt yourself or your partner. And try again tomorrow.

Practice practice practice

If you have to make a trip to the ER, YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG! Always remember that it is a person, real flesh and blood. Correct angle! Stimulate, lots of lube, Slow, careful, lube, read up about it. I like the comment "it is a process not an event". It could take months and months to actually happen. If it ever happens fully. Enjoy the process.

Only half of this statement is true:

Obviously, there's going to be some pain as the body accommodates a much larger object than it's used to, but serious pain is not acceptable.

I agree that "serious pain is not acceptable." However, fisting does not require a person to "accommodate a much larger object" than they are used to. Anyone who attempts fisting, whether anally or vaginally, should begin with practice on a regular basis with a dildo or plug around 1.5" in diameter. When that slides in easily, move on to a dildo or plug of 1.75" diameter and practice with that on a regular basis until you can comfortably fit a toy of 2" diameter. Then continue this process of periodically increasing diameters by no more than 0.25" until you reach a diameter that approximates that of a fist. Always use plenty of quality lube when practicing as well as when fisting. As Owen said, it helps to practice on your own. Then when the time comes to be fisted, you are already used to opening up wide enough for it. This is why, as Susie mentioned, it can take months or years to prepare for fisting.

Never try to fist someone whom you randomly met on your very first session together. Of course, if the person has experience taking large insertions, it's a different matter. Otherwise, always build up to the even over a few days. That will take away a lot of the pain and will also make the subject feel a lot more relaxed. It's all about judging the physical and mental response that the receiver is giving to her/his holes being opened up.

Master2obey - It takes a darn sight more than a few days.....Here amongst numerous forum posts you will find the information as how to best achieve anal dilation that permits hand penetration....Perhaps start with Switchablesusies first class detailed explanation.

That Australian,

That's one of many reasons why we members who have been around a long time have discovered the novel idea of reading previous comments before commenting!

I appreciate the feedback folks. But I am talking from experience and a "few days" was just a figure of speech. I did not ask anyone to get a room for a couple of days and only check out after an entire arm has been successfully inserted.

Just read the comment I left right before your first comment. It was #14. It provides the details on how a person gets ready to be fisted.

I suffered some damage the first time my husband fisted me.

We were intoxicated, which was the first mistake (bc I couldn't really feel the amount of pain,) and we didn't use enough lube, second mistake, and thirdly, he became a bit too vigorous in his excitement.

I had an internal tear over my bartholin gland (the gland that provides lubrication to the vagina, one is positioned on either side vagina on the anterior side, near the opening,) that resulted in a hematoma inside of the gland ?. It grew and grew and I had to have it lanced (EEEEEK!) and a small drain put in it.

Everything is in working order now, but maaaaan, that was THE WORST